Iyi nyandiko ubwoko bwinuma-murizo mubyabanje aho navuze kubyerekeye akababaro kacu nurugendo rwo kubura. Kandi ku bwanjye ntabwo ntekereza ko iki ari ikintu kivugwa kenshi bihagije ku isi irera\u2026 kandi icyo ni igitekerezo cy'ababyeyi barera (n'abarera) bashaka kwivuza ubwabo.<\/p>\n
Ntabwo mfite byinshi navuga kuriyi usibye ko ntampamvu yo kumva mfite isoni zo gukenera imiti. Iyo uri kurera, kwitaho, no gucunga ubuvuzi, amarangamutima hamwe nimyitwarire yumwana ukomoka ahantu hakomeye (umwana ushobora kuba yivuza wenyine), birashoboka ko uzagira ihungabana ryisumbuye.<\/p>\n
Benshi, niba atari bose, ababyeyi barera barwana nihungabana rya kabiri. Njye kubwanjye sinigeze mpura numubyeyi urera utabikoze; Nahuye ariko n'ababyeyi barera babihakana\u2026 ariko icyo nikibazo "bo" kandi ntabwo byanze bikunze ibyo mvuga uyu munsi.<\/p>\n
Noneho, bamwe murimwe murashobora kubaza ihahamuka rya kabiri niki? Ni ihahamuka riba iyo uri hafi yumuntu wagize amateka akomeye. Kandi nk'umubyeyi urera (cyangwa umurera), ni kimwe gusa mubintu bibaho kandi nta buryo nyabwo bwo kubyirinda.<\/p>\n
Kandi rero ndashaka gushishikariza ababyeyi kugera kubufasha.<\/p>\n
Nibura, gira itsinda rya hafi cyangwa sisitemu yo gushyigikira ahantu hashobora kumva ibibazo byawe nta rubanza, kandi bigatanga amagambo atera inkunga, inama n'inkunga.<\/p>\n
Intambwe ikurikira, biragaragara, irashobora kuba ugushaka kuvura neza kandi bifasha.<\/p>\n
Nagiye kwivuza kera, kandi ndashaka kongera kugenda. Byantwaye igihe kinini kugirango menye ko nta soni birimo. Kuva kera natekereje ko hari ikitagenda neza niba ntashobora kwikorera ubu buremere njyenyine\u2026 kandi ndakeka ko ari yo mpamvu abandi benshi badashaka ubufasha.<\/p>\n
Ariko ku bw'amahirwe, nagize abandi babyeyi barera mu buzima bwanjye bavugaga ko bakeneye ubufasha\u2026 kandi bari abantu nishimira kandi nkareba mu isi irera.<\/p>\n
Kandi rero kuburambe bwabo, no kubatera inkunga, nasanze niba (abantu natekerezaga, nibeshye, bose hamwe bari bonyine) bafite ubushake bwo kwegera no kubona ubufasha bwumwuga bakeneye, noneho ninde ndi kubacira urubanza kubwibyo? ?<\/p>\n
Urubanza ntirwigeze rufasha umuntu, cyane cyane umuntu ukora urubanza.<\/p>\n
Nabonye ko abana barera n'abarera bakeneye ababyeyi babo kugirango bagire ubuzima bwiza. Ababyeyi barera bagomba kugira ubuzima bwiza kugirango bafashe abana gukira ihahamuka. Kandi akenshi ibyo bivuze gushaka ubufasha.<\/p>\n
Nzabicamo mumagambo yoroshye kuri wewe (birenze gukenera ubuvuzi):<\/p>\n
Ntabwo ukorera umuryango wawe igikundiro utiyitayeho wenyine.<\/p>\n
Ibyo rero nibyo rwose mvuze\u2026 gusa ijambo rishimishije rya \u201cRah-Rah\u201d kugira ngo ngushishikarize ko ushobora gukora ibi, kandi ukora akazi gakomeye, kandi ntugomba kubikora wenyine kuko ubufasha buraboneka byoroshye niba ubishaka kubigeraho.<\/p>\n
Mubyukuri,<\/p>\n
Kris<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
This post kind of dove-tails into the previous one in which I talked about our grief and loss journey. And I personally don\u2019t think this is something talked about often enough in the foster world\u2026and that is the idea of foster (and adoptive) parents seeking therapy for themselves. I don\u2019t have a whole lot to […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":19,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[10],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-20297","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-kriss-corner"],"yoast_head":"\n