{"id":9398,"date":"2021-06-10T22:39:19","date_gmt":"2021-06-10T22:39:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.childrensbureau.org\/?p=9398"},"modified":"2025-02-25T12:05:54","modified_gmt":"2025-02-25T17:05:54","slug":"kris-corner-from-the-trenches-what-i-wish-id-known-part-4","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/ht\/resources\/news-library\/kris-corner-from-the-trenches-what-i-wish-id-known-part-4\/","title":{"rendered":"Kwen Kris-Soti nan tranche yo: Sa mwen swete mwen ta konnen pati 4"},"content":{"rendered":"

Li pral siman pa sipriz ke l\u00e8 ou vin yon paran adoptif, tan ou fini divize menm plis pase tout tan. Se konsa, ou dwe f\u00e8 atansyon nan veye pw\u00f2p tan ou ak tan fanmi ou; pou ede ak sa, w ap bezwen fikse (oswa aprann fikse) limit ki an sante ak reyalis.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Paran adoptif mwen te pale ak yo te gen k\u00e8k bagay yo di sou sij\u00e8 sa a. Twa nan yo te f\u00e8, an reyalite. Se konsa, menm si souvan mwen site s\u00e8lman yon paran pou chak sij\u00e8, fwa sa a mwen te site twa, k\u00f2m pwen yo valab epi yo pale nan pozisyon nan eksperyans:<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>\u201cAsire w ke 'Non' ou vle di non l\u00e8 li rive nan or\u00e8 ou ak l\u00e8 vizit ou yo. Defann tan fanmi w epi pwoteje li! Pa gen moun ki nan 'sist\u00e8m lan' ki p'ap antre pou mete fanmi w ansanm pou w dwe f\u00e8 fanmi w yon priyorite.\u201d<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>\u201cLi oke pou w defann or\u00e8 ak bezwen pw\u00f2p fanmi w\u2026. se oke pou w di yon bagay pa pral mache oswa ou bezwen yon l\u00f2t l\u00e8.\u201d<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>\u201cMwen swete mwen ta konnen fleksibilite ou bezwen ak or\u00e8 w la...Mwen pa t prepare pou gen anpil moun ki antre ak soti lakay mwen...e anpil nan yo (espesyalman ak premye ka koup nou yo) pa t sanble. gen anpil resp\u00e8 pou tan nou oswa or\u00e8 nou an.\u201d<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Tout sa ki te di, pwen nan quotes sa yo se sa a: Asire w ke ou bay pw\u00f2p fanmi ou priyorite l\u00e8 ou kapab. Epi nou tout pral lib adm\u00e8t: Li vr\u00e8man difisil pou jwenn balans sa a, espesyalman nan k\u00f2mansman yon plasman; men ou dwe defann t\u00e8t ou sou yon nivo.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Koulye a, ou ta ka mande t\u00e8t ou: poukisa fanmi sa yo f\u00e8 yon gwo zaf\u00e8 sou priyorite yo? \u00c8ske nou pa jis eseye ede timoun yo? Poukisa nou dwe f\u00e8 fanmi nou yon priyorite?<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Ebyen, malerezman, gen anpil fwa pa gen anpil priyorite nan fanmi w, sou pati DCS, sip\u00e8viz\u00e8 vizit, transp\u00f2t\u00e8 oswa nenp\u00f2t l\u00f2t moun. Byen konprann, priyorite yo bay paran yo byolojik, ak timoun yo ak swen yo, ki f\u00e8 sans. Yo se responsablite DCS (e ansuit sa a nan kontrakt\u00e8 yo: sip\u00e8viz\u00e8 vizit, terapis, transp\u00f2t\u00e8, elatriye).\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Epi, nan kou, timoun adoptif yo se responsablite w (tankou paran adoptif) tou ... men tou se pw\u00f2p fanmi ou e sa se OK. Mwen pa konnen egzakteman poukisa sa a, men pafwa travay\u00e8 sosyal yo ki enplike nan ka a pral f\u00e8 ou santi ke li pa bon pou priyorite fanmi ou, men li se.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>M ap ba w p\u00e8misyon pou w bay fanmi w priyorite, jis nan ka w bezwen yon moun pou di sa.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Kounye a...pa toujou pi gwo priyorite...men omwen p\u00e8m\u00e8t pw\u00f2p fanmi w f\u00e8 LIS priyorite yo. Sa pa vle di ou ta dwe difisil oswa difisil l\u00e8 sip\u00e8viz\u00e8 vizit la ap eseye f\u00e8 yon chanjman nan or\u00e8 a, oswa si DCS vle ajoute vizit oswa yon l\u00f2t bagay. Si ou ka f\u00e8 bak epi mantalman evalye si wi ou non sa yo ap mande a se yon gwo zaf\u00e8, ou ta ka reyalize ke li pa yon pwobl\u00e8m pou akomode li. Ak chak fwa nan yon ti tan, chanjman an akty\u00e8lman amelyore or\u00e8 a pou kay adoptif la tou.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Apre yon tan ak eksperyans, ou pral aprann chwazi batay ou yo epi konnen ki l\u00e8 pou di non, ki l\u00e8 pou woule ak li, ak ki l\u00e8 pou bay fav\u00e8. Pafwa li vr\u00e8man pa pratik pou gen yon vizit siplemant\u00e8 pwograme nan, oswa l\u00e8 yon vizit chanje ... men l\u00e8 se yon bagay tankou Jou Manman, oswa Nw\u00e8l, mwen ankouraje w eseye sonje li pa s\u00e8lman sou ou. Epi l\u00e8 sa posib, pliye.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>L\u00e8 ou antre nan swen adoptif, ou dwe konprann ke tout moun ki enplike (ou menm, timoun nan, paran byolojik yo, DCS, ak tout l\u00f2t moun) pral gendwa gen pou\u00a0<\/span>"<\/span>pliye<\/span>\u201d; raman nenp\u00f2t moun pral jwenn bagay sa yo egzakteman jan yo ta renmen. Ak byensir, paran adoptif yo pral souvan gen pliye pi plis la. Men, sa pa vle di ou pa ka defann t\u00e8t ou. Ou ta ka pa (pwobableman pa pral) jwenn tout sa w ap mande, men ou pa ta dwe p\u00e8m\u00e8t t\u00e8t ou yo dwe yon pap\u00f2t nan kalite. Ou ka kenbe t\u00e8t ou sou s\u00e8ten bagay, sitou l\u00e8 li rive kenbe yon fanmi an sante.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Sens\u00e8man,<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Kris<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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