{"id":18157,"date":"2023-08-22T12:11:29","date_gmt":"2023-08-22T16:11:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/?p=18157"},"modified":"2025-02-25T12:04:48","modified_gmt":"2025-02-25T17:04:48","slug":"kris-corner-post-visitation-rituals-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/rw\/resources\/news-library\/kris-corner-post-visitation-rituals-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Kris &#039;Inguni - Imihango yo Gusura"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Nkuko ushobora kuba ubizi ubungubu, abana benshi (burigihe harigihe bidasanzwe birumvikana) mubyitayeho basurwa nimiryango yibinyabuzima. Ariko ikintu kimwe kidakunze kuganirwaho ni ukongera kwinjira murugo rurera nyuma yuko umwana asuye.<\/p>\n<p>Noneho\u2026 ntuzamenya (akenshi kugeza igihe umwana azasubira murugo rwawe) ibyabaye mugusurwa, nuburyo ibyo bintu bizagira ingaruka kumwana. Ababyeyi babyaranye babigezeho gusurwa? Aho bari ku gihe cyangwa batinze? Byagenze bite iyo dusuye? Umwana hari icyo yariye? Ababyeyi boba barifatanije numwana? Biragaragara ko hari byinshi byashoboka kubyabaye mugihe cyo gusura. Kugirango ubisobanure mugihe uri shyashya kuriyi sura, gusurwa bishobora kuba ibintu byinshi\u2026 ibi birashobora kuba isaha imwe gusura icyumweru, birashobora gusurwa amasaha atatu cyangwa ane inshuro nyinshi mucyumweru (nkuko umuhungu wacu yari afite amezi menshi) , cyangwa birashobora kuba ijoro ryose. Kandi hariho uburyo butandukanye bushoboka hagati cyangwa kurenga. Irashobora kubamo gusurwa atari kubabyeyi gusa ahubwo hamwe nabavandimwe bashyirwa mubindi bigo birera, bishoboka ko ari ba sogokuru cyangwa ba nyirasenge cyangwa ba nyirasenge cyangwa ba nyirarume cyangwa abandi bantu basonewe gusurwa (ibi ntibisanzwe ariko ni uburere bw&#039;abana). Uruzinduko rumwe buri cyumweru rushobora kuba hamwe na mama gusa, urundi ruzinduko ni papa gusa. Uruzinduko rwa gatatu ni hamwe nababyeyi bombi (umuhungu wacu yagize ibyo mugihe gito). Mubyukuri guhuza byose birashobora kubaho!<\/p>\n<p>Irashobora kuba irimo umuvuzi ukorana nababyeyi numwana mugihe cyo gusurwa. Irashobora kuba ikubiyemo umugenzuzi wasuye, cyangwa ntishobora, bitewe nibyo urukiko rwategetse. Kandi hashobora kubaho umuntu utandukanye rwose ukora transport kugeza no gusurwa, bishobora kuba nkiminota itanu cyangwa hejuru yisaha.<\/p>\n<p>Igitekerezo cyanjye nuko: byaba byinshi kuri twe nkabantu bakuru gufata ikibazo nkiki, ariko kumibiri mito yamaze kwirengagizwa no \/ cyangwa guhohoterwa, inararibonye, no kubana nabantu bashobora (cyangwa badashobora) kumenya , irashobora kuba idasanzwe. Kandi biteye urujijo. Kandi biteye ubwoba. Nyamuneka ntukibeshye wibwire ko byoroshye, nubwo ari bike. Umuhungu wacu yari akiri muto cyane igihe yamusuraga, ariko byari bikimugoye bidasanzwe. Ku bw&#039;amahirwe, igihe yagarukaga iwacu, akenshi nashoboye guhindura ikariso ye, nkamunyunyuza iminota mike, hanyuma nkamushyira hasi kugira ngo asinzire nyuma gato.<\/p>\n<p>Bikaba binzanye kumutwe nyirizina nashakaga kuganira: imihango yo gusura nyuma. Nzi ko ababyeyi benshi bazemera igitekerezo kivuga ko gutanga icupa, cyangwa igikombe hamwe nicyatsi\u2026 ikintu cyoroshya icyo cyonsa\u2026 kiruhura cyane kandi kigenga umwana. . shyiramo guha umwana ibiryo hanyuma agasinzira\u2026 kuko ibi birashobora kuba nko gukubita buto yo gusubiramo.<\/p>\n<p>Kubana bakuze, gusa wumve ko bagiye gukenera kwitabwaho nibagera murugo; no kwitegura mubitekerezo mbere yigihe kugirango ushake umwanya wo kwicara hamwe no gusoma hamwe nabo cyangwa kureba igitaramo ukunda\u2026 nanone mugihe barya ibiryo. Ibi birashobora kubafasha &quot;kongera kwinjira&quot; murugo rwabarera neza.<\/p>\n<p>Noneho rimwe na rimwe uruzinduko rushobora kugenda bitinze nimugoroba, bityo rero nta kundi wabigenza uretse kugerageza kuryama umwana, akenshi akaba arenze igihe cyo kuryama. Ariko nubwo byaba ari hafi yo kuryama, ndagutera inkunga yo kongeramo ubwogero mubikorwa bisanzwe (kandi ndasaba cyane ko harimo umunyu wa Epsom), hamwe nudukoryo, kugirango umufashe kumutuza\u2026 gutuza imitima yabo nibitekerezo mugihe bitegura jya kuryama, ongera wizere gusubiramo sisitemu y&#039;imbere, nubwo ibi bivuze gusinzira nyuma.<\/p>\n<p>Urashobora rero kubaza, \u201cAriko Kris, bigenda bite niba umwana wanjye asuye 5 mu cyumweru?\u201d Noneho ukora gahunda imwe muminsi itanu ikurikiranye\u2026 nubwo akenshi bafite uruzinduko, ukomera kuriyi gahunda. Niba ntakindi, abana akenshi bakora neza hamwe na gahunda; mugihe bamenye ibizakurikiraho (kumenya icyo ugomba gutegereza byibuze) ibi bizafasha mumabwiriza. Nyamuneka menya ko ntavuze ko ibintu bizaba byiza kandi rimwe na rimwe uburyo bwawe bwagerageje kandi bwukuri ntibuzakora\u2026 ariko komeza ugerageze!<\/p>\n<p>Niba bahora babona ibiryo hanyuma bakareba televiziyo bakunda iyo bagarutse gusura, noneho ubikore buri gihe (niba bishoboka). Ibyo, ubwabyo, bizafasha guhinduka umuhango wo kwiyobora. Benshi muritwe, nkabantu bakuru, dukora kurwego rwo hejuru niba tuzi icyo dutegereje; abana ntaho batandukaniye muri urwo rwego.<\/p>\n<p>Ariko tuvuge iki niba hari ikintu kibaye hanyuma ukongera ukinjira bitagenda neza nawe, nkumubyeyi urera ugasanga warazamutse? Byagenda bite se niba umwana yazanwe murugo hakiri kare? Cyangwa byatinze? Cyangwa ntibakoze umukoro wabo basuye nkuko byari bikwiye? Byagenda bite se niba bagaburiwe toni na toni yubusa none bakaba barwaye igifu? Cyangwa nibyiza\u2026 uburambe bwanjye: byagenda bite baramutse bataye ifunguro barya basuye birimo, ariko ntibigarukira gusa, igikombe kinini cya pop itukura\u2026 yewe kandi ibi byose byari inyuma yimodoka yanjye mugihe nari mfite gukora transport yo gusura mururugero rwihariye.<\/p>\n<p>Nta na kimwe muri ibyo gifite akamaro mugihe ugerageza gufasha umwana (ok, bifite akamaro, ariko ntibisobanuye ko dushobora guhaguruka ku ntoki kuko ibyo ntabwo bizafasha umwana muri ako kanya; ibyo nibibazo bishobora gukemurwa nyuma , umwana amaze gutegekwa). Kandi icyo nshaka kuvuga nuko: kora uko ushoboye kugirango utuze kandi ugenzurwe kuko ntakintu cyiza kizabaho uramutse ufunguye umupfundikizo wawe. (Ubu ni uburambe bwanjye bwo kuvuga\u2026 Ntabwo ndi hafi yuzuye kuri ibi, ariko meze neza kuko nagize amahirwe menshi yo kwitoza!)<\/p>\n<p>Kandi nzi ko bigoye, ariko ibyo ni bimwe mubintu nari nkeneye kwiga, kandi byantwaye igihe, ndizera rero ko uzabyiga inyuma yamakosa yanjye goal intego nyamukuru nukugirango umwana agenzurwe. Kumenya rero igihe bazamutse nuburyo ushobora kubafasha gusubira mumabwiriza, kandi nawe, nk &quot;&quot; urugo rwigihe gito &quot;, ugiye gufasha gutanga sisitemu ubwo bushobozi bwo kugenzura bugaragara.<\/p>\n<p>Ubundi rero, hano haribintu byingenzi byafashwe kuva uyumunsi: Komeza gahunda ihoraho BURI MUNSI (niba bishoboka) mugihe umwana agarutse avuye gusurwa, kandi niba ukomeje kugenzurwa (cyangwa ushobora kongera kwiyobora) umwana wawe azongera gutegeka kandi subira murugo rwawe vuba. Nta kintu na kimwe kigaragara ko ari ibicucu, ariko twizere ko iyi nkunga izagukiza intimba! Nyizera, ntabwo mvuze na gato cyangwa kuvuga ko byoroshye gukora, cyane cyane iyo umwana ataye umutwe, ariko amaherezo ni inama n&#039;amayeri akora neza.<\/p>\n<p>Mubyukuri,<\/p>\n<p>Kris<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>As you probably know by now, most children (there\u2019s always an exception of course) in care have visits with biological family. But one thing that is often not discussed is the reentry into the foster home after a child has a visitation. 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