{"id":39568,"date":"2025-02-26T13:25:38","date_gmt":"2025-02-26T18:25:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/?p=39568"},"modified":"2025-03-06T14:03:47","modified_gmt":"2025-03-06T19:03:47","slug":"kris-corner-coping-mechanisms","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/ht\/resources\/news-library\/kris-corner-coping-mechanisms\/","title":{"rendered":"Kwen Kris - Mekanis pou siviv"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Se konsa, swen adoptif (ak on\u00e8tman lavi an jeneral) ranpli ak yon varyete diferan mekanis pou siviv. K\u00f2m yon paran adoptif, ou ta ka jwenn ke ou gen k\u00e8k tou (e menm si ou pa &quot;jwenn&quot; ke ou f\u00e8, gen chans pou ou genyen yo ... paske yo te yon paran adoptif difisil epi nou TOUT gen fason pou f\u00e8 fas ak estr\u00e8s la.)<\/p>\n<p>Men, se pa vr\u00e8man sa mwen vin la pou m pale jodi a. Mwen ta renmen pale sou mekanis pou siviv yo nou ta ka w\u00e8 nan timoun ki pran swen yo, ak ki jan nou * ta ka * ede yo chanje abitid malsen sa yo nan abitid ki pi itil. Li pa yon definitif ke nou pral kapab akonpli sa, men mwen te vle ba ou ak k\u00e8k kons\u00e8y ak ke trik nouv\u00e8l omwen eseye.<\/p>\n<p>Nou tout konnen ke timoun ki pran swen yo ap f\u00e8 fas ak yon sitiyasyon ekstr\u00e8mman estr\u00e8s ... menm plis pase yo te paran adoptif la (ki se tou estr\u00e8s, jan ou pwobableman konnen): kite d\u00e8y\u00e8 tout bagay ak tout moun ou konnen, p\u00e8t\u00e8t kite d\u00e8y\u00e8 tout byen ou, k ap viv ak tout moun l\u00f2t nasyon, ale nan yon nouvo lek\u00f2l, monte ak yon l\u00f2t etranje pou ale ak soti nan vizit lakay ou oswa yon l\u00f2t sem\u00e8n, vizite fanmi ou oswa yon l\u00f2t sem\u00e8n. yo te separe ak fr\u00e8 ak s\u00e8 ou yo...e lis la ka kontinye. Sa yo se jis k\u00e8k nan bagay sa yo yon timoun nan swen ta ka f\u00e8 fas ak.<\/p>\n<p>K\u00f2m rezilta chanjman sa yo toudenkou nan lavi li, yon timoun ka (li: gen plis chans) gen lapenn, deprime, enkyete, oswa yon konbinezon de twa yo. E menm si yo ap trav\u00e8se anpil boulv\u00e8sman emosyon\u00e8l, gen souvan toujou yon &quot;pery\u00f2d lin de my\u00e8l&quot; nan nouvo kay adoptif la. Timoun nan pral souvan konf\u00f2me, itil, jantiy\u00e8s, resp\u00e8, elatriye. Sa a se tou yon mekanis defans, men li ta ka pa dire osi lontan ke pwochen etap la nan lapenn.<\/p>\n<p>Epi santiman sa yo, jan ou ka konnen oswa ou pa ka konnen, ka sanble ak anpil l\u00f2t bagay (ki gen ladan men pa limite a sa ki annapre yo):<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>refi<\/li>\n<li>enkredilite<\/li>\n<li>trist\u00e8s<\/li>\n<li>vid<\/li>\n<li>solitid (sa sitou si yo pa s\u00e8lman retire yo nan men paran yo, men tou separe ak fr\u00e8 ak s\u00e8)<\/li>\n<li>koupab (yo ka santi yo responsab menm si se pa f\u00f2t yo)<\/li>\n<li>k\u00f2l\u00e8<\/li>\n<li>resantiman<\/li>\n<li>p\u00e8<\/li>\n<li>enkyetid<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>K\u00f2m yon egzanp, nou souvan itilize fraz &quot;fache ka sanble tris&quot; nan kay nou an. Pou pi long tan, nou pa t &#039;kapab konnen poukisa pitit nou an te fache sou bagay sa yo ... jiskaske yon jou nou dekouvri (byen pa aksidan) ke &quot;fache&quot; li te, an reyalite, &quot;tris&quot;. Chanje jw\u00e8t.<\/p>\n<p>Se konsa, pou ale ansanm ak santiman lapenn, depresyon oswa enkyetid sa yo, isit la se k\u00e8k nan mekanis malsen pou siviv ou ka oswa ou pa ka w\u00e8 nan pitit ou a (li evidan gen plis ... sa kl\u00e8man pa yon lis konpl\u00e8):<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>k\u00f2manse fimen oswa fimen plis,<\/li>\n<li>k\u00f2manse bw\u00e8 alk\u00f2l oswa bw\u00e8 plis,<\/li>\n<li>k\u00f2manse pran dw\u00f2g oswa pran plis,<\/li>\n<li>jw\u00e8t aza,<\/li>\n<li>depanse tw\u00f2p,<\/li>\n<li>v\u00f2l\u00e8,<\/li>\n<li>blese t\u00e8t li,<\/li>\n<li>mete restriksyon sou oswa binging ak purge manje,<\/li>\n<li>tw\u00f2p manje,<\/li>\n<li>d\u00f2mi tw\u00f2p oswa pa ase,<\/li>\n<li>ak santi yo kondwi pou gen yon &quot;adrenalin rush&quot; ak aktivite danjere<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Kounye a...Mwen pa yon eksp\u00e8 men mwen te li anpil bagay sou ch\u00f2k epi mwen te viv av\u00e8k li lakay mwen pou plis pase 10 ane. Men, rek\u00f2mandasyon mwen pou ede yon timoun travay nan k\u00e8k nan lapenn yo se Ent\u00e8vansyon Relasyon\u00e8l ki baze sou konfyans (TBRI). Si ou pa abitye ak TBRI, mwen sijere pran yon kou aksidan nan li. Gen k\u00e8k \u00f2ganizasyon ki ofri v\u00e8syon pi kout nan f\u00f2masyon an. Ou ka f\u00e8 plis pase 7 \u00e8dtan nan f\u00f2masyon dwa atrav\u00e8 sit ent\u00e8n\u00e8t ofisy\u00e8l la si ou se konsa enkline. Ou ka jwenn videyo sou YouTube ki pral ede w pi byen konprann prensip debaz yo. Swa li oswa koute liv odyo \u201cThe Connected Child\u201d pa David R. Cross, Karyn B. Purvis, ak Wendy Lyons Sunshine. Yon l\u00f2t fason yo gade nan sa a se l\u00e8 l s\u00e8vi av\u00e8k yon bagay ki rele &quot;paran ki ba-demann&quot; (ki mwen pral akty\u00e8lman atake nan pwochen p\u00f2s mwen an, kidonk rete branche pou plis!).<\/p>\n<p>Anba liy: priyorite relasyon ak timoun nan. Si timoun nan ap lite, pa pouse yo ale nan chanm yo... rale yo pi pre ou (pa neses\u00e8man fizikman, ki ta ka pa apwopriye pou yon timoun ki te soufri ch\u00f2k), men kenbe pwoksimite ak yo... nan menm chanm nan, menm kanape a, elatriye. Se pou yo angaje ak yo, olye ke yo dwe atantif nan telef\u00f2n ou (mwen di sa paske pou anpil nan nou se yon mekanis polisye nou ap ede telef\u00f2n ou ap ede ou. sou ent\u00e8n\u00e8t\u201d epi re-reglemante, si w ap chita la men w ap inyore yo, L\u00e8 sa a, w ap pa ede ... epi p\u00e8t\u00e8t blese relasyon an.)<\/p>\n<p>Anplis de sa, konsidere jwenn yon gwoup sip\u00f2 pou pitit ou a. Yo ta ka pa pare (omwen ok\u00f2mansman) pou pale ak yon terapis, men yo ta ka vle pale ak l\u00f2t timoun nan yon sitiyasyon menm jan an. Ede yo w\u00e8 ak konprann ke yo pa poukont yo nan lapenn yo ka tr\u00e8 benefik.<\/p>\n<p>Mwen konnen mwen te ap\u00e8n grate sifas la sou sa a e gen anpil plis mwen ta ka pataje ... men mwen te vle ba ou yon pwen sote soti nan ki ou ta ka f\u00e8 pw\u00f2p rech\u00e8ch ou, tou depann de sa pitit ou a montre ou li bezwen.<\/p>\n<p>Sens\u00e8man,<\/p>\n<p>Kris<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>So foster care (and honestly life in general) is filled with a variety of different coping mechanisms. 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