Ubushize rero navuze kubijyanye no kubabwira inkuru y'umwana wawe. Kandi nasanze ntarigeze nkora neza numuhungu wanjye nkuko nabitekerezaga. Hariho rwose amakuru arambuye nari nzi ko nkeneye gusangira, ariko natekereje nyuma yo kumva ikiganiro mumatsinda yunganira ko nari naranze rwose ko hariho umwe mubabyeyi bavutse.<\/p>\n
Ntabwo ntekereza ko yabikoze nkana, ahubwo yarayirinze kuko byari ibintu bitoroshye; kuba mucyo rwose, mubyukuri sinari nzi kubyegera ntamututse. Ibyo ni bimwe mu bintu bavuze mu kiganiro: vugisha ukuri, ariko wirinde gusebanya. Kandi, ntukarimbishe inkuru kandi utume umuryango winkomoko yumvikana neza, kubwimpamvu zigaragara, kuko ibyo bizatuma umwana yitiranya impamvu bakuweho cyangwa bashyizwe mubakira.<\/p>\n
Ibyo byose bivuze, Nahamijwe cyane ko nkeneye gukosora iki kibazo; umuhungu wanjye afite imyaka 11 kandi asoza "kumenya amateka ye yose mugihe afite imyaka 12". Nashimye bidasanzwe igitekerezo cyo guta amabuye; nyuma yigihe kinini cyo Kutaganira kuri papa wabyaye, nari nzi ko bishobora gutungura umuhungu wanjye ko namureze. Igitangaje, giteye urujijo, kibabaza\u2026 Nari nzi ko ibyo byose bishoboka, nuko nari narabyirinze.<\/p>\n
Ariko nari nzi kandi ko hagiye kubaho ibindi bibazo biza munzira zanjye bitewe nubuzima bwubuzima bwa mama wavutse, kandi nari nkeneye gushiraho urufatiro nkuramo inkuru yose hanze. Kandi nubwo byari bitorohewe bidasanzwe, nashimye abavuga ko bampaye igikoresho gikomeye cyo gukoresha, nubwo ntari nabisabye. Kandi nzi ko utagomba kumbaza byanze bikunze ibyo navuze cyangwa uko byagenze, ariko ndashaka gusangira ubunararibonye bwanjye kugirango nguhe ikizere cyo kugerageza guterera amabuye wenyine.<\/p>\n
Nateguye guta amabuye yanjye kugirango tuzabe mugihe twakoraga urujijo rwa jigsaw\u2026 nuko twegerana ariko ntitureba; Njye mbona bifasha mugihe ingingo igoye irimo kuganirwaho. (Nzi ko ibyo ari bike ariko nshaka kubivuga mugihe bifasha undi muntu mubihe bisa.)<\/p>\n
Kugira ngo ikiganiro (cyangwa icyo nizeraga ko kizaba ikiganiro) cyatangiye, najugunye aya mabuye nti: "Ndibaza niba warigeze utekereza impamvu uri muremure cyane. Mama wawe ni muto kuburyo nibaza aho ukura uburebure bwawe."<\/p>\n
Umuhungu wanjye aramusubiza ati: \u201cKuki ubivuze?\u201d<\/p>\n
Navuze nti: "Nibyo, uzi uburyo twarazwe imico yacu mumiryango yacu yavutse kandi kubera ko nyoko wawe atari muremure, nibaza impamvu uzaba muremure\u2026 nibaza niba nawe wigeze ubitekereza."<\/p>\n
Yahise yihutira kuvuga oya, ko atigeze abitekerezaho (byavugishije ukuri byatumye ntekereza ko YARABIKOREYE, mu byukuri, yabitekerejeho\u2026 ariko kubera ko mbere tutigeze tuganira kuri papa wavutse, numvise niba yarankuyeho ibimenyetso avuga ko ari ingingo tutigeze tuvuga ku buryo atashakaga kwemera ko YAMutekereje). Ariko nanone\u2026 ntabwo yahinduye ingingo, kandi ntabwo yavuye mucyumba kandi ntiyigeze arakara\u2026 nuko mfata nk'ikimenyetso cy'uko ashaka amakuru menshi ariko adashaka kubaza.<\/p>\n
Nahise rero nerekeza mu gace tutigeze twinjiramo kandi dusangira bike mubyo nari nzi\u2026 ndabisiga aho. Ntakibazo yabajije kandi nta yandi makuru natanze. Gusa twakomeje gukora kuri puzzle yacu hanyuma ntangira kuvuga kubintu bitandukanye rwose.<\/p>\n
Mu byumweru bike biri imbere, nagize andi mahirwe yo guta amabuye menshi no gusangira inkuru nyinshi. Njye kuri njye (kandi birashobora kuba umuhungu wanjye gusa, ndabimenye) ariko mumuha inkuru nkeya icyarimwe, afite umwanya wo gusya \/ gutunganya hanyuma tugasangira byinshi. Kubitanga byose byaba ari byinshi kandi bidahwitse, biragaragara ko arikintu tugerageza kwirinda niba bishoboka.<\/p>\n
Biragaragara ko imimerere yawe ishobora kuba itandukanye cyane niyanjye. Birashoboka ko wakoze akazi keza ko gusangira inkuru nyinshi ariko ugomba gutanga amakuru yanyuma. Cyangwa birashoboka ko mutigeze musangira ikintu kubwimpamvu imwe cyangwa indi. Ariko ndashaka ko mwese mumenya ko ari ngombwa kwinjiza inkuru yumwana wawe mumaboko yabo kugirango bashobore kuyirwanya hanyuma batangire gukira byimazeyo.<\/p>\n
Mubyukuri,<\/p>\n
Kris<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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