{"id":10044,"date":"2022-02-24T16:22:33","date_gmt":"2022-02-24T16:22:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.childrensbureau.org\/?p=10044"},"modified":"2025-02-25T12:05:30","modified_gmt":"2025-02-25T17:05:30","slug":"kris-corner-grief-in-kids-in-foster-care","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/sw\/resources\/news-library\/kris-corner-grief-in-kids-in-foster-care\/","title":{"rendered":"Kris&#039; Corner - Huzuni kwa Watoto katika Ulezi"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"Body\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Century Gothic',sans-serif;\">Mara nyingi tunapofikiria huzuni katika suala la malezi, tunawafikiria wazazi walezi\u2026na labda hiyo ni kwa sababu ya nafasi tuliyo nayo katika utatu huu (wazazi wa kambo - watoto wa kambo - wazazi wa kibaolojia).<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"Body\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Century Gothic',sans-serif;\">Na ingawa hatupaswi kabisa kupunguza huzuni ambayo familia ya kambo inaweza kuhisi wakati mtoto anaondoka nyumbani kwao (hata kama ni kwa ajili ya kuunganishwa tena kwa afya), huzuni ninayotaka kuzungumza juu ya leo ni ile inayopata mtoto wakati wa kuwekwa mahali.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"Body\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Century Gothic',sans-serif;\">Mtoto anapotunzwa, hii ni tukio la kuhuzunisha\u2026bila kujali hali ambayo waliondolewa. Hali hizo, ingawa ni mbaya na zinaweza kuwa za vurugu na\/au zisizojali, ndizo pekee ambazo wamewahi kujua na kuna faraja katika kujua. Huzuni ni jibu la kawaida na la asili kwa hasara kubwa. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"Body\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Century Gothic',sans-serif;\">Zaidi ya hayo, mtoto anayekuja katika uangalizi mara nyingi yuko katika hali ya kusikitisha, kwa kusema; mwanzoni mwa kesi, hakuna njia ya kujua jinsi kuunganishwa tena na familia ya kibaolojia kutatokea (ikiwa ITATOKEA), na hivyo kwamba hujumuisha wazi wasiwasi na huzuni ambayo mtoto anaweza kuhisi.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"Body\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Century Gothic',sans-serif;\">Kuondolewa katika mazingira hayo uliyozoea ghafla na kuwekwa katika mazingira mapya ni kiwewe. Na hasara hii inaweza kutafsiri kuwa huzuni. Hata ikiwa mazingira mapya ni mazingira yenye furaha, afya, na malezi, mtoto amepata hasara kubwa; angalau, wamepoteza familia zao (uwezekano wazazi na ndugu); nyumba yao (mazingira waliyokuwa wameyafahamu); vitu vyao (mara nyingi mtoto hawezi kuchukua mengi pamoja nao wakati wanaondolewa); na shule\/mwalimu\/wanafunzi wenzao (wakati mwingine, lakini si mara nyingi, mtoto hawezi kuendelea na shule yao ya awali na hivyo lazima waanze katika shule mpya iliyo karibu na nyumba ya kulea). Hakuna hata moja kati ya mambo haya ambayo yanaweza kupotea kwao milele, lakini kwa sasa, jinsi kesi inavyoendelea, haijalishi ni kwa muda gani mtoto anaondolewa kutoka kwa watu hawa na vitu\u2026ni hasara kubwa ambayo inaweza kuhisiwa kwa kina.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"Body\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Century Gothic',sans-serif;\">Kwa hivyo tafadhali sitisha na uzingatie hilo kwa muda\u2026hiyo ni mengi kwa mtu yeyote kushughulikia, lakini haswa kwa mtoto.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"Body\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Century Gothic',sans-serif;\">Hiyo ilisema\u2026wewe, kama mzazi wa kambo, utataka kuingia ndani na kurekebisha mambo\u2026lakini subiri, bado huwezi kufanya hivyo, kwa sababu mtoto hana uhusiano na wewe. Inaeleweka, bado haujapata fursa ya kumwonyesha mtoto kuwa unaweza kuaminiwa na kwa mtoto kuweza kuweka hisa ndani yako. Huzuni, wasiwasi na woga vinaweza kuonekana kama vitu vingi tofauti na vile vilivyo (fikiria &quot;huzuni = wazimu&quot;... hiyo ndiyo ninayofikiria mara nyingi; mtoto ambaye ana huzuni au wasiwasi anaweza kuonekana wazimu wakati hisia za kweli anazohisi. na kutoshughulikiwa kwa usahihi inasikitisha). <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"Body\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Century Gothic',sans-serif;\">Kwa hivyo unawezaje kujenga uhusiano huo na mtoto na kumsaidia kushughulikia hisia zake?<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"Body\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Century Gothic',sans-serif;\">Kwa watoto wachanga, inaweza kuwa ngumu sana kwa sababu hawataelewa kwa nini mazingira yao yamebadilika ghafla na kwa kiasi kikubwa. Wanaweza kuwa wasioweza kufarijiwa au angalau wasio na utulivu. Kwa hivyo ili kuwasaidia, inaweza kumaanisha KUTOOsha kila kitu ambacho kimeingia nyumbani (kwa wazi hii haingekuwa hivyo ikiwa kuna hitilafu, lakini hiyo ni mada ya chapisho lingine); kwamba harufu inayojulikana ya nyumbani inaweza kuwasaidia kukaa katika mazingira mapya, hata ikiwa unaona harufu hiyo isiyopendeza.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"Body\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Century Gothic',sans-serif;\">Kwa watoto wachanga kufikia umri wa shule ya chekechea, watoto hawa wanaweza kuonyesha huzuni yao kwa kushikamana, ukaidi au wasiwasi. Ili kuwasaidia kutulia, unaweza kuwa mkweli katika majibu yako, wanapouliza mambo kama vile, \u201cMama yuko wapi?\u201d Uwe mwaminifu uwezavyo, lakini usiseme zaidi ya vile mioyo na akili zao zinavyoweza kuelewa. Na wakati huo huo, wape maneno ya subira na upendo na uthibitisho, pamoja na kukumbatia na faraja, ikiwa mtoto ataruhusu.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"Body\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Century Gothic',sans-serif;\">Kwa umri wa shule ya msingi na kumi na mbili, huzuni yao inaweza kuonyeshwa kupitia shida na shule, maswala ya kusoma, au kuzingatia tu kupotea kwa wazazi wa kibiolojia. Kwa wazazi walezi walio na watoto wa umri huu, ni bora kuwa sikio la kusikiliza wakati mtoto anataka kushiriki, lakini wakati huo huo kutetea kwa niaba ya mtoto pamoja na walezi na\/au walimu ambao wanaweza kuwa hawajui kabisa kazi ya shule inazuiwa na huzuni yao. Mtoto anaweza kuwa anafanya kazi kwa uwezo wake kamili, lakini analemewa na huzuni kwamba haionekani hivyo.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"Body\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Century Gothic',sans-serif;\">Na kwa vijana, ni wazi wanahusika zaidi. Watakuwa na viwango vya juu vya uelewa, wakiwa na uwezo thabiti na wa kufikirika wa kufikirika, na ikiwezekana kiwewe na huzuni zaidi kushughulikia. Kwa uaminifu ... mambo yote. Huzuni ya vijana inaweza pia kuonekana kama mapambano shuleni, lakini pia inaweza kuwa matatizo ya kula, matumizi mabaya ya madawa ya kulevya au pombe, huzuni na kadhalika. Ili kuwasaidia vijana wanaotatizika na huzuni, kama wazazi walezi, tunaweza kuendelea kuwasaidia kufanya chaguo salama, lakini pia kuwaruhusu uhuru na uhuru mwingi iwezekanavyo. Wanahitaji kuwa na uwezo wa kuokoa utambulisho wao wa kibinafsi wakati wanapitia wakati huu mgumu na wa kutatanisha. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"Body\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Century Gothic',sans-serif;\">Kadiri muda unavyosonga, na unaendelea kujenga kiambatisho, mtoto ataanza kufanya kazi kupitia huzuni na kutokea upande mwingine. Hili halikosi kuwa na juhudi nyingi za kimakusudi kwa upande wa wazazi walezi (na mara nyingi ushauri wa kitaalamu au tiba inaweza kuhitajika, pia). Zaidi ya hayo, ikiwa una &quot;makini ya kiwewe&quot; kwa nia yako na kuelewa kwamba mtoto si mbaya au vigumu, lakini tu matokeo ya huzuni na kiwewe chake, utakuwa na vifaa vyema zaidi vya kuwahudumia na kuwatunza.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"Body\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Century Gothic',sans-serif;\">Kwa dhati,<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"Body\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Century Gothic',sans-serif;\">Kris<\/span><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Often when we think of grief in terms of foster care, we think of the foster parents\u2026and maybe that\u2019s because of the position we\u2019re in within this triad (foster parents &#8211; foster children &#8211; biological parents). 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