{"id":10402,"date":"2022-04-07T16:17:37","date_gmt":"2022-04-07T20:17:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/?p=10402"},"modified":"2025-02-25T12:05:16","modified_gmt":"2025-02-25T17:05:16","slug":"kris-corner-disney-like-experiences","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/sw\/resources\/news-library\/kris-corner-disney-like-experiences\/","title":{"rendered":"Kris&#039; Corner - Uzoefu kama Disney"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Katika chapisho langu la mwisho, niliwahimiza wazazi walezi kuwa waelewa na wavumilivu kadri mtoto anavyozoea mazingira yao mapya; kwa sababu watakuwa wazi kwa aina mbalimbali za uzoefu mpya.<\/p>\n<p>Lakini leo, nataka kuzungumzia jambo lingine (ingawa si la kawaida) katika masuala ya uzoefu na watoto wanaokuja katika malezi\u2026na hilo ndilo jaribu la kuwapa &quot;Matukio Kama ya Disney.&quot;<\/p>\n<p>Namaanisha nini hapo? Naam, ni wazo kwamba mtoto huyu \u201camekosa vitu vingi sana kutokana na kiwewe na mtindo wa maisha, hivi kwamba nataka niwasaidie kwa kuwapa vitu vyote ambavyo hawajapata; na\/au kuwapeleka kufanya mambo yote ya kufurahisha na ya ajabu ambayo wamekosa\u2026na zaidi!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Inajumuisha mambo yote ya kufurahisha, mapya, na ya kusisimua. Huenda ikawa ni kuwanunulia simu ya hivi punde zaidi au viatu vya bei ghali. Huenda ikawa ni kutembelea mikahawa ya kufurahisha au tofauti. Huenda ikawa ni kutazama vipindi au filamu fulani (au kwenda kwenye sinema). Huenda ikawa ni kuchukua safari ya kwenda kwenye bustani ya burudani au likizo kubwa ya kifahari. Huenda ikawa inafurahia shughuli za familia za kufurahisha kila wikendi moja. Inaweza kuwa vitu vingi tofauti.<\/p>\n<p>Sasa kwanini mlezi afanye mambo ya aina hii? Naam, uelewa wangu ni kwamba aina hii ya itikio kwa mzazi wa kambo hutokana na hisia ya hatia anayohisi kwamba mtoto amekuwa na uzoefu wa maisha mgumu (na kawaida chungu) hadi wakati huu. Na kwa juu juu, haionekani kuwa mbaya sana kwa mlezi &quot;kurekebisha&quot; kwa mtoto aliyekosa, lakini malezi ya hatia hii mbele sio bora kwa mtoto, kwa sababu kadhaa.<\/p>\n<p>Sababu hizi ni pamoja na, lakini sio mdogo kwa:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>kuchanganyikiwa kuhusu kile ambacho ni\/kinachopaswa kuwa muhimu;<\/li>\n<li>matarajio yasiyo ya kweli;<\/li>\n<li>kutoridhika na wazazi wa kibiolojia wa mtoto (haswa ikiwa wameunganishwa tena);<\/li>\n<li>uhusiano usiofaa kwa makao ya kambo au wazazi, kulingana na mambo yanayoonekana ambayo mtoto anaweza kupokea, au uzoefu anaoweza kuwa nao; na<\/li>\n<li>mtazamo usio sahihi wa jinsi kuwa sehemu ya familia ni kweli.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Na pengine athari kubwa zaidi ni kwamba huongeza pengo lililopo kati ya familia ya kambo na familia ya kibaolojia. Kwa hakika hilo sio lengo au lengo la malezi ya watoto. Lengo ni kawaida kuunganishwa. Kwa hivyo, ikiwa unanunua na kufanya mambo yote ambayo mtoto anataka kila wakati, pia unaleta tofauti kati ya familia hizo mbili, kwa makusudi au bila kukusudia, na hivyo kuongeza mzigo wa kihisia kwa mtoto ambaye tayari amelemewa na mengi. mizigo ya kihisia.<\/p>\n<p>Sasa\u2026Sisemi kwamba huwezi kufanya mambo ya kufurahisha, mazuri, au maalum kwa ajili ya mtoto wa kambo\u2026yanafaa kabisa mambo hayo yote na ndiyo UNAPASWA kuyafanya. Lakini ninachosema ni kwamba hazipaswi kufanywa nje ya lango, kwa sababu zitachanganya na kuzuia uhusiano wako na mtoto. Na itakuwa ngumu kudumisha kwa muda mrefu.<\/p>\n<p>Na tukizungumzia muda mrefu\u2026je, hiyo ndiyo njia unayotaka kweli kuwa mzazi mtoto? Ninamaanisha, hasa, ikiwa kwa sababu fulani, unamaliza kumpa mtoto nyumba ya kudumu, utaendelea kuweka kiwango cha juu cha zawadi za mara kwa mara au za gharama kubwa na burudani ya juu ya nishati? Hapana, labda hutafanya\u2026na hiyo inakuacha wapi wewe na mtoto? Watajisikia kama uliwavuta chambo-na-kuwasha\u2026ukijifanya kuwa kitu kimoja, wakati ulikuwa kitu kingine. Na nina shaka lazima niseme hivi, lakini sio njia nzuri ya kuwa na uhusiano na kushikamana.<\/p>\n<p>Yote ya kusema, hiki ni baadhi tu ya mawazo kabla ya kuingia ndani na kutaka kutoa, kutoa...badala yake kuwa, kuwa, kuwa.<\/p>\n<p>Kwa dhati,<\/p>\n<p>Kris<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In my last post, I encouraged foster parents to be understanding and patient as a child adapts to their new environment; because they will be exposed to a variety of new experiences. 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