{"id":39005,"date":"2025-02-12T15:01:45","date_gmt":"2025-02-12T20:01:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/?p=39005"},"modified":"2025-02-25T12:04:26","modified_gmt":"2025-02-25T17:04:26","slug":"kris-corner-grief-in-foster-care","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/ht\/resources\/news-library\/kris-corner-grief-in-foster-care\/","title":{"rendered":"Kris&#039; Corner \u2013 Chagren nan swen adoptif"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Se konsa, gen anpil rezon ki f\u00e8 paran adoptif yo ka f\u00e8 lapenn (mwen konnen sa a ta ka pa vann li si ou se sou kloti a sou yo te yon paran adoptif). Men, anvan tout bagay, yon fanmi adoptif ta ka lapenn l\u00e8 yon timoun yo panse ki pral rete pou tout tan fini reyini ak fanmi byolojik la. Pou nou kl\u00e8: li selebre l\u00e8 yon timoun kapab ak fanmi byolojik yo, sitou si fanmi byolojik la kapab kenbe lyen ak fanmi adoptif la, itilize yo k\u00f2m sip\u00f2 nan moman bezwen.<\/p>\n<p>Sepandan, jan mwen mansyone, li ka pafwa devaste pou yon fanmi adoptif, espesyalman si yo se yon kay pre-adoptif ak wou yo te an mouvman pou adopsyon. Men, sa a se pa entansyon an nan blog mwen an jodi a. Gen l\u00f2t kalite chagren ki asosye ak swen adoptif ke mwen ta renmen rekon\u00e8t...e afime ou si ou te janm santi nenp\u00f2t nan sa yo. Sa yo ka gen ladan (men pa limite a) lis sa a:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>l\u00e8 ou jwenn sa ou te vle ak yon timoun rete nan swen ou men L\u00e8 sa a, bagay sa yo pa fini sanble tankou ou te panse (souvan pi difisil).<\/li>\n<li>l\u00e8 ou panse ou gen yon manch sou sa dyagnostik yon timoun se (oswa dyagnostik yo ye), men li vire soti yo dwe pi plis.<\/li>\n<li>l\u00e8 yon timoun pi gran epi li pran swen, ou panse ou gen yon foto tr\u00e8 bon de sa k ap pase...men se te jis yon pery\u00f2d lin de my\u00e8l.<\/li>\n<li>l\u00e8 yon tibebe oswa yon timoun piti vini lakay ou, ou p ap konnen jiskaske timoun nan grandi ak matirite pou dekouvri egzakteman ki kalite pwobl\u00e8m oswa reta oswa dyagnostik li genyen.<\/li>\n<li>l\u00e8 paran byolojik yo chaje w ak abi oswa neglijans.<\/li>\n<li>l\u00e8 w ap pran swen timoun ki gen ch\u00f2k, men manman byolojik plasman w lan te f\u00e8 yon l\u00f2t ti bebe epi li te mande w pou w pran yo.<\/li>\n<li>l\u00e8 ou te antre nan sa a ede timoun ki soti nan kote difisil epi li jis pa ditou tankou ou te panse li ta.<\/li>\n<li>l\u00e8 w santi w ap bat t\u00e8t ou kont miray la, epi pa gen okenn pwogr\u00e8 ki f\u00e8t.<\/li>\n<li>l\u00e8 ou menm santi tankou ou pa s\u00e8lman ap deplase pi devan, men, an reyalite, ap deplase bak.<\/li>\n<li>l\u00e8 li difisil epi li fwistre ak en\u00e8van ak dekouraje.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Tout bagay sa yo ka vr\u00e8man difisil. Ak lapenn nenp\u00f2t nan bagay sa yo: se kalite lapenn ke m ap pale a.<\/p>\n<p>Ak anpil fwa li mennen nan non s\u00e8lman santiman lapenn men pet\u00e8t menm rem\u00f2; ki ka definitivman santi tankou yon kote ki f\u00e8 nwa. Epi l\u00e8 sa rive, tanpri konnen ke ou pa poukont ou nan santi w konsa; chagren an se absoliman rey\u00e8l e menm si se pa tout moun ka konprann li (sitou si yo pa nan mond lan nan swen adoptif), sa pa minimize bagay sa yo ou santi yo.<\/p>\n<p>Se l\u00e8 santiman ak panse sa yo p\u00e8siste, ou DWE lonje k\u00f2 ou epi mande \u00e8d. Jwenn yon gwoup sip\u00f2. Rele yon zanmi ki te sip\u00f2te ak konpreyansyon nan vwayaj swen adoptif ou. Jwenn yon konseye (gen k\u00e8k konseye vr\u00e8man gwo disponib n\u00f2malman si ou pa disponib pou w\u00e8 youn an p\u00e8s\u00f2n oswa or\u00e8 ou limite). Pa gen okenn wont nan nenp\u00f2t nan sa yo ... k\u00e8lkeswa sa yon l\u00f2t moun ka eseye di ou.<\/p>\n<p>Epitou, si yo adopte pitit ou a, ou ka jwenn asistans atrav\u00e8 S\u00e8vis Post Adopsyon. Si yo se yon timoun ki toujou nan swen, ajans ou a (Firefly Children and Family Alliance) souvan pral yon resous etonan pou \u00e8d. Men, l\u00f2t fwa, mwen te jwenn, lapenn nan jis frape m &#039;soti nan ble a epi li pa omnipr\u00e9sente men olye de sa li se yon moman (oswa pet\u00e8t menm yon jou) kote mwen santi mwen dekouraje oswa pesimis ... e pou sa, mwen gen yon sijesyon eseye.<\/p>\n<p>Li pa toujou pral repons lan pou tout moun e mwen pa ta oze sijere ke li se. Men, isit la se...manje pou reflechi, si pa gen anyen l\u00f2t bagay, pou jwenn nan moman yo plen chagren. L\u00e8 mwen santi mwen nan fen k\u00f2d mwen an, mwen mete yon rev\u00e8y pou k\u00e8k minit (pet\u00e8t 10), epi kite t\u00e8t mwen lapenn lef\u00e8t ke bagay yo pa gade tankou mwen te panse. Mwen kriye yon ti kras si mwen bezwen (mwen f\u00e8 sa souvan), L\u00e8 sa a, l\u00e8 rev\u00e8y la ale, mwen siye figi mwen epi kontinye f\u00e8 travay mwen te f\u00e8 a.<\/p>\n<p>Koulye a, sa vle di ke anyen vin pi fasil? Non. \u00c8ske li toujou f\u00e8 m soti nan funk mwen an? Non. \u00c8ske lapenn mwen santi pafwa plis pase estrateji pou siviv sa a ka ede? Wi. Men pafwa tou senpleman gen sa a emosyon\u00e8l lage ak rekonesans nan sa ou santi ou ka amelyore pespektiv ou epi p\u00e8m\u00e8t ou kontinye ak travay enp\u00f2tan ak neses\u00e8 nan adoptif paran.<\/p>\n<p>Sens\u00e8man,<\/p>\n<p>Kris<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>So there are lots of reasons that foster parents might grieve (I know this might not be selling it if you are on the fence about being a foster parent). 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