Ikintu kimwe rero nigeze gukoraho mbere, ariko kitacengewe rwose nukugenda iruhande rwumwana wagize ihungabana kubera urupfu rwumukunzi wawe. Noneho, kugirango byumvikane neza, ntabwo ndimo kugenda muriyi nzira rwose, ariko ndi hafi. Nyogokuru wujuje imyaka 100 mu ntangiriro z'uyu mwaka, ari mu nzira yo gupfa. Noneho ushobora kuba utekereza, \u201cAfite imyaka 100? Nibyiza bite ko umwana wawe muto (ufite ihungabana) ashobora rwose kugirana isano na we? \u201d<\/p>\n
Nzi neza ko uzatungurwa. Yakoraga kugeza hashize imyaka ibiri cyangwa itatu ishize. Karantine ya Covid yabereye mu kigo cyita ku bageze mu za bukuru rwose byaramutwaye ingaruka. We ku giti cye ntabwo yigeze arwara, ariko ntabwo rwose yagendagendaga na gato. Yahise ahaguruka ngo azenguruke, ibyokurya bamuzana mu cyumba cye, ntashobora kugira abashyitsi. Kandi iyerekwa rye no kumva ntabwo dukomeye kuburyo adashobora kuvugana rwose kuri terefone cyangwa kureba TV. Ntabwo rero yakoraga imyitozo ngororamubiri, mu gihe mbere y\u2019akato, yagombaga gukora urugendo rurerure agaragaza inzu ye yafashaga kugeza mu cyumba bariramo.<\/p>\n
Nyuma ya Covid, yasubiye inyuma uko ashoboye, ariko ntiyigeze agarura imbaraga z'umubiri, kandi hashize imyaka mike agomba kwimukira mubuforomo kabuhariwe. Ariko ibitekerezo bye byakomeje gukara cyane. Najyana umuhungu mutoyi kumusura rimwe mubyumweru bibiri. Twahoraga dujyana umukino kandi buri gihe yashoboye gukina nta kibazo\u2026 ndetse numukino mushya atigeze akina mbere.<\/p>\n
Nibyo, ntitwagumaho igihe kirekire, wenda iminota 30 kugeza kumasaha, kuko yarushye byoroshye, ariko buri gihe yakundaga iyo namuzana kumusura. Nubwo basuye igihe gito, byari bihagije kuri bo kugirana umubano wimbitse kandi wita kubandi. Aramukunda kandi aramukunda; akunda kandi bombo abika muri imwe mu myenda ye, ariko iyo ni iyindi nkuru. Ariko nzi ko buri gihe yishimira igihe cye na nyirakuru, kabone niyo icyuma cye cya bombo cyarimo ubusa.<\/p>\n
Mu byumweru bike bishize, yasaga nkaho aruhutse gato, ariko twarayikurikiranye kugeza afite imyaka 100. Ariko hashize iminsi ine biragaragara ko umubiri we wari ufunze. Turi hafi rero ku mperuka, kandi nzi ko ngomba kunyura muri ibyo, atari jyenyine, ahubwo nkanyuzamo hamwe n'abana banjye. Kuri ubu, ndagerageza gukomeza kwifata neza no gushimira ibihe byose twagize\u2026 kandi ko abahungu banjye bakuru babonye imyaka 22 na 20 hamwe na we. Nkuruhande gato, ibyo biracyantangaza\u2026 kubona umwanya munini hamwe na nyirakuru.<\/p>\n
Kandi ntabwo bisa nkaho byari umubano wa kure rwose; yajyanye ibiruhuko natwe bakiri bato, kuburyo rwose bamaranye igihe kinini na nyirakuru mukuru\u2026 ariko byose byari byuzuye. Igihe abahungu bakuru bari bato, yabaga kure, kandi ntitwigeze tumubona kenshi. Mu myaka mike ishize niho yabayeho iminota mike mumuhanda.<\/p>\n
Igihe umuhererezi wanjye yazanaga, ibintu byari bitandukanye kandi ntabwo yakoraga cyane; ibiruhuko byari hanze yameza kuko byari bimugoye cyane kubikora. Rero, nubwo umuto wanjye atabonye ibiruhuko byumwaka nibiruhuko byinshi hamwe, yabonye gusura umwe-umwe; yabonye umwanya wo kumarana nawe rwose kandi atari hagati yimiryango myinshi.<\/p>\n
Amaze kwimuka rero, twashyize imbere kumusura. Nubwo hashyizweho akato ka Covid, ndetse no mu myaka icyenda, birashoboka ko yamaranye igihe kingana na we. Ibi byose byo gutombora kuvuga: nubwo ataragenda, ndagerageza cyane gukambika mu gushimira, kandi ntabwo ndi mu gahinda no kubura nzi ko biza.<\/p>\n
Kandi byumvikane neza, ntabwo ndumiwe cyane kubwanjye cyangwa abahungu bakuru cyangwa ababyeyi banjye\u2026 ni kubwumuhungu wanjye muto\u2026 kuko hano harikintu: abana bose baturutse ahantu habi bamaze guhura nigihombo kinini\u2026 kubura umuryango wababyaye (ibyo birashobora kuba by'agateganyo, bihoraho, cyangwa ahandi hagati), kimwe no gutakaza inshuti, abavandimwe, ishuri cyangwa ubwoko bwabo. Hariho inzira nyinshi zifite amateka yihungabana zishobora kuba zarahombye. Guhangana rero no kubura umuntu wo mu muryango wa hafi bisa nkibyingenzi.<\/p>\n
Dufite ubundi bwoko bw'igihombo nacyo kiri hafi (nzabyandika no mu nyandiko iri hafi), kuko umuhungu wacu w'imfura azajya mu mahanga nk'umumisiyonari w'igihe kirekire. Biragaragara rero ko ibintu bitandukanye cyane, ariko kimwe gishobora no kuzana ibyiyumvo byintimba no kubura.<\/p>\n
Ndababwiza ukuri sinzi uko bizaba bimeze, ariko gukoresha amateka nkumuhanuzi, kumuhungu wacu, mubisanzwe "birababaje bisa nkibisazi" bivuze byinshi byo kurakara mubihe biri imbere. Ariko nzi ko nshobora no gutungurwa\u2026 ndashaka rero kuza hamwe nawe mwese kugirango nkumenyeshe ibyo duhura nabyo muri iki gihe. Nanjye rwose nzandika byinshi, mubyumweru bike biri imbere, kandi nkumenyeshe uko ibintu bigenda n'impamvu nibaza ko bisa nkibyo. Nzi ko uburambe bwacu butazamera kuri buri mwana, ariko nizere ko uburambe bwanjye buzazana ubufasha n'ibyiringiro kubandi bagendeye muri uru rugendo\u2026 cyangwa bazabikora ejo hazaza.<\/p>\n
Mubyukuri,<\/p>\n
Kris<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
So one thing I have touched on previously, but not really delved into is walking alongside a child who has experienced trauma through the death of a loved one. Now, to be clear, I\u2019m not walking that path fully yet, but I am about to. My grandmother, who turned 100 years old earlier this year, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":19,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[21],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-18165","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-news"],"yoast_head":"\n