{"id":9335,"date":"2021-05-05T15:39:24","date_gmt":"2021-05-05T15:39:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.childrensbureau.org\/?p=9335"},"modified":"2025-02-25T12:05:55","modified_gmt":"2025-02-25T17:05:55","slug":"kris-corner-navigating-mothers-day-with-biological-moms","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/rw\/resources\/news-library\/kris-corner-navigating-mothers-day-with-biological-moms\/","title":{"rendered":"Kris &#039;Inguni - Kugenda umunsi w&#039;ababyeyi hamwe na ba mama biologiya"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Umunsi wababyeyi. Bimpa buri mwaka\u2026 kuva umuhungu wacu yaje kubana natwe. Icyampa nkavuga ko byoroshye; ariko, mubyukuri ibinyuranye nibyo. Ndatekereza kuri mama we wamubyaye cyane kumunsi wumubyeyi kuruta ikindi gihe cyose.<\/p>\n<p>Ndagerageza kwishyira mu mwanya we ntekereza uko bimeze kuri we kuba adafite umuhungu we (kandi kuri we, umwana GUSA) umunsi uwo ari wo wose, ariko cyane cyane ku munsi umwe mu mwaka wahariwe Mama.<\/p>\n<p>Mperutse kumenya ko umunsi ubanziriza umunsi w&#039;ababyeyi ari umunsi w&#039;ababyeyi. Kandi rero mu mwuka w&#039;umunsi w&#039;ababyeyi, n&#039;umunsi w&#039;ababyeyi bavutse, ndashaka gushyira hanze inkunga yo kwizihiza mama wavutse.<\/p>\n<p>Noneho, nzi ko ushobora kuba utekereza: \u201cKuki nakwishimira uyu mugore wakoreye umwana we X, Y na Z?\u201d Kuberako umunsi urangiye, uko yaba afite ubuhanga bwo kurera (cyangwa kubura), birashoboka cyane ko akunda umwana we. Ashobora kuba adafite igitekerezo cyo kwerekana urwo rukundo, cyangwa kugira igitekerezo icyo aricyo cyose kubabyeyi\u2026 ariko wigeze uhagarara ngo urebe impamvu ibyo bishobora kuba?<\/p>\n<p>Nubwo waba warabitekerejeho, reka tunyure muri iyo nzira akanya gato: Ashobora kuba yararwaniye ababyeyi kuko nta nkunga afite. Ndashaka kuvuga nkabantu ba ZERO mubuzima bwe bashobora kumufasha\u2026 cyangwa kwerekana uko kurera bizima bisa. Cyangwa, birashoboka ko atigeze agira umuntu umukunda; rero, ntabwo azi uburyo bwo kugaragariza undi urukundo. Byagenda bite niba afite imikorere mike yo kumenya? Cyangwa birashoboka ko atazi kuva mubiyobyabwenge cyangwa mubucuti bubi.<\/p>\n<p>Hariho impamvu nyinshi zishoboka zatumye akuramo umwana we. Ariko atitaye ku \u201cmpamvu\u201d, arashobora gukomeza kwizihizwa; byibuze yahisemo ubuzima kuri we kandi azahorana isano na we\u2026 kabone niyo yaba akoresheje ibinyabuzima gusa. Noneho, niba umwana ari kumwe nawe byigihe gito cyangwa ubuziraherezo, aracyari igice cye, kandi azahoraho.<\/p>\n<p>Kutamwishimira ni ukutishimira igice cye\u2026 gishobora kumubabaza, haba muri iki gihe ndetse no nyuma. Ibindi kuri ibyo muyindi nyandiko.<\/p>\n<p>Kugira ngo wirinde umutego nk&#039;uwo ku mwana wawe, nashakaga kuguha ibitekerezo bike ushobora gutekereza mugihe utekereza kwizihiza mama wavutse.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>ubukorikori bw&#039;intoki z&#039;ubwoko runaka kubana bato (Pinterest ifite TON yubwoko bwibintu rero reba hano niba ukeneye inspiration)<\/li>\n<li>ishusho, gushushanya, cyangwa ibumba ryakozwe n&#039;umwana<\/li>\n<li>inkuru cyangwa igisigo cyangwa ikintu umwana yamwandikiye cyangwa kuri we<\/li>\n<li>ifoto\u2026 iyi ishobora kuba yafashwe vuba aha (ushobora gusaba umugenzuzi gusura ubufasha muri ibi) cyangwa imwe yafashwe kera cyane hamwe numwana hamwe, igashyirwa murwego rwo kubungabunga umutekano<\/li>\n<li>igitabo cyamafoto kiboshye cyumwana gusa (cyangwa umwana ufite barumuna be, cyane cyane iyo bashyizwe mubindi bigo)<\/li>\n<li>ikinyamakuru cyambaye ubusa n&#039;amakaramu meza<\/li>\n<li>bimwe mubiryo akunda\u2026 cyane cyane niba umwana akuze kandi azi icyo yifuza; cyangwa ndetse n&#039;udukoryo tumwe na tumwe umwana yifuza kumutoranya atitaye ko azi cyangwa atazi ibyo akunda<\/li>\n<li>indabyo nshya<\/li>\n<li>ikarita yakozwe n&#039;intoki<\/li>\n<li>Cookies zo murugo<\/li>\n<li>gusaba DCS kumusaba kugira uruzinduko rwinyongera rwo kwizihiza umunsi, cyangwa byibuze guhamagara Zoom<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Inyandiko imwe yihuse, kuko nzi ko bamwe murimwe bashobora kuba mubihe umwana atazabona nyina kuko gusurwa byahagaritswe: shaka agasanduku kihariye ko kugishyiramo kugirango ubungabunge umutekano. Ibi birashobora kuba inzira yumwana &quot;kumuha&quot; mu buryo bw&#039;ikigereranyo kugeza igihe abishoboye. Ubu buryo rero arashobora kumukorera cyangwa kumugurira ikintu (ntibishobora kwangirika, kubwimpamvu zigaragara) kandi ni &quot;muburyo bwo gufata&quot; gato. Ashobora kandi gushyiramo izindi mpapuro zidasanzwe, amakarita ya raporo, ibihembo, nibindi kugirango amwereke nyuma.<\/p>\n<p>Noneho dusubire mu birori: ibi ntibigomba kuba ikintu kinini cyangwa gihenze. Gusa ikintu cyo kuranga uwo munsi, ukamwemerera kumenya ko atekerezwa numuntu. Nigute biteye agahinda kutigera utekerezwa, sibyo? Cyangwa kutamenya niba BURUNDU utekereza. Ariko ku munsi w&#039;ababyeyi, byibura, yamenya ko hari ibitekerezo ahantu runaka.<\/p>\n<p>Ibyo byavuzwe, kwizihiza we ntibigabanya umwanya wawe mubuzima numutima wumwana wawe urera.<\/p>\n<p>Kwatura kwukuri: Nahanganye nicyo gitekerezo igihe kinini rwose, kandi mvugishije ukuri, igitekerezo cyo kumwizihiza cyanteye ishyari. Sinashoboraga kumva uburyo ashobora kumukunda, ariko binyuze mubisomwa byinshi, kwiga, no kwitegereza, nzi ko arukuri: ntabwo afite urukundo ruhebuje rwo gutanga, bityo ASHOBORA kumukunda kandi we Irashobora kunkunda. Twembi turi kumwe. Hariho umwanya uhagije mumutima we twembi. Ntabwo bivuze ko adukunda kimwe, ariko arashobora kudukunda twembi.<\/p>\n<p>Kandi niyo mpamvu mama wabyaye umwana wawe ashobora (kandi AKWIYE) kwizihizwa.<\/p>\n<p>Mubyukuri,<\/p>\n<p>Kris<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Mother\u2019s Day. It gets me every year \u2026 since our son came to live with us. I wish I could say it gets easier; but, honestly the opposite is true. I think about his birth mom more on Mother\u2019s Day than any other time. 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