{"id":10110,"date":"2022-03-08T18:52:21","date_gmt":"2022-03-08T18:52:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.childrensbureau.org\/?p=10110"},"modified":"2025-02-25T12:05:17","modified_gmt":"2025-02-25T17:05:17","slug":"kris-corner-foster-parent-relationship-with-biological-parents","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/rw\/resources\/news-library\/kris-corner-foster-parent-relationship-with-biological-parents\/","title":{"rendered":"Kris &#039;Inguni - Kurera Ababyeyi Kubabyeyi"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Nzi ko nigeze gukora ku ngingo yumubano nababyeyi babyaranye mbere, ariko ndumva ari ngombwa kuburyo nshaka kongera kubiganiraho.<\/p>\n<p>Nasomye amagambo aherutse kandi rwose yakubise murugo. Intego y&#039;ibanze ni iyi: \u201cKuba umubyeyi urera bisobanura gufatanya kurera n&#039;umuntu ushobora kuba utarahisemo.\u201d Wow. Ibyo bigabanya cyane, kandi kubabyeyi benshi barera ndabizi, byanze bikunze byumvikana. Birashoboka ko utazahitamo kubana numuntu utahisemo.<\/p>\n<p>Kandi kenshi na kenshi, ababyeyi babyaranye ntabwo ari abantu bari muruziga rwumuryango cyangwa inshuti. . Rimwe na rimwe, umubyeyi urera ashobora kuba yari hafi y&#039;ababyeyi babyaranye, ariko umurongo umaze kurenga ukaba wita ku mwana we, umubano hagati yawe n&#039;ababyeyi bose babyara ushobora guhinduka. Ariko ntabwo aribyo aribyo\u2026 bijyanye no gukorana nababyeyi babyaranye ibyiza byumwana hagati.<\/p>\n<p>Ibyo byavuzwe\u2026 mwese mugomba gukorera hamwe kubana, kuko uwo ni nde ibi, sibyo? Hazakenera kumvikana kubintu byinshi, byinshi\u2026 kandi bizaba, ndizera ko inzitizi nini gutsinda mumibanire yawe nabo. Ni ibihe bintu mvuga? Nibyiza, mubyukuri byose (byibuze byunvikana gutya rimwe na rimwe)\u2026 ariko nzaguha ingero nke. Niba uri muri uyu mukino wo kurera igihe kirekire, uzahita umenya icyo uzakenera kumvikana.<\/p>\n<p>Uru &quot;rutonde&quot; rwaba rukubiyemo ibintu nko gusura ibiruhuko. Kurugero, birashoboka ko mwembi mwifuza kubyara umwana mubiruhuko, ariko niba bishoboka, ushobora kugabana umunsi? Cyangwa itume ikora mwembi muburyo runaka?<\/p>\n<p>Cyangwa, ibyo umwana arya mugihe cyo gusurwa (yego, ibiryo byubusa gusa mugusura ntabwo aribyiza rwose, ariko niba gusurwa ari rimwe cyangwa kabiri mubyumweru, urashobora kureba kera? Cyangwa ukareba ko umwana arya ifunguro ryiza rwose? mbere yo gusurwa? Numunsi ukurikira? Kandi ntugire ibiryo ikibazo kinini kurugamba?)<\/p>\n<p>Uyu yakundaga kuntwika gusa\u2026 ariko ndabona noneho ko atari ikintu kinini. Nabigize mubintu ntari nkeneye: guhindura imyenda yumwana mugusura. Noneho ibi ntibishobora kuba ikibazo kubana bakuru, kuko akenshi bafite ibitekerezo byabo kumyambarire, ariko kubana \/ bato bato birashoboka rwose. Noneho, kuba nshoboye gusubira inyuma, ndabibona rwose: mama arashaka kwambika umwana imyenda ye, ntabwo ari undi muntu watoranije. Birumvikana rwose, kuko wowe (nkumubyeyi urera) ushobora no kubyumva kimwe!<\/p>\n<p>Kugira ngo ucike akanya (kandi werekane uburyo ibintu bito bishobora kubona), igihe umuhungu wanjye yari arezwe, mama wamubyaye yagize uruzinduko rurerure kuri Noheri. Noneho, ntabwo nabyishimiye, ariko yari kumwe nanjye kumunsi wa Noheri, nuko ntabona umwanya wo kwitotomba. Ariko nari naramutoranyirije umwambaro mwiza wa Noheri kugirango amusure. Agarutse, yari yambaye ikositimu ya Santa yari nto cyane. Kandi I.Was.Buzima.<\/p>\n<p>Ariko kubera iki? Kuki ari ngombwa kuri njye? Imyenda nohereje yagarutse kandi ntabwo yababaye muburyo ubwo aribwo bwose. Ahanini, ntabwo nigeze nkunda\u2026 kandi nakoraga ibintu kuri njye aho kumureba. Ubu afite ifoto ye hamwe na Noheri ye ya mbere mu myambaro SHE yahisemo\u2026 kandi ndamwishimiye kuri ibyo\u2026 dore ko nabonye umwanya wo gutekereza. Nabwirijwe kumenya ko NTAWE muribi bireba kandi ko mumikino ndende yo kurera, niba imyenda ye ihinduwe mugusura, ibyo NTA BIKORWA BIKOMEYE!<\/p>\n<p>Ibimaze kuvugwa byose, niba umwana agarutse yambaye imyenda yatoranijwe na mama ubyara (ibi birashobora kuba papa, ariko kenshi na kenshi, nkurikije ibyo nabonye, bituruka kuri mama), kwoza imyenda, hanyuma ubyohereze. kumugarukira (keretse, byanze bikunze, yagusabye kubigumana\u2026 ndetse no muri icyo gihe, umwana ntagomba kubambara\u2026 ibi bijyanye no gukora ibyo yamusabye ukamenya ko mugihe kirekire bitakureba. .)<\/p>\n<p>Kandi iheruka kurugero rwanjye: ibi birashobora gusobanura gutanga-no gufata imisatsi. (Gasp!) Nibiganiro biteye ubwoba byo kogosha umusatsi\u2026 mvuze ukuri? Niba uri mushya kurera, ntushobora kuba umenyereye iyi kinamico ikomeje kugaragara nkaho ikinirwa muri buri.single.case\u2026 ariko ndahamya ko uziga vuba bihagije ko kenshi na kenshi, iki kibazo gihinduka intambara hagati y&#039;ababyeyi barera n&#039;ababyeyi.<\/p>\n<p>None se kuki hariho impaka nkizo (cyangwa zose) muribi bintu? Nibyiza, duhereye kubabyeyi barera, dukunze kwizera ko dukwiye &quot;gutsinda&quot; mukutumvikana kuko nitwe dukora umwana kumunsi. Hanyuma, muburyo bunyuranye, ababyeyi babyaranye birashoboka ko bumva nkaho bafite bike, niba bihari, bavuga kubibera mubuzima bwumwana wabo mugihe bari kurerwa. Ndagerageza kubitekerezaho, no gutekereza uburyo byanteye kumva. Nizera ko bizatuma nsobanukirwa ikintu icyo ari cyo cyose nshobora kugira ingaruka kuri\u2026 kandi gishobora gusobanura gusaba ibiruhuko, kugenzura ibiryo igihe wasuye, guhitamo imyenda, no kogosha umusatsi.<\/p>\n<p>Noneho menye neza ko ndimo mvuga gusa kimwe cya kabiri cyumubano wo kurera; Ndashidikanya ko ababyeyi benshi babyaranye bazasoma amagambo yanjye. Birumvikana ko nshobora kwibeshya. Kandi nzi ko hari byinshi gusa wowe, ababyeyi barera, ushobora gukora, ariko dore inama nakugira: Kora uko ushoboye kugirango amahoro abeho. Abana ni abanyabwenge kandi bitonze kuruta uko ushobora kubitekereza, kandi bazamenya niba hari ukutumvikana\u2026 kandi bazamenya byanze bikunze iyo bibaye.<\/p>\n<p>Bashobora kuba bamaze guhangayikishwa nuko bafite amarangamutima avanze, kandi ntibashobora kumenya neza uko babyumva. Bashobora gukunda ababyeyi babyara kimwe nababyeyi barera, ariko kubakunda kubwimpamvu zitandukanye kandi muburyo butandukanye. Nkuko umwana ufite ababyeyi batabana munsi yinzu imwe, umwana urera ashobora kumva ibibazo byababyeyi bose\u2026 muriki gihe batemeranya kukintu kibareba.<\/p>\n<p>Nongeye rero, ndavuga nti: kora uko ushoboye, uko ushoboye kose, kubungabunga amahoro no gutuza ibintu muri iyi mibanire y&#039;ababyeyi; reka ibintu bito kandi ibi bizafasha muri rusange umwana\u2026 niyo ntego yo kurera.<\/p>\n<p>Mubyukuri,<\/p>\n<p>Kris<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I know I\u2019ve touched on the subject of the relationship with biological parents previously, but I just feel that it\u2019s so important that I want to discuss it again. I read a quote recently and it really hit home. 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