{"id":10190,"date":"2020-12-29T15:59:46","date_gmt":"2020-12-29T20:59:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/?p=10190"},"modified":"2025-02-25T12:06:08","modified_gmt":"2025-02-25T17:06:08","slug":"the-most-wonderful-and-dreaded-time-of-the-year","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/sw\/resources\/news-library\/the-most-wonderful-and-dreaded-time-of-the-year\/","title":{"rendered":"WAKATI WA "AJABU" NA WA "KUTISHA" ZAIDI WA MWAKA"},"content":{"rendered":"

Na: Jamise Kafoure; Mshauri<\/p>\n

Mwisho wa kila mwaka bila shaka huashiria "mabadiliko" muhimu katika mazungumzo wakati wa kutoa ushauri nasaha kwa wateja. Mara nyingi mimi husikia hofu, hali ya kutoelewana, huzuni, wasiwasi, woga, na hasira ikionyeshwa ndani ya mazungumzo yetu, kwani hisia hizi zinahusiana moja kwa moja na likizo zijazo. Mada kuu ya majadiliano haya ni "hasara" au "mabadiliko" ya aina fulani.<\/p>\n

Huzuni na hasara inaweza kugonga miguu yetu kutoka chini yetu wakati hatutarajii. Hisia hizi zinaweza kutoka kwa kifo cha mpendwa, mabadiliko ya uhusiano, au hofu kutokana na kupoteza kazi \/ kipato na jinsi ya kuhudumia familia zetu. Hisia hizi pia zinaweza kutoka kwa kutenganishwa kwa wanafamilia wanaoishi mbali, au tu kutokuwa na uwezo wa kukabiliana na vyombo vya habari na hype yote inayozunguka wakati huu wa "furaha". Kwa bahati mbaya, hakuna fomula "ya kawaida" au rahisi ambayo husaidia kudhibiti hisia zao za huzuni na kupoteza.<\/p>\n

"Kumbukumbu" za sikukuu zilizopita zinaweza kuogopesha kwani "ukweli" wa sasa ni mwingi. Kwa hivyo\u2026ni jinsi gani mtu anaweza kukabiliana na vikumbusho vya mara kwa mara kwamba likizo inakaribia haraka wakati ni kawaida tu kujificha chini ya blanketi na kuepuka mwingiliano na wengine?<\/p>\n

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  1. Acha\/Pumua\/Endelea. Chukua siku moja kwa wakati na uwe na subira na wewe mwenyewe. Jaribu kupakua na kutumia programu ya bure kama\u00a0Nafasi ya kichwa\u00a0<\/a>inayofundisha kutafakari.<\/li>\n
  2. Jikumbushe kuwa likizo ina mwanzo, katikati na MWISHO\ud83d\ude0a<\/li>\n
  3. Fanya mazoezi ya uthibitisho chanya na mazungumzo ya kibinafsi. Kwa mfano, sema Sala ya Utulivu kila siku au pakua programu isiyolipishwa\u00a0"Fikiria".<\/a><\/li>\n
  4. Usijihusishe sana na wazo lolote kwa siku fulani. Weka mawazo wazi na matarajio yenye afya kwa msimu wa likizo.<\/li>\n
  5. Jiambie: \u201cNi sawa kuhisi aina mbalimbali za hisia na huenda nisiwe na furaha siku nzima kila siku\u201d.<\/li>\n
  6. Jijulishe na\u00a0Hatua tano za huzuni\/<\/a>Hasara na Dk. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross.<\/li>\n
  7. Wajulishe wapendwa kuwa mwaka "huu" utakuwa "tofauti". Kuwa mbunifu na anza mila mpya.<\/li>\n
  8. Tafuta mahali\/mtu \u201csalama\u201d wa kushiriki naye mawazo na hisia zako.Wasiliana na Familia Kwanza.<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    (Kwa maelezo ya kibinafsi\u2026Ni miaka 32 imepita tangu mama yangu afariki, na kila Sikukuu ya Shukrani (likizo anayopenda zaidi) huleta hisia za hasara na furaha. Ili kumheshimu na kumkumbuka, mimi na ndugu zangu tunaanza sherehe zetu kwa \u201ctoast\u201d ya shingo ya Uturuki. kwake\u2026 tukikumbuka sikukuu tunayopenda\u2026 nikichukua turkey kabla ya chakula cha jioni.)<\/p>\n

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    Mwisho wa kila mwaka bila shaka huashiria "mabadiliko" muhimu katika mazungumzo wakati wa kutoa ushauri nasaha kwa wateja. Mara nyingi mimi husikia hofu, hali ya kutoelewana, huzuni, wasiwasi, woga, na hasira ikionyeshwa ndani ya mazungumzo yetu, kwani hisia hizi zinahusiana moja kwa moja na likizo zijazo. Mada kuu ya majadiliano haya ni "hasara" au "mabadiliko" ya aina fulani.
    \nHuzuni na hasara inaweza kugonga miguu yetu kutoka chini yetu wakati hatutarajii. Hisia hizi zinaweza kutoka kwa kifo cha mpendwa, mabadiliko ya uhusiano, au hofu kutokana na kupoteza kazi \/ kipato na jinsi ya kuhudumia familia zetu. Hisia hizi pia zinaweza kutoka kwa kutenganishwa kwa wanafamilia wanaoishi mbali, au tu kutokuwa na uwezo wa kukabiliana na vyombo vya habari na hype yote inayozunguka wakati huu wa "furaha". Kwa bahati mbaya, hakuna fomula "ya kawaida" au rahisi ambayo husaidia kudhibiti hisia zao za huzuni na kupoteza. <\/p>","protected":false},"author":19,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[18],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-10190","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-mental-health-selfcare"],"yoast_head":"\nTHE MOST \u201cWONDERFUL\u201d AND \u201cDREADED\u201d TIME OF THE YEAR - Firefly Children and Family Alliance<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/sw\/resources\/news-library\/the-most-wonderful-and-dreaded-time-of-the-year\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"THE MOST \u201cWONDERFUL\u201d AND \u201cDREADED\u201d TIME OF THE YEAR - Firefly Children and Family Alliance\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"The end of each year inevitably marks a significant \u201cshift\u201d in conversations when counseling clients. 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