Quels probl\u00e8mes ont-ils ? (En fait, c'est souvent moins doux\u2026 g\u00e9n\u00e9ralement plus du genre \u00ab Qu'est-ce qui ne va pas avec eux ? \u00bb)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\nLa liste se rallonge de plus en plus.<\/p>\n
Et pourtant, ce ne sont pas des questions que l\u2019on poserait normalement \u00e0 quelqu\u2019un d\u2019autre, alors pourquoi les gens ont-ils l\u2019impression qu\u2019il est appropri\u00e9 de se plonger dans les affaires personnelles d\u2019un enfant qui vient de vivre le traumatisme d\u2019\u00eatre retir\u00e9 de sa famille biologique ?<\/p>\n
Ce n'est pas appropri\u00e9\u2026 jamais.<\/p>\n
Ce n'est pas acceptable\u2026 jamais.<\/p>\n
Et en tant que parents d'accueil, une partie de notre travail consiste \u00e0 prot\u00e9ger les enfants, \u00e0 prot\u00e9ger leur vie priv\u00e9e et \u00e0 prot\u00e9ger leurs histoires\u2026 en particulier des oreilles et des l\u00e8vres indiscr\u00e8tes de personnes qui n'ont que peu ou pas d'int\u00e9r\u00eat \u00e0 aider l'enfant. Souvent, ce sont simplement des bavards ou des gens qui ont d\u00e9j\u00e0 en t\u00eate \u00e0 quoi ressemble chaque enfant adopt\u00e9 et \u00e0 quoi ressemble chaque situation, alors ils cherchent simplement du carburant pour alimenter leur opinion biais\u00e9e\u2026 ou ils veulent se sentir comme s'ils \u00e9taient d'une mani\u00e8re ou d'une autre. \u00ab au courant \u00bb.<\/p>\n
Ou pire encore, ils veulent juste savoir ce qui se passe sur ce pauvre enfant. C'est l'affaire de l'enfant et l'affaire de l'enfant seulement\u00a0; ce n'est \u00e0 personne d'autre de partager.<\/p>\n
Maintenant\u2026 si vous \u00eates un parent d'accueil et que vous avez trop partag\u00e9 (ou si vous connaissez un parent d'accueil et avez pos\u00e9 de telles questions)\u2026 ne d\u00e9sesp\u00e9rez pas. Il n\u2019est jamais trop tard pour arranger les choses\u2026 ou \u00e0 tout le moins, gardez la bouche ferm\u00e9e pour l\u2019avenir. Parce que j\u2019avoue volontiers qu\u2019au d\u00e9but de notre voyage, j\u2019\u00e9tais horrible \u00e0 prot\u00e9ger les enfants de cette mani\u00e8re.<\/p>\n
Et pourquoi est-ce que? La raison \u00e9tait double : je n\u2019ai jamais vraiment pens\u00e9 que je devais garder l\u2019information pour moi, et aussi \u00e0 cause du facteur de choc. Non pas que j'essayais de choquer les autres, mais moi-m\u00eame, j'\u00e9tais choqu\u00e9 par ce que j'entendais et par ce que les enfants avaient v\u00e9cu et je ne pouvais pas me taire.<\/p>\n
A\u00efe\u2026 \u00e7a me semble TELLEMENT grin\u00e7ant maintenant, mais je ne savais pas ce que je ne savais pas. Mais MAINTENANT, je sais\u2026 c'est exactement pourquoi je partage cela avec vous, afin que j'esp\u00e8re que vous \u00e9viterez les m\u00eames faux pas.<\/p>\n
Et je dirai qu'heureusement, nous avons rapidement appris que les d\u00e9tails n'ont pas besoin d'\u00eatre partag\u00e9s car ce n'\u00e9taient pas nos d\u00e9tails \u00e0 partager\u00a0; M\u00eame si nous nous occupions des enfants, nous \u00e9tions plus ou moins des spectateurs de l'\u00e9v\u00e9nement. Et que les gens qui posaient des questions \u00e9taient simplement curieux.<\/p>\n
Alors maintenant que je vous ai potentiellement un peu condamn\u00e9, je veux vous apporter quelques aides pour les moments o\u00f9 les gens posent des questions inappropri\u00e9es sur les enfants dont vous avez la garde\u2026 parce que m\u00eame si vous VOULEZ dire \u00ab Cela ne vous regarde pas \u00ab Je douterais s\u00e9rieusement que la plupart d'entre nous le fassent, m\u00eame si cela rel\u00e8ve de notre droit de le faire afin de prot\u00e9ger les enfants.<\/p>\n
Au lieu de cela, voici quelques suggestions \u00e0 consid\u00e9rer et \u00e0 mettre dans votre poche lorsque l\u2019occasion se pr\u00e9sente\u00a0:<\/p>\n
Pourquoi a-t-il \u00e9t\u00e9 expuls\u00e9 ?<\/p>\n
Soyez vague, vague, vague. Honn\u00eatement, vous ne savez probablement pas grand-chose, surtout au d\u00e9but d'une affaire, et afin de ne pas d\u00e9peindre la famille biologique sous un mauvais jour, vous pouvez expliquer simplement et succinctement quelque chose comme ceci : \u00ab Nous ne connaissons pas beaucoup de d\u00e9tails \u00e0 ce moment-l\u00e0. ce point, mais pour l\u2019instant, il restera avec nous et nous lui donnerons les meilleurs soins possibles\u2026 et lorsque quelque chose change avec le plan actuel, notre FCM nous le fera savoir.<\/p>\n
Une r\u00e9ponse comme celle-l\u00e0 peut faire taire une Nellie curieuse assez rapidement. Et peut \u00e9galement s'appliquer \u00e0 des questions telles que \u00ab Combien de temps va-t-il rester ? \u00bb, \u00ab Depuis combien de temps est-il pris en charge ? \u00bb et \u00ab Qu'est-ce qui ne va pas chez lui ? \u00bb<\/p>\n
Lorsqu'on vous demande si vous allez l'adopter (car on vous le demandera), vous pouvez donner une r\u00e9ponse comme celle-ci : \u00ab Nous ne sommes pas les seuls \u00e0 \u00eatre impliqu\u00e9s dans cette d\u00e9cision\u2026 et pour le moment, le plan est la r\u00e9unification, ce qui nous choisissons de soutenir. Mais il peut rester aussi longtemps qu\u2019il le souhaite.<\/p>\n
Bien s\u00fbr, de nombreuses questions pourraient vous \u00eatre pos\u00e9es\u00a0; ce ne sont l\u00e0 que quelques exemples des plus courants. Mais en fin de compte : ayez \u00e0 port\u00e9e de main une r\u00e9ponse (au mieux de vos capacit\u00e9s) qui prot\u00e8ge l\u2019enfant, ses parents et leur histoire. Allez m\u00eame jusqu\u2019\u00e0 vous demander avant de r\u00e9pondre : cette r\u00e9ponse concerne-t-elle davantage la fa\u00e7on dont je vais \u00eatre per\u00e7u ou l\u2019enfant ? Et s\u2019il s\u2019agit de vous, la r\u00e9ponse devra peut-\u00eatre \u00eatre ajust\u00e9e.<\/p>\n
D\u00e9sol\u00e9 si ce commentaire fait un peu mal\u2026 mais c'est nous qui intervenons dans leurs histoires, donc c'est \u00e0 eux de d\u00e9cider avec qui et combien ils choisissent de partager.<\/p>\n
Et pour adoucir un peu la piq\u00fbre de mon commentaire ci-dessus\u2026 sachez simplement qu'en vous effor\u00e7ant de prot\u00e9ger la vie priv\u00e9e des enfants dont vous avez la garde, ils peuvent ressentir un sentiment de s\u00fbret\u00e9 et de s\u00e9curit\u00e9 dans votre maison, ce qui peut contribuer \u00e0 leur gu\u00e9rison.<\/p>\n
Sinc\u00e8rement,<\/p>\n
Kris<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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