Pandan ane ki sot pase yo, mwen te gen moun ki di m ke yo jis pa s\u00e8ten yo ta ka adopte paske yo pa gen okenn l\u00f2t timoun, epi yo pa janm te gen paran.<\/p>\n
Se konsa, anjeneral mwen reponn ak yon bagay tankou sa a, "Nan k\u00e8k pwen, nou tout te nan menm pozisyon an ... nou pa te toujou paran tou."<\/p>\n
Kounye a mwen konnen sa y ap di: \u201cMwen pa konnen si m ap yon bon paran; Mwen pa konnen sa m ap f\u00e8; Mwen vle f\u00e8 li byen!"<\/p>\n
Mwen la pou m di w: Tout moun santi yo konsa anvan yon timoun antre lakay yo, kit se biyolojik oswa atrav\u00e8 swen adoptif. P\u00e8sonn pa konnen pou s\u00e8ten si yo pral yon bon paran, p\u00e8sonn pa konnen egzakteman sa yo ap f\u00e8, epi nou tout vle f\u00e8 li byen.<\/p>\n
Se konsa, mwen pral jis mete sa a dey\u00f2 isit la: S\u00e8l fason pou konnen ki jan ou pral f\u00e8 se li eseye li soti! Koulye a, mwen konnen li ka t\u00e8t chaje, epi mwen pa pral rab\u00e8 lef\u00e8t ke ou pral gen DCS ak pwobableman Children's Bureau (paske ou ta s\u00e8t\u00e8nman jwenn lisans atrav\u00e8 yo) ki ap mache ansanm ak ou k\u00f2m ou paran. Se konsa, li pa egzakteman menm eksperyans ak si ou te gen yon timoun biyolojik, men li pa konpl\u00e8tman diferan: tou de pran anpil tan, atansyon, renmen ak pasyans.<\/p>\n
Youn nan pi bon bagay sou pa janm gen paran se ke ou pa neses\u00e8man gen tout nosyon yo prejije sou sa li ta dwe tankou. Sa vle di: ou se yon ti kras nan yon adwaz vid. Mwen p'ap bay manti pou m di w ke f\u00e8 paran yon timoun adoptif se egzakteman menm jan ak paran yon timoun byolojik...paske se pa sa.<\/p>\n
Souvan, atant ou mete sou yon timoun nan swen vs yon timoun byolojik nerotipik DWE diferan. Mari m ak mwen definitivman te aprann ke fason difisil, e mwen ta riske devine ke anpil l\u00f2t paran adoptif ki tou gen timoun byolojik ta dak\u00f2. Mwen pral premye moun ki adm\u00e8t ke Children's Bureau te etonan ak f\u00f2masyon yo sou k\u00f2man yo paran yon timoun twomatize, men mwen jis pa t 'pare pou koute n\u00e8t jiskaske mwen te gen ch\u00f2k k ap viv anba do kay mwen an. Mwen pa t 'kapab anvizaje ke timoun yo ta dwe t\u00e8lman diferan, men yo definitivman. Yon fwa mwen te rann mwen kont er\u00e8 mwen te f\u00e8 nan atant, Children's Bureau te la pou ede m retounen sou wout la...donk konsidere ki jan lwen ou ta prale si w kapab abs\u00f2be enf\u00f2masyon an depi nan k\u00f2mansman an.<\/p>\n
An jeneral pwen mwen an se sa a: adoptif san byolojik ta ka yon GWO benediksyon pou ou menm ak timoun nan. Ou pa konnen sa ou pa konnen, kidonk si ou pa konnen ki jan yon timoun nerotipik ta reyaji nan yon sitiyasyon, pwobableman ou gen mwens chans konpare pitit adoptif ou a ak atant sa a; ou ta ka pa atann li konp\u00f2te li yon fason nerotip l\u00e8 li te soufri abi ak neglijans ki te rewire s\u00e8vo li, epi ou ta ka pi byen ekipe pou rankontre l 'kote li ye olye ke kote ou panse li ta dwe ye ... e sa son tankou yon genyen-genyen. pou nou toulede.<\/p>\n
Sens\u00e8man,<\/p>\n
Kris<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Over the years, I\u2019ve had people tell me that they\u2019re just not sure they could foster because they don\u2019t have any other children, and they\u2019ve never parented. So I typically respond with something like this, \u201cAt some point, we were all in the same position\u2026we weren\u2019t always parents either.\u201d Now I know what they\u2019re saying, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":19,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[10],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8453","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-kriss-corner"],"yoast_head":"\n