Noneho ushobora kuba urimo kwibaza kuri njye, kubera ko inyandiko yanjye iheruka yari iyo kwivuza wenyine\u2026 ariko ndacyizera, tutitaye ko dukeneye ubufasha nkababyeyi, turashobora kuba twese kubana bacu. Kuba mama cyangwa papa bose bari kumwana wabo\u2026 Sinigeze menya ko aricyo nifuzaga kuba, cyangwa ko arikindi kintu kitari ibyo abantu benshi bakoraga. Natekereje, kugeza magingo aya, ko nkora gusa ibyo mama uwo ari we wese yakora, ariko ibyo sibyo.<\/p>\n
Mperutse kuvugana ninshuti yashakaga inama zuburyo bwo gufasha umunyeshuri mwishuri rye. Iyi ncuti yari yarakoranye numuhungu wanjye akiri muto cyane (hafi yimyaka ingana nabanyeshuri bo mucyumba cy'amashuri abanza mbere y'ishuri) ansaba ibitekerezo bimwe kubyo nakora kumufasha. Namuhaye ibyifuzo bibiri hanyuma mubaza impamvu yaje aho ndi\u2026 azi abarimu benshi batangira amashuri bafite "amayeri ninama"\u2026 kuki umbajije? Na we ati: "Nzi ko ushobora kumfasha kuko muri byose uri umuhungu wawe."<\/p>\n
Ayo magambo yankoze ku mutima.<\/p>\n
Ndashaka kuvuga, numvaga ndimo bose, ariko ndumva ndi muri bose mubahungu banjye uko ari batatu. Ariko icyatangaje cyane ni uko umuntu wese yabibonye\u2026 kubera ko ngerageza kuba umuntu mwiza muri rusange nkatekereza ko abantu beza\u2026 kandi nkizera ko benshi muri twe \u201ctwese turi\u201d ku bana bacu, none se ntandukaniye he? Ariko iyo nsubiye inyuma nkabitekerezaho, birashobora kuba byinshi ko mbona ko ndushijeho kumubera byose kuko yankeneye kuba. Umuryango we ubyara ntushobora, cyangwa ntiwabikora, nuko rero mugihe yari uruhinja ruto rudakomeye mubuvuzi, yari akeneye umwunganira, akeneye umufasha, yari akeneye mama ukaze wagiye kumukubita, oya uko byagenda kose.<\/p>\n
Kandi rero, nubwo ushobora kuba udafite umwana wubuvuzi bukomeye mukurera, birashoboka cyane ko ufite umwana ukeneye mama cyangwa papa ukaze kugirango bose bababere. None, wabikora ute? Gusa ndagutera inkunga yo kwitondera cyane ibimenyetso ubona, ntutinye kubunganira hamwe nabashinzwe ubuvuzi (ndavuga, bazi byinshi, ariko ntibabizi byose\u2026 bababwire ibyo ubona kandi usaba kwipimisha, uburezi, amakuru, imiti, nibindi), kora ibishoboka byose kugirango uhuze nabo, kandi usome ibintu byose ushobora gukora kubyerekeye ihahamuka. Kora ibishoboka byose kugirango bagere kuri verisiyo nziza yabo ubwabo.<\/p>\n
Niba ukomeje gutsimbarara kuri iki gitekerezo, birashoboka ko wabitekerezaho: niba hari umwana urera wasuzumwe indwara utazi, wakora iki? Wokwishura gute? Wari gusoma ibitabo byose, winjira mumatsinda yingoboka, wasanga abantu bawe ugashaka ibisubizo ukamenya uko ubuzima bumeze ubu hamwe niri suzuma rishya. Ni kimwe nabana baturutse ahantu hakomeye. Nibyo, hashobora kubaho izindi kwisuzumisha no gukina, ariko urashobora no kubimenyeshwa nabo.<\/p>\n
Noneho, kuri post yanjye mbere kubyerekeye kudatinya kubona ubufasha mugihe bikenewe; Nzi ko bigoye kuba ababyeyi bose. Nzi ko bihenze, kandi bibabaza umutima kandi rwose biratwara. Njye mbona ko ntekereza cyane kubana banjye nuburyo nshobora kubafasha. Ariko cyane cyane ntekereza kumuto wanjye. Ati: "Ibiri gukorwa, nshobora gukora iki, nshobora nte gufasha, icyaba kimutera imbaraga, icyakora neza, ni iki tugomba guhindura, ni iki tugomba gukomeza kimwe?" Irakomeza, kandi, no kuri byose. Kandi nanone, nubwo twashyizeho imihati yose, haracyari byinshi byo gukora kugirango abashe gukura no gukura mubanyamuryango bakora (kandi\u2026 batambutse intoki) batanga umusaruro muri societe. Rero, tuzakomeza kumubera bose, kuko mubyukuri, nibyo twiyandikishije. Ntabwo twabikora, kandi ndabizi ko urera ababyeyi hanze ntabwo bari kubikora, kubigira mubundi buryo.<\/p>\n
Mubyukuri,<\/p>\n
Kris<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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