Ndumva neza impamvu abantu babaza iki kibazo. Abana baza kurera bose bahuye nihungabana\u2026 nubwo ihahamuka rikurwa mubantu bose nibintu byose bamenye. Ubunararibonye bwo gukuraho, ubwabwo, ni ihahamuka.<\/p>\n
Birashoboka cyane ko hari ihahamuka ryiyongera, rigaragarira mumyitwarire itandukanye itifuzwa. Kandi ibi birasa nubwoba niba ufite abandi bana basanzwe murugo rwawe.<\/p>\n
Birumvikana ko, sinshobora gutanga garanti yukuntu ibintu bizagenda murugo rwawe situation ibintu byose kandi buri mwana arihariye kuburyo ntashobora kwihanganira gukeka uko bizagenda.<\/p>\n
Ntabwo bizaba nta mbogamizi zimwe\u2026 Ndashobora nibura kubikubwira. Utitaye ku kuntu abana bawe bakuze, utitaye ku bitabo cyangwa blog cyangwa ingingo wasomye, utitaye ku bana bato binjira mu rugo rwawe\u2026 bizaba ikibazo.<\/p>\n
Ntabwo mvuze ibi ngo ntere ubwoba ahubwo ni ukwigisha gusa: ntuzi ibyo utazi, kandi ntuzabimenya utanyuze muburambe. Biragaragara rero ko ntashobora kukubwira uburambe bwawe\u2026 nubwo nabishaka.<\/p>\n
Rero, biragaragara ko ntari nzi uburyo abahungu bange bavukanye bazagira ingaruka kumuryango urera; inzira yonyine yo kubimenya kwari ugusimbukira. Umukuru wanjye (wari ufite imyaka 12 igihe twafataga umwanya wa mbere) ubu yiga mu mwaka wa kabiri muri kaminuza. Afite uruhare runini mu iterambere ry\u2019abaturage afite gahunda yo kujya mu mahanga gufasha abana batishoboye kandi bagurishwa\u2026 kandi sinzi ko ibyo byari kuba kuri radar ye atarinze kuba mu muryango urera kandi nkabona icyo gukorana n\u2019abana baturuka ahantu hakomeye.<\/p>\n
Umuhungu wacu wo hagati yari afite imyaka 11 mugihe twashyizwe bwa mbere kandi nabonye iterambere ritangaje mubushobozi bwe bwo kwihanganira no kubana neza nabana bato. Ibi ntabwo ari mama wirata gusa ariko rwose arakomeye hamwe nabana kandi basa nkaho bishimira gusohokana nawe, cyane cyane niba siporo irimo.<\/p>\n
Izi ntabwo arizo mpinduka zonyine twabonye; hari nuburyo twese twarambuye kandi duhanganye (kandi amaherezo turakura) kubera uburambe bwacu nkumuryango urera. Ntabwo buri gihe byoroshye, ariko gukura rimwe na rimwe nibyo.<\/p>\n
Binyuze mu gihe cyo kurera, jye n'umugabo wanjye twize uburyo bwo kurera mu buryo butandukanye\u2026 kandi tuvugishije ukuri mu buryo twifuza ko twabimenya hamwe n'abana bacu bakuru. Nuburyo bwo kwihangana cyane, kandi bujyanye cyane numwana kugiti cye hamwe nibyo akeneye. Abahungu bacu bakuru, nubwo baduha ikibazo kitoroshye cyo kuba ababyeyi batandukanye ukundi, basobanukiwe nimpinduka kandi nizera ko ibyo bahamya bizabashiraho kugirango babikoreshe mugihe ari ababyeyi babana babo.<\/p>\n
Nizera ko uburambe bwatumye abana banjye bakuru bigenga\u2026 ahanini kubera ko umuto wacu afata umwanya muto kandi akabitaho. Bagomba guhaguruka bagakora byinshi hafi yinzu\u2026 ntabwo ari bibi. Bazi guteka no gusukura no gutwikira ibyingenzi byo kwita ku rugo; iyo tutaba umuryango urera, nzemera ko birashoboka ko nakomeje gukora byinshi muribi kandi nzi ko byari kubabangamira. Nzi neza ko abagore babo bazaza bazanshimira kubwibi.<\/p>\n
Ndashobora kuvugisha ukuri nkomeza inzira zose abana banjye bagize ingaruka\u2026 ariko iyi niyo nkuru yanjye. Ntushobora kumenya ingaruka kurera bishobora kugira ingaruka kumuryango wawe kugeza igihe wibereye wenyine.<\/p>\n
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Mubyukuri,<\/p>\n
Kris<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
I completely understand why people would ask this question. Kids who come into foster care have all experienced trauma\u2026even if the trauma is primarily being removed from everyone and everything they\u2019ve ever known. That experience of removal, in and of itself, is trauma. More than likely there is additional trauma, which manifests in a variety […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":19,"featured_media":8757,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[10],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8756","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-kriss-corner"],"yoast_head":"\n