Niba udashaka kubazwa bisa, kubaza ibibazo umuntu utazi cyangwa numuntu muziranye, ntukabaze ubwoko bwibibazo kubandi bantu.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\nUrimo kubona drift yanjye hano? Ntukabaze ibibazo byawe bwite. Ntabwo ari umurimo wumuntu kandi niyo umuntu adashaka kuba nosy, arashobora kuba. Mubunararibonye bwanjye, impamvu yonyine umuntu ashobora kumbaza ibibazo byumwana wanjye cyangwa umuryango we ubyara ni uguhaza amatsiko ye ntabwo ari uguteza imbere ubwanjye cyangwa umwana wanjye. Abantu benshi ntibashobora kubimenya niyo mpamvu ndengereye hano hamwe na "Ted Talk" yanjye kuriyi ngingo.<\/p>\n
Mubijyanye, ariko cyane cyane, imitsi, ntabwo ababyeyi barera gusa batagomba kubazwa amakuru yihariye yinkuru yumwana, ntanubwo umwana agomba kubazwa. Ntabwo ari umurimo wa buriwese, kandi mvugishije ukuri kubaza ibibazo nkibi birashobora gutera amarangamutima umwana urera\u2026 kandi nzi neza ko 100% nzi neza ko ntamuntu numwe ugambiriye gukurura umuntu, cyane cyane umwana urerwa. Amateka yumwana ninkuru yabo yo kubwira uwo bashaka, igihe cyose abishakiye\u2026 ntabwo byanze bikunze abamenyereye kurusengero cyangwa umuntu utazi kumurongo uri inyuma yibyo kurya. Kandi byumvikane ko umwana ashobora kugira ikibazo kitoroshye cyo gusobanurira umuntu mukuru, bityo umwana agabana byinshi kuri we kuruta uko bamwishimira gukora\u2026 kuberako umuntu mukuru atakoresheje imipaka ikwiye.<\/p>\n
Kugeza ubu ushobora kuba utekereza, \u201cNiki uyu mugore avuga ku isi? Ni ubuhe bwoko bubi cyangwa budakwiye abantu babwiye, cyane cyane ku mwana? \u201d Nibyiza, ntugahangayike\u2026 Ndi hano kugirango nguhe ingero nke, nshyashya kuri ba mama mubarera no kurera. Buri kimwe muri ibyo byavuzwe cyangwa cyabajijwe mama nzi, kandi nzi neza ko hari ibindi bintu byinshi bitagira ikinyabupfura cyangwa uburangare bumvise bahisemo kutagabana cyangwa bahatiye kwibagirwa.<\/p>\n
Nta tondekanya ryihariye, hano hari bike (haribyo rwose birahari, nyamuneka nyamuneka ntusuzume urutonde rwuzuye muburyo ubwo aribwo bwose) bwibintu bidakwiye kandi bidakwiriye Kutabwira ababyeyi barera cyangwa barera cyangwa abana babo (kandi kuruhande Probably birashoboka ko batagira ikinyabupfura kubwira umuntu uwo ari we wese, ntabwo ari imiryango irera gusa):<\/p>\n
\u201cSe agomba kuba ari umunyamahanga.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201dWow! Wuzuye amaboko! \u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cMbega abakozi bakomeye!\u201d Mubisanzwe byakurikiranwe, \u201cUzi igitera ibi, sibyo?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cWamuvanye he?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cUravugana na mama wabo NYAKURI?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cWow! Yizeye neza ko nta muntu n'umwe mu muryango! \u201d<\/p>\n
Ati: \u201cNiba ntawe umubishaka, ntituzabura kumujyana.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cAgomba kubona amabara ye kuri se!\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cAww, umwana wawe ni mwiza cyane\u2026 akomoka he?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNi mwiza cyane. Menya neza ko ababyeyi be batamubona bose barikumwe gutya. Bazashaka ko agaruka. \u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cSinshobora kwizera ko ababyeyi babo batabashakaga.\u201d<\/p>\n
Ati: \u201cNoneho, byari ibiyobyabwenge?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cBose ni abawe?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYoo, sinshobora na rimwe kubikora. Nari kwizirika cyane. \u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNtabwo nashoboraga kubasubiza.\u201d<\/p>\n
Aha, nzi neza ko bitewe nuko natoranije ibitekerezo kugirango mpagarare bonyine, wowe, abanteze amatwi bashishoza, murashobora kubona impamvu nta kintu na kimwe muri ibyo cyaba gikwiye kuvuga. Nkibisanzwe.<\/p>\n
Nibyo\u2026 twese twavuze ibintu byubupfu mugihe kimwe cyangwa ikindi? Birumvikana, kandi sinkeka ko iyi blog yanditse izakuraho ibitekerezo byose bibabaza kandi bidafite ishingiro byerekeza kubabyeyi barera cyangwa abana bashinzwe. Biragaragara ko ibyo bitazigera bibaho.<\/p>\n
Intego yanjye nukuyishyira inyuma yibitekerezo byabantu kugirango NIBA havutse ikibazo kandi ikiganiro nababyeyi barera cyangwa umwana urera, umuntu wasomye ibi azahagarara byibuze mbere yo kuvuga ikintu kibabaza cyangwa atabigambiriye.<\/p>\n
Urakoze kuza muri "Ted Talk."<\/p>\n
Mubyukuri,<\/p>\n
Kris<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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