Nkuko ushobora kuba ubizi ubungubu, abana benshi (burigihe harigihe bidasanzwe birumvikana) mubyitayeho basurwa nimiryango yibinyabuzima. Ariko ikintu kimwe kidakunze kuganirwaho ni ukongera kwinjira murugo rurera nyuma yuko umwana asuye.<\/p>\n
Noneho\u2026 ntuzamenya (akenshi kugeza igihe umwana azasubira murugo rwawe) ibyabaye mugusurwa, nuburyo ibyo bintu bizagira ingaruka kumwana. Ababyeyi babyaranye basuye? Byari ku gihe cyangwa byatinze? Byagenze bite iyo dusuye? Umwana hari icyo yariye? Ababyeyi boba barifatanije numwana? Cyangwa ubwinshi bwibindi bishoboka. <\/p>\n
Kugirango usobanure mugihe uri shyashya kuriyi sura, gusurwa birashobora kuba ibintu byinshi\u2026 ibi birashobora kuba isaha imwe isaha imwe mucyumweru, birashobora gusurwa amasaha ane (nkuko umuhungu wacu yahoraga abikora) muminsi ine mucyumweru, cyangwa birashobora kuba ijoro ryose. Kandi hariho uburyo butandukanye bushoboka hagati cyangwa kurenga. Irashobora kuba ikubiyemo gusurwa atari kubabyeyi gusa ahubwo hamwe nabavandimwe bashyirwa mubindi bigo birera, ba sogokuru, ba nyirasenge, ba nyirasenge cyangwa ba nyirarume bemewe, cyangwa abandi bantu bahanaguweho uruzinduko (ibi ntibisanzwe ariko ni ukurera. Ikintu cyose gishobora bibaho!). Irashobora kuba irimo umuvuzi ukorana nababyeyi numwana mugihe cyo gusurwa. Irashobora kuba ikubiyemo umugenzuzi wasuye, cyangwa ntishobora, bitewe nibyo urukiko rwategetse. Kandi hashobora kubaho umuntu utandukanye rwose ukora transport kugeza no gusurwa, bishobora kuba nkiminota itanu cyangwa hejuru yisaha.<\/p>\n
Igitekerezo cyanjye nuko, byaba byinshi kuri twe nkabantu bakuru gufata ibintu nkibi; ariko, kumibiri mito yamaze kwirengagizwa no guhohoterwa, inararibonye, hamwe nabantu bashobora (cyangwa batabizi), birashobora kuba bibi cyane. Kandi biteye urujijo. Kandi biteye ubwoba.<\/p>\n
Kandi ntutekereze ko byoroshye, nubwo ari bike. Umuhungu wacu yari akiri muto cyane igihe yamusuraga, ariko byari bikimugoye bidasanzwe. Ku bw'amahirwe, igihe yagarukaga iwacu, akenshi nashoboye guhindura ikariso ye, nkamunyunyuza iminota mike, hanyuma nkamushyira hasi kugira ngo asinzire nyuma gato. <\/p>\n
Nzi ko ababyeyi benshi bazemera ko gutanga icupa, cyangwa igikombe hamwe nicyatsi\u2026 ikintu cyoroshya icyo cyonsa\u2026 kiruhura kandi kigenga. Ntabwo twari dufite ibi byishimo hamwe n'umwana wa g-tube, ariko yafataga pacifier akagira ikiringiti akunda, cyarafashaga. Ingingo iriho, shakisha icyashobora gutuza umwana no kugikoresha! Charlie2233! Irashobora kandi gushiramo guha umwana ibiryo hanyuma agasinzira\u2026 kuko ibi birashobora kuba nko gukubita buto yo gusubiramo. <\/p>\n
Kubana bakuze, gusa wumve ko bagiye gukenera kwitabwaho nibagera murugo; no kwitegura mubitekerezo mbere yigihe kugirango ushake umwanya wo kwicara hamwe no gusoma hamwe nabo cyangwa kureba igitaramo ukunda\u2026 nanone mugihe barya ibiryo. Ibi birashobora kubafasha "kongera kwinjira" murugo rwabarera neza. <\/p>\n
Rimwe na rimwe, uruzinduko rushobora kugenda nimugoroba. Nta kundi rero, uretse kugerageza kuryamisha umwana, akenshi arenga igihe cyo kuryama. Ariko niyo byaba hafi yo kuryama, ndagutera inkunga yo kongeramo ubwogero mubikorwa bisanzwe (kandi ndasaba cyane ko harimo umunyu wa Epsom), hamwe nudukoryo, kugirango umufashe kumutuza\u2026 gutuza umutima nubwenge mugihe yitegura kujyayo gusinzira. Na none, twizeye gusubiramo sisitemu y'imbere, nubwo ibi bivuze igihe cyo kuryama.<\/p>\n
Urashobora rero kubaza, \u201cAriko Kris, bigenda bite niba umwana wanjye asuye 5 mu cyumweru?\u201d Noneho ukora gahunda imwe muminsi itanu ikurikiranye\u2026 nubwo akenshi afite uruzinduko, ukomera kuriyi gahunda. Niba ntakindi, abana akenshi bakora neza hamwe na gahunda\u2026 mugihe bazi ibizakurikiraho, bazi icyo ugomba gutegereza\u2026 ibi bizafasha mumabwiriza. Niba rero buri gihe abona ibiryo hanyuma akareba televiziyo akunda iyo agarutse avuye gusura, noneho ubikore. Ibyo, ubwabyo, bizafasha guhinduka umuhango wo kwiyobora. Benshi muritwe, nkabantu bakuru, dukora kurwego rwo hejuru niba tuzi icyo dutegereje; abana ntaho batandukaniye muri urwo rwego.<\/p>\n
Ariko tuvuge iki niba hari ikintu kibaye hanyuma ukongera ukinjira bitagenda neza nawe, nkumubyeyi urera, ugasanga warazamutse? Byagenda bite se niba umwana yazanwe murugo hakiri kare? Cyangwa byatinze? Cyangwa ntabwo yakoze umukoro we gusura nkuko yagombaga? Byagenda bite aramutse agaburiwe toni na toni yubusa none akaba arwaye igifu? Cyangwa ndetse nibyiza\u2026 uburambe bwanjye: niba yarajugunye hejuru ibiryo byubusa, birimo ariko ntibyagarukiye gusa ku gikombe kinini cya pop itukura, hirya yinyuma yimodoka yanjye mugihe nagombaga gukora transport muriki gihe cyihariye.<\/p>\n
Nta na kimwe muri ibyo gifite akamaro mugihe ugerageza gufasha umwana (ok, bifite akamaro, ariko ntibisobanuye ko dushobora guhaguruka ku ntoki kuko ibyo ntabwo bizafasha umwana muri ako kanya; ibyo nibibazo bishobora gukemurwa nyuma , umwana amaze gutegekwa). <\/p>\n
Nzi ko bigoye ariko nikimwe mubintu nari nkeneye kwiga, kandi byantwaye igihe. Ndizera rero ko uzabyiga inyuma yamakosa yanjye goal intego nyamukuru ni ugutanga sisitemu kugirango umwana abashe kuyobora. <\/p>\n
Dore inzira nyamukuru uhereye uyumunsi: Komeza gahunda ihoraho BURI MUNSI (niba bishoboka) umwana agarutse avuye gusurwa, kandi niba ukomeje kugenzurwa (cyangwa ushobora kongera kwiyobora) umwana wawe azongera gutegeka no kumenyera murugo rwawe byihuse. Nta kintu na kimwe kigaragara ko ari ibicucu, ariko twizere ko iyi nkunga izagukiza intimba!<\/p>\n
Nyizera, ntabwo mvuze na gato cyangwa kuvuga ko byoroshye gukora, cyane cyane iyo umwana ataye umutwe, ariko amaherezo ni inama n'amayeri akora neza.<\/p>\n
Mubyukuri,<\/p>\n
Kris<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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