{"id":10168,"date":"2020-05-01T15:27:24","date_gmt":"2020-05-01T19:27:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/?p=10168"},"modified":"2025-02-25T12:06:51","modified_gmt":"2025-02-25T17:06:51","slug":"is-it-punishment-or-discipline","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/ht\/resources\/news-library\/is-it-punishment-or-discipline\/","title":{"rendered":"ESKE SE PINISYON, OSWA DISIPLIN?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Ot\u00e8: Rene Elsbury; MSW, LSW<br \/>\nTerapis ki baze lakay ou<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>L\u00e8 mwen tande mo pinisyon an mwen panse sou l\u00e8 mwen te yon ti fi ak oblije netwaye chanm mwen nan yon jou sol\u00e8y; Mwen te santi ke paran m te rayi m paske yo pa t kite m jwe ak zanmi m yo. Mwen sonje tou diskisyon mwen te genyen ak paran mwen sou kouvrefe nan lek\u00f2l segond\u00e8. Li te santi m enjis l\u00e8 zanmi m yo pa t oblije lakay yo osi bon\u00e8 ke mwen te f\u00e8. L\u00e8 mwen reflechi sou anfans mwen, mwen pa panse ak fese ke mwen te resevwa k\u00f2m yo te byen lwen ak k\u00e8k nan mitan, oswa f\u00e8 bouch mwen lave ak savon pou rele papa m &#039;yon move non. Pet\u00e8t se paske mwen te santi mwen te merite pinisyon yo plis l\u00e8 mwen te konprann sa m t ap f\u00e8 a te mal, olye ke jis yon fese rapid san okenn eksplikasyon.<\/p>\n<p>K\u00f2m yon paran, p\u00e8spektiv mwen te chanje l\u00e8 li rive pinisyon ak disiplin. Ki sa ki te santi tankou konsekans terib l\u00e8 yon timoun yo te jis disiplin. Paran m yo t ap fikse limit pou anseye m kijan pou m responsab, responsab epi sa ki pi enp\u00f2tan pou kenbe m an sekirite. Mwen f\u00e8 menm bagay ak pitit mwen yo jodi a; apw\u00f2ch mwen an se jis yon ti kras diferan. Mwen disipline pitit mwen yo nan mete limit. Mwen vle pitit mwen yo san danje epi mwen vle pitit mwen yo aprann pou yo vin granmoun ki responsab epi aprann ladr\u00e8s lavi yo ke yo pral bezwen pou fonksyone antanke granmoun. Mwen vle pou pitit mwen yo menm bagay ke paran mwen te vle pou mwen e kounye a, mwen konprann p\u00e8spektiv yo plis pase tout tan. Se konsa, mwen mete kouvrefe epi mwen gen r\u00e8g kl\u00e8 sou itilizasyon ent\u00e8n\u00e8t ak itilizasyon telef\u00f2n. Pitit mwen yo gen k\u00e8k travay ki apwopriye pou laj yo ke yo espere f\u00e8 chak sem\u00e8n epi l\u00e8 yo pa f\u00e8 travay yo, yo retire privil\u00e8j yo. Mwen s\u00e8ten yo santi ke mwen se yon manman mechan e ke mwen ap pini yo, men rey\u00e8lman mwen jis itilize teknik disiplin ke mwen konnen yo efikas.<\/p>\n<p>Poukisa mwen pa fese, soufle, kriye, f\u00e8men p\u00f2t chanm yo, epi s\u00e8vi ak savon? Se pa paske mwen se yon terapis \u2013 mwen te yon paran pou anpil ane anvan mwen te vin yon terapis. Malgre ke, vin yon terapis te f\u00e8 m &#039;pi byen konprann poukisa pinisyon se pa yon f\u00f2m efikas nan disiplin. Mwen pa pini pitit mwen yo paske se pa sa ki te aprann mwen leson pou tout lavi yo l\u00e8 mwen te timoun. Se te disiplin ak estrikti paran m yo te bay: woutin l\u00e8 yo d\u00f2mi, fikse l\u00e8 manje, devwa, ak l\u00e8 jwe. Se te \u00f2ganizasyon an nan konnen ki sa yo atann jou nan ak jou soti. Li te gen privil\u00e8j tankou jwe ak zanmi, jwi popsicles, ak gade emisyon televizyon pi renmen m &#039;yo retire l\u00e8 mwen pa t&#039; swiv r\u00e8g kay la. Se mezi sekirite ak kouvrefe, oblije pale ak paran zanmi mwen te vle jwe av\u00e8k yo, epi oblije mete yon kas sou bisikl\u00e8t ki te ede m vin tounen yon adilt ki kapab e ki responsab. Li te gen r\u00e8g yo ak atant byen kl\u00e8 eple pou mwen k\u00f2m yon timoun epi yo pa jis yo te f\u00e8 moute sou t\u00e8ren an. Li te eksplike rezon ki te d\u00e8y\u00e8 disiplin nan l\u00e8 mwen pa t &#039;konprann r\u00e8g la. Se bagay sa yo ki te anseye m leson mwen te bezwen pou m rive kote m ye jodi a.<\/p>\n<p>Mwen espere ke yon jou pitit mwen yo pral gade d\u00e8y\u00e8 epi sonje ke mwen te renmen yo. Mwen espere ke yo konnen ke mwen te f\u00e8 tout sa m kapab pou kenbe yo an sekirite epi aprann kijan pou yo reyisi nan lavi a nan anseye yo sa yo ta bezwen pou avni yo. Mwen rekonesan mwen te aprann leson lavi difisil sa yo av\u00e8k lanmou ak sip\u00f2 e mwen te kapab pwouve ke mwen ka f\u00e8 bon chwa pou m f\u00e8 konfyans. Nou swete ke pitit mwen yo pral aprann sa tou. Nan fen jounen an, mwen vle sa tout paran yo vle- Mwen vle pitit mwen yo an sante, k\u00e8 kontan, ak an sekirite.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>L\u00e8 mwen tande mo pinisyon an mwen panse sou l\u00e8 mwen te yon ti fi ak oblije netwaye chanm mwen nan yon jou sol\u00e8y; Mwen te santi ke paran m te rayi m paske yo pa t kite m jwe ak zanmi m yo. Mwen sonje tou diskisyon mwen te genyen ak paran mwen sou kouvrefe nan lek\u00f2l segond\u00e8. Li te santi m enjis l\u00e8 zanmi m yo pa t oblije lakay yo osi bon\u00e8 ke mwen te f\u00e8. L\u00e8 mwen reflechi sou anfans mwen, mwen pa panse ak fese ke mwen te resevwa k\u00f2m yo te byen lwen ak k\u00e8k nan mitan, oswa f\u00e8 bouch mwen lave ak savon pou rele papa m &#039;yon move non. Pet\u00e8t se paske mwen te santi mwen te merite pinisyon yo plis l\u00e8 mwen te konprann sa m t ap f\u00e8 a te mal, olye ke jis yon fese rapid san okenn eksplikasyon.<\/p>","protected":false},"author":19,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[16],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-10168","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-family-childhood-development"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.3 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/product\/yoast-seo-wordpress\/ -->\n<title>IS IT PUNISHMENT, OR DISCIPLINE? - Firefly Children and Family Alliance<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/ht\/resources\/news-library\/is-it-punishment-or-discipline\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"ht_HT\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"IS IT PUNISHMENT, OR DISCIPLINE? - Firefly Children and Family Alliance\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"When I hear the word punishment I think about when I was a little girl and having to clean my room on a sunny day; I felt like my parents hated me because they didn\u2019t let me play with my friends. 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