{"id":10190,"date":"2020-12-29T15:59:46","date_gmt":"2020-12-29T20:59:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/?p=10190"},"modified":"2025-02-25T12:06:08","modified_gmt":"2025-02-25T17:06:08","slug":"the-most-wonderful-and-dreaded-time-of-the-year","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/rw\/resources\/news-library\/the-most-wonderful-and-dreaded-time-of-the-year\/","title":{"rendered":"CYANE CYANE "CYIZA" KANDI "CYIZA" IGIHE CY'UMWAKA"},"content":{"rendered":"

Na: Jamise Kafoure; Umujyanama<\/p>\n

Impera ya buri mwaka byanze bikunze irerekana "ihinduka" rikomeye mubiganiro mugihe ugisha inama abakiriya. Nkunze kumva ubwoba, ambivalence, depression, guhangayika, ubwoba, na angst bigaragarira mubiganiro byacu, kuko amarangamutima ajyanye neza nikiruhuko cyegereje. Insanganyamatsiko nkuru yibi biganiro ni "igihombo" cyangwa "impinduka" y'ubwoko runaka.<\/p>\n

Agahinda nigihombo birashobora gukuramo amaguru munsi yacu mugihe tutiteze. Ibyo byiyumvo birashobora guturuka ku rupfu rw'uwo ukunda, guhindura umubano, cyangwa ubwoba kubera kubura akazi \/ amafaranga ndetse nuburyo bwo gutunga imiryango yacu. Izi nyiyumvo zirashobora kandi guturuka kubitandukanya nabagize umuryango baba kure, cyangwa gusa kutabasha guhangana nibitangazamakuru hamwe nimpuha zose zijyanye niki gihe "gishimishije". Kubwamahirwe, nta "bisanzwe" cyangwa formulaire yoroshye ifasha umuntu gucunga ibyiyumvo byintimba no kubura.<\/p>\n

"Kwibuka" iminsi mikuru yashize birashobora kuba biteye ubwoba kuko "ukuri" kurubu ni kwinshi. None\u2026 umuntu yahangana ate no guhora yibutsa ko iminsi mikuru yegereje vuba mugihe byunvikana kwihisha munsi yigitambaro no kwirinda imikoranire nabandi?<\/p>\n

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  1. Hagarika \/ Uhumeka \/ Komeza. Fata umunsi umwe umwe kandi wihangane wenyine. Gerageza gukuramo no gukoresha porogaramu yubuntu nka\u00a0Umwanya\u00a0<\/a>yigisha kuzirikana.<\/li>\n
  2. Iyibutse ko ibiruhuko bifite intangiriro, hagati, na END\ud83d\ude0a<\/li>\n
  3. Witoze kwemeza neza no kuvuga wenyine. Kurugero, vuga Isengesho rya Serenity buri munsi cyangwa ukuremo porogaramu yubuntu\u00a0\u201cTekereza\u201d.<\/a><\/li>\n
  4. Ntugahuze cyane nigitekerezo runaka kumunsi uwariwo wose. Komeza ibitekerezo byuzuye kandi utegerejwe neza mugihe cyibiruhuko.<\/li>\n
  5. Wibwire ubwawe: \u201cNibyiza kumva amarangamutima atandukanye kandi sinshobora kwishima umunsi wose burimunsi\u201d.<\/li>\n
  6. Imenyere hamwe na\u00a0Ibyiciro bitanu by'akababaro \/<\/a>Igihombo cya Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross.<\/li>\n
  7. Menyesha abakunzi kumenya ko "uyu mwaka" uzaba "utandukanye". Ihangane kandi utangire imigenzo mishya.<\/li>\n
  8. Shakisha ahantu \/ umutekano "umuntu musangira ibitekerezo n'ibitekerezo.Banza ubaze Imiryango.<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    . kuri we\u2026 kwibutsa ibiruhuko dukunda kwibuka\u2026 gutoranya turukiya mbere yo kurya.)<\/p>\n

     <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Impera ya buri mwaka byanze bikunze irerekana "ihinduka" rikomeye mubiganiro mugihe ugisha inama abakiriya. Nkunze kumva ubwoba, ambivalence, depression, guhangayika, ubwoba, na angst bigaragarira mubiganiro byacu, kuko amarangamutima ajyanye neza nikiruhuko cyegereje. Insanganyamatsiko nkuru yibi biganiro ni "igihombo" cyangwa "impinduka" y'ubwoko runaka.
    \nAgahinda nigihombo birashobora gukuramo amaguru munsi yacu mugihe tutiteze. Ibyo byiyumvo birashobora guturuka ku rupfu rw'uwo ukunda, guhindura umubano, cyangwa ubwoba kubera kubura akazi \/ amafaranga ndetse nuburyo bwo gutunga imiryango yacu. Izi nyiyumvo zirashobora kandi guturuka kubitandukanya nabagize umuryango baba kure, cyangwa gusa kutabasha guhangana nibitangazamakuru hamwe nimpuha zose zijyanye niki gihe "gishimishije". Kubwamahirwe, nta "bisanzwe" cyangwa formulaire yoroshye ifasha umuntu gucunga ibyiyumvo byintimba no kubura. <\/p>","protected":false},"author":19,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[18],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-10190","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-mental-health-selfcare"],"yoast_head":"\nTHE MOST \u201cWONDERFUL\u201d AND \u201cDREADED\u201d TIME OF THE YEAR - Firefly Children and Family Alliance<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/rw\/resources\/news-library\/the-most-wonderful-and-dreaded-time-of-the-year\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"rw_RW\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"THE MOST \u201cWONDERFUL\u201d AND \u201cDREADED\u201d TIME OF THE YEAR - Firefly Children and Family Alliance\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"The end of each year inevitably marks a significant \u201cshift\u201d in conversations when counseling clients. 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