{"id":9425,"date":"2021-06-17T21:35:24","date_gmt":"2021-06-17T21:35:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.childrensbureau.org\/?p=9425"},"modified":"2025-02-25T12:05:53","modified_gmt":"2025-02-25T17:05:53","slug":"kris-corner-from-the-trenches-what-i-wish-id-know-part-6","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/ht\/resources\/news-library\/kris-corner-from-the-trenches-what-i-wish-id-know-part-6\/","title":{"rendered":"Kris' Corner- Soti nan tranche yo: Sa mwen swete mwen ta konnen pati 5"},"content":{"rendered":"

Mwen pral frape w ak yon sitasyon soti nan yon paran adoptif ki soti nan p\u00f2tay tan sa a: "Aksepte \u00e8d pa vle di ke ou pa ka f\u00e8 sa."<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Ou mesye... Mwen te di sa anvan epi mwen pral di li ank\u00f2. Ou pa kapab yon paran adoptif nan yon silo.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Oke yo dwe jis ... ou kapab. Men, li pral pi difisil anpil, ak chans pou yo f\u00e8 li byen yo on\u00e8tman pral diminye. Se konsa, ki jan ou jwenn \u00e8d ou a?<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Mwen te pale sou kominote swen nan tan lontan e sa yo se yon fason gwo ke fanmi adoptif yo ka resevwa \u00e8d. Nan ka ou rate p\u00f2s sa a, sa a se yon sip\u00f2 konpl\u00e8 pou 4 a 6 moun (oswa plis si fanmi adoptif la gen anpil timoun) epi li ka yon gwo sous sip\u00f2 ki konsistan pou yon fanmi adoptif.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Men, se pa tout moun ki gen aks\u00e8 a yon Kominote Swen. An reyalite, pif\u00f2 paran adoptif yo pa f\u00e8 sa... Ki sa yo f\u00e8?<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Mwen ankouraje paran adoptif yo pou yo f\u00f2me yon sist\u00e8m sip\u00f2 ki konpoze lajman de l\u00f2t paran adoptif yo. Koulye a, sa te di, li definitivman bezwen genyen ladan yo paran ki pa adoptif tou, paske ki l\u00f2t moun ou pral rekrite pa dousman trase yo nan mond ou a?!? Men, nan tout seryezman, sip\u00f2 ou ta dwe konpoze de tou de.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Se konsa, ki kote ou jwenn paran adoptif sa yo? Mwen te jwenn mwen nan legliz ak nan yon gwoup sip\u00f2 paran adoptif ak adoptif. Ou pa bezwen konnen anpil ak L\u00e8 sa a, se tankou p\u00f2tay yo louvri ... Gen ANPIL nan nou ke li souvan difisil a kw\u00e8 ou pa t 'toujou w\u00e8 yo.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0T<\/span>Atrav\u00e8 koneksyon sa yo, jwenn moun ou yo... moun ak ki moun ou klike, moun ki "chante menm chan an", moun ki paran tankou ou f\u00e8 (oswa ki jan ou SWETE ou te f\u00e8). L\u00e8 sa a, jis mache ansanm ak yo ... ak chans yo ke yo pral resipw\u00f2k.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Fanmi ki pa adoptif yo pral zanmi ak fanmi ki deja nan lavi w ki vle mache ansanm ak sip\u00f2te w nan nouvo chapit sa a.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Se konsa, poukisa, egzakteman, nou bezwen moun sa yo ak sip\u00f2 yo nan lavi nou?<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Premy\u00e8man, w ap gen randevou...anpil randevou, anpil.randevou. Randevou dokt\u00e8 ak randevou terapi ak odyans tribinal ak vizit ak tout bagay sa yo. Plis jis lavi an jeneral.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0Y<\/span>ou pral bezwen \u00e8d pou f\u00e8 timoun nan isit la, la ak tout kote... espesyalman si gen plis pase yon timoun. Endepandamman si w ap travay aplentan, a tan pasy\u00e8l, oswa ale lek\u00f2l, oswa nenp\u00f2t konbinezon bagay sa yo, w ap bezwen \u00e8d.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Koulye a, n<\/span>o yon moun konprann sa w ap f\u00e8 eksperyans tankou l\u00f2t moun nan menm bato a, kidonk li ede definitivman genyen yo nan kwen ou. Men, zanmi ak fanmi (ki pa ka nan menm kann\u00f2t la) definitivman vle ede tou. Yo ka pa toujou konprann sa k ap pase nan mond ou a, men gen chans pou yo vle ede. Se konsa, mwen ankouraje w pran avantaj de \u00f2f yo. Pafwa, si yo ofri w yon repa, oswa yon ranmase nan mak\u00e8t oswa yon l\u00f2t bagay nan magazen an ... di wi pou sa; toujou yon wi!<\/span><\/p>\n

Mwen konnen sa w ap panse: pafwa li santi w anbarasan, oswa tankou li sanble ou pa ka jere li. Men, on\u00e8tman, pet\u00e8t ou pa kapab... omwen pa jou sa a. Oswa sem\u00e8n. Epi sa se OK.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Aksepte \u00e8d pa vle di ou pa ka f\u00e8 li. Ou totalman kapab, men pet\u00e8t ou ka f\u00e8 li pi byen ak yon ti \u00e8d sou b\u00f2. <\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Pratikman nenp\u00f2t bagay ou f\u00e8 ka f\u00e8 pi fasil av\u00e8k \u00e8d... poukisa swen adoptif ta diferan?<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Sens\u00e8man,<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Kris<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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