{"id":9425,"date":"2021-06-17T21:35:24","date_gmt":"2021-06-17T21:35:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.childrensbureau.org\/?p=9425"},"modified":"2025-02-25T12:05:53","modified_gmt":"2025-02-25T17:05:53","slug":"kris-corner-from-the-trenches-what-i-wish-id-know-part-6","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/rw\/resources\/news-library\/kris-corner-from-the-trenches-what-i-wish-id-know-part-6\/","title":{"rendered":"Inguni ya Kris- Kuva mu myobo: Icyo nifuza ko namenya igice cya 5"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ngiye kugukubita amagambo yavuzwe n'umubyeyi urera kurera ku irembo iki gihe: \u201cKwemera ubufasha ntibisobanura ko udashobora gukora ibi.\u201d<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Mwa basore\u2026 Ibi nabivuze mbere kandi nzongera kubivuga. Ntushobora kuba umubyeyi urera muri silo.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Nibyiza kuba mwiza\u2026 urashobora. Ariko bizaba bigoye cyane, kandi amahirwe yo kubikora neza aragabanuka. Nigute ushobora kubona ubufasha bwawe?<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Navuze ku baturage bitaho kera kandi ubu ni inzira nini imiryango irera ishobora kubona ubufasha. Mugihe wasibye iyo nyandiko, iyi ni infashanyo yuzuye kubantu 4 kugeza kuri 6 (cyangwa barenga niba umuryango urera ufite abana benshi) kandi urashobora kuba isoko ikomeye, ihamye yinkunga yumuryango urera.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Ariko ntabwo abantu bose bafite amahirwe yo kubona Umuryango. Mubyukuri, ababyeyi benshi barera ntibakora\u2026 none bakora iki?<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Ndashishikariza ababyeyi barera gushiraho uburyo bwo gushyigikira ahanini bugizwe nabandi babyeyi barera. Noneho, ibyo byavuzwe, byanze bikunze bikubiyemo no kubabyeyi batarera, kuko ninde wundi uzashakisha mubakurura buhoro buhoro mwisi yawe?!? Ariko mubyukuri byose, inkunga yawe igomba kuba igizwe byombi.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Noneho wasanga he abo babyeyi barera? Nabonye ibyanjye binyuze mu itorero no mu itsinda ryita ku babyeyi barera kandi barera. Ntugomba kumenya byinshi hanyuma noneho ni nkumwuzure ufunguye\u2026 hariho BENSHI muri twe kuburyo akenshi bigoye kwizera ko utigeze ubabona.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0T.<\/span>hrough iyi sano, shaka abantu bawe\u2026 abo ukandaho, "baririmba indirimbo imwe", abo mubyeyi nkawe (cyangwa uko WIFUZA ko wabikoze). Noneho genda gusa hamwe nabo\u2026 kandi birashoboka ko bazasubiza.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Imiryango itarera igiye kuba inshuti numuryango usanzwe mubuzima bwawe bashaka kugendana no kugutera inkunga muriki gice gishya.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>None se kuki, mubyukuri, dukeneye aba bantu ninkunga yabo mubuzima bwacu?<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Icyambere, ugiye kugira gahunda\u2026 gahunda nyinshi, so.manyinshi. Gushyirwaho kwa muganga no kuvura gahunda no kuburanisha urukiko no gusurwa nibintu byose. Byongeye kandi ubuzima muri rusange.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0Y.<\/span>ou bagiye gukenera ubufasha kubona umwana hano, hano nahantu hose\u2026 cyane cyane niba hari abana barenze umwe. Wigenga niba ukora amasaha yose, igice-cyigihe, cyangwa ujya mwishuri, cyangwa guhuza ibyo bintu byose, uzakenera ubufasha.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Noneho, n<\/span>o umuntu yumva ibyo uhura nabyo nkabandi mubwato bumwe, bityo bifasha rwose kubigira mumfuruka yawe. Ariko, inshuti n'umuryango (bashobora kutaba mubwato bumwe) rwose bifuza gufasha. Bashobora kutumva buri gihe ibibera mwisi yawe, ariko amahirwe barashaka gufasha. Noneho, ndagutera inkunga yo gukoresha inyungu zabo. Rimwe na rimwe, niba uhabwa ifunguro, cyangwa gufata ibiribwa cyangwa ikindi kintu kiri mu iduka\u2026 vuga yego kuri ibyo; burigihe yego!<\/span><\/p>\n

Nzi icyo utekereza: rimwe na rimwe wumva biteye isoni, cyangwa bisa nkaho udashobora kubyitwaramo. Ariko mvugishije ukuri, birashoboka ko udashobora\u2026 byibuze ntabwo kuri uriya munsi. Cyangwa icyumweru. Kandi ibyo ni byiza.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Kwemera ubufasha ntibisobanura ko udashobora kubikora. Urashobora rwose, ariko birashoboka ko ushobora kubikora neza hamwe nubufasha buke kuruhande. <\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Mubyukuri ikintu icyo ari cyo cyose ukora gishobora gukorwa byoroshye ubufasha\u2026 kuki kurera abana byaba bitandukanye?<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Mubyukuri,<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Kris<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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