{"id":39005,"date":"2025-02-12T15:01:45","date_gmt":"2025-02-12T20:01:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/?p=39005"},"modified":"2025-02-25T12:04:26","modified_gmt":"2025-02-25T17:04:26","slug":"kris-corner-grief-in-foster-care","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/fr\/resources\/news-library\/kris-corner-grief-in-foster-care\/","title":{"rendered":"Le coin de Kris \u2013 Le deuil dans les familles d\u2019accueil"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Il existe donc de nombreuses raisons pour lesquelles les parents d\u2019accueil peuvent \u00eatre en deuil (je sais que cela ne vous convaincra peut-\u00eatre pas si vous h\u00e9sitez \u00e0 devenir parent d\u2019accueil). Mais avant tout, une famille d\u2019accueil peut \u00eatre en deuil lorsqu\u2019un enfant qu\u2019elle pensait rester pour toujours finit par \u00eatre r\u00e9uni avec sa famille biologique. Pour \u00eatre clair : on se r\u00e9jouit lorsqu\u2019un enfant peut \u00eatre avec sa famille biologique, surtout si la famille biologique est capable de maintenir des liens avec la famille d\u2019accueil, en l\u2019utilisant comme soutien en cas de besoin.<\/p>\n<p>Cependant, comme je l&#039;ai mentionn\u00e9, cela peut parfois \u00eatre d\u00e9vastateur pour une famille d&#039;accueil, surtout s&#039;il s&#039;agit d&#039;un foyer pr\u00e9-adoptif et que les roues \u00e9taient en mouvement pour l&#039;adoption. Mais ce n&#039;est pas l&#039;objectif de mon blog aujourd&#039;hui. Il existe d&#039;autres types de deuil associ\u00e9s au placement en famille d&#039;accueil que j&#039;aimerais reconna\u00eetre... et vous confirmer si vous avez d\u00e9j\u00e0 ressenti l&#039;un d&#039;entre eux. Ceux-ci peuvent inclure (mais ne se limitent pas \u00e0) la liste suivante :<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>quand vous obtenez ce que vous vouliez et qu&#039;un enfant reste sous votre garde, mais que les choses ne se passent pas comme vous le pensiez (souvent beaucoup plus difficile).<\/li>\n<li>quand vous pensez avoir une id\u00e9e de ce qu&#039;est le diagnostic (ou les diagnostics) d&#039;un enfant, mais qu&#039;il s&#039;av\u00e8re que c&#039;est bien plus que cela.<\/li>\n<li>Lorsqu\u2019un enfant est plus \u00e2g\u00e9 et qu\u2019il est pris en charge, vous pensez avoir une assez bonne id\u00e9e de ce qui se passe\u2026 mais ce n\u2019\u00e9tait qu\u2019une p\u00e9riode de lune de miel.<\/li>\n<li>Lorsqu&#039;un nourrisson ou un jeune enfant arrive \u00e0 la maison, vous ne saurez pas avant que l&#039;enfant grandisse et m\u00fbrisse pour d\u00e9couvrir exactement quel type de probl\u00e8mes, de retards ou de diagnostics il a.<\/li>\n<li>lorsque les parents biologiques vous accusent d\u2019abus ou de n\u00e9gligence.<\/li>\n<li>lorsque vous \u00eates d\u00e9bord\u00e9 par la prise en charge d&#039;enfants traumatis\u00e9s, mais que la m\u00e8re biologique de votre enfant plac\u00e9 a eu un autre b\u00e9b\u00e9 et vous a demand\u00e9 de le prendre en charge.<\/li>\n<li>quand vous vous \u00eates lanc\u00e9 dans cette aventure pour aider des enfants en difficult\u00e9 et que ce n&#039;est pas du tout comme vous l&#039;aviez imagin\u00e9.<\/li>\n<li>quand vous avez l&#039;impression de vous cogner la t\u00eate contre les murs et qu&#039;aucun progr\u00e8s n&#039;est r\u00e9alis\u00e9.<\/li>\n<li>quand vous avez l&#039;impression que non seulement vous n&#039;avancez pas, mais que, en fait, vous reculez.<\/li>\n<li>quand c&#039;est dur et frustrant, d\u00e9cevant et d\u00e9courageant.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Toutes ces situations peuvent \u00eatre tr\u00e8s difficiles. Et faire le deuil de l&#039;une de ces choses : c&#039;est le genre de deuil dont je parle.<\/p>\n<p>Et bien souvent, cela conduit non seulement \u00e0 des sentiments de chagrin, mais peut-\u00eatre m\u00eame \u00e0 des remords ; cela peut vraiment \u00eatre une exp\u00e9rience sombre. Et lorsque cela se produit, sachez que vous n&#039;\u00eates pas seul \u00e0 ressentir cela ; le chagrin est absolument r\u00e9el et m\u00eame si tout le monde ne le comprend pas (surtout s&#039;ils ne vivent pas dans le monde de la famille d&#039;accueil), cela ne minimise pas les choses que vous ressentez.<\/p>\n<p>C&#039;est lorsque ces sentiments et ces pens\u00e9es persistent que vous DEVEZ demander de l&#039;aide. Trouvez un groupe de soutien. Appelez un ami qui vous a soutenu et qui a compris votre parcours en famille d&#039;accueil. Trouvez un conseiller (il existe de tr\u00e8s bons conseillers disponibles virtuellement si vous n&#039;\u00eates pas disponible pour en voir un en personne ou si votre emploi du temps est limit\u00e9). Il n&#039;y a aucune honte \u00e0 cela\u2026 peu importe ce que quelqu&#039;un d&#039;autre peut essayer de vous dire.<\/p>\n<p>De plus, si votre enfant est adopt\u00e9, vous pouvez obtenir de l&#039;aide aupr\u00e8s des services post-adoption. S&#039;il s&#039;agit d&#039;un enfant toujours pris en charge, votre agence (Firefly Children and Family Alliance) sera souvent une ressource formidable pour vous aider. Mais d&#039;autres fois, j&#039;ai constat\u00e9 que le chagrin me frappe de mani\u00e8re inattendue et qu&#039;il n&#039;est pas omnipr\u00e9sent, mais qu&#039;il s&#039;agit plut\u00f4t d&#039;un moment (ou peut-\u00eatre m\u00eame d&#039;une journ\u00e9e) o\u00f9 je me sens d\u00e9prim\u00e9e, d\u00e9courag\u00e9e ou pessimiste... et pour cela, j&#039;ai une suggestion \u00e0 essayer.<\/p>\n<p>Ce n\u2019est pas toujours la solution pour tout le monde et je n\u2019oserais pas dire que c\u2019est le cas. Mais la voici\u2026 mati\u00e8re \u00e0 r\u00e9flexion, ne serait-ce que pour traverser les moments de deuil. Quand je me sens au bout du rouleau, je r\u00e8gle un minuteur sur quelques minutes (peut-\u00eatre 10) et je me laisse pleurer le fait que les choses ne se passent pas comme je le pensais. Je pleure un peu si j\u2019en ai besoin (ce qui arrive souvent), puis lorsque le minuteur sonne, je m\u2019essuie le visage et je continue le travail que je fais.<\/p>\n<p>Maintenant\u2026 est-ce que \u00e7a veut dire que tout est devenu plus facile ? Non. Est-ce que \u00e7a me permet toujours de sortir de ma d\u00e9prime ? Non. Est-ce que le chagrin que je ressens parfois est plus important que ce que cette strat\u00e9gie d\u2019adaptation peut aider ? Oui. Mais parfois, le simple fait de se lib\u00e9rer \u00e9motionnellement et de reconna\u00eetre ce que l\u2019on ressent peut am\u00e9liorer nos perspectives et nous permettre de continuer le travail important et n\u00e9cessaire de parent d\u2019accueil.<\/p>\n<p>Sinc\u00e8rement,<\/p>\n<p>Kris<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>So there are lots of reasons that foster parents might grieve (I know this might not be selling it if you are on the fence about being a foster parent). 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