{"id":10402,"date":"2022-04-07T16:17:37","date_gmt":"2022-04-07T20:17:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/?p=10402"},"modified":"2025-02-25T12:05:16","modified_gmt":"2025-02-25T17:05:16","slug":"kris-corner-disney-like-experiences","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/fr\/resources\/news-library\/kris-corner-disney-like-experiences\/","title":{"rendered":"Kris&#039; Corner - Exp\u00e9riences de type Disney"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Dans mon dernier article, j&#039;ai encourag\u00e9 les parents d&#039;accueil \u00e0 faire preuve de compr\u00e9hension et de patience pendant que l&#039;enfant s&#039;adapte \u00e0 son nouvel environnement ; car ils seront expos\u00e9s \u00e0 une vari\u00e9t\u00e9 de nouvelles exp\u00e9riences.<\/p>\n<p>Mais aujourd\u2019hui, je veux parler d\u2019un autre ph\u00e9nom\u00e8ne (bien que moins courant) en termes d\u2019exp\u00e9riences avec les enfants pris en charge\u2026 et c\u2019est la tentation de leur offrir des \u00ab exp\u00e9riences de type Disney \u00bb.<\/p>\n<p>Qu\u2019est-ce que je veux dire par l\u00e0 ? Eh bien, c&#039;est l&#039;id\u00e9e que cet enfant a \u00ab manqu\u00e9 tellement de choses \u00e0 cause de son traumatisme et de son style de vie, que je veux me rattraper en lui donnant tout ce qu&#039;il n&#039;a pas eu ; et\/ou les emmener faire toutes les choses amusantes et incroyables qu&#039;ils ont manqu\u00e9es\u2026 et plus encore\u00a0!\u00a0\u00bb<\/p>\n<p>Il comprend toutes les choses amusantes, nouvelles et passionnantes. Il peut s\u2019agir de leur acheter le dernier t\u00e9l\u00e9phone ou des chaussures co\u00fbteuses. Il peut s&#039;agir de visiter des restaurants amusants ou diff\u00e9rents. Il peut s&#039;agir de regarder certaines \u00e9missions ou certains films (ou d&#039;aller au cin\u00e9ma). Il peut s&#039;agir d&#039;un voyage dans un parc d&#039;attractions ou de grandes vacances chics. Il s\u2019agit peut-\u00eatre de profiter d\u2019activit\u00e9s familiales amusantes chaque week-end. Cela pourrait \u00eatre BEAUCOUP de choses diff\u00e9rentes.<\/p>\n<p>Maintenant, pourquoi un parent adoptif ferait-il ce genre de chose ? Eh bien, je crois comprendre que ce type de r\u00e9action chez un parent adoptif na\u00eet du sentiment de culpabilit\u00e9 qu&#039;il ressent \u00e0 l&#039;id\u00e9e que l&#039;enfant ait v\u00e9cu une exp\u00e9rience de vie difficile (et g\u00e9n\u00e9ralement douloureuse) jusqu&#039;\u00e0 pr\u00e9sent. Et \u00e0 premi\u00e8re vue, il ne semble pas SI mal que le parent adoptif \u00ab rattrape \u00bb le manque de l&#039;enfant, mais \u00eatre parent avec cette culpabilit\u00e9 au premier plan n&#039;est pas ce qu&#039;il y a de mieux pour l&#039;enfant, pour plusieurs raisons.<\/p>\n<p>Ces raisons incluent, sans s&#039;y limiter\u00a0:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>confusion sur ce qui est\/devrait \u00eatre important\u00a0;<\/li>\n<li>Attentes irr\u00e9alistes;<\/li>\n<li>m\u00e9contentement \u00e0 l&#039;\u00e9gard des parents biologiques de l&#039;enfant (surtout s&#039;ils sont r\u00e9unifi\u00e9s) ;<\/li>\n<li>un attachement inappropri\u00e9 au foyer d&#039;accueil ou aux parents, bas\u00e9 sur les choses tangibles qu&#039;un enfant peut recevoir ou les exp\u00e9riences qu&#039;il peut vivre ; et<\/li>\n<li>perception erron\u00e9e de ce qu&#039;est r\u00e9ellement faire partie d&#039;une famille.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Et peut-\u00eatre que l\u2019effet secondaire le plus important est que cela creuse l\u2019\u00e9cart d\u00e9j\u00e0 existant entre la famille d\u2019accueil et la famille biologique. Ce n\u2019est certainement pas le but ou l\u2019objectif du placement familial. L\u2019objectif est g\u00e9n\u00e9ralement la r\u00e9unification. Ainsi, si vous achetez et faites constamment tout ce que l&#039;enfant veut, vous creusez \u00e9galement un foss\u00e9 entre les deux familles, intentionnellement ou non, ajoutant ainsi un fardeau \u00e9motionnel \u00e0 un enfant qui est d\u00e9j\u00e0 accabl\u00e9 par beaucoup de choses. bagage \u00e9motionnel.<\/p>\n<p>Maintenant\u2026 je ne dis pas que vous ne pouvez pas faire des choses amusantes, gentilles ou sp\u00e9ciales pour un enfant en famille d&#039;accueil\u2026 elles valent totalement toutes ces choses et oui, vous DEVRIEZ les faire. Mais ce que je dis, c\u2019est que cela ne devrait pas \u00eatre fait d\u00e8s le d\u00e9part, car cela perturberait et entraverait la relation entre vous et l\u2019enfant. Et il serait difficile de le maintenir sur le long terme.<\/p>\n<p>Et en parlant de long terme\u2026 est-ce ainsi que vous voulez vraiment \u00e9lever un enfant\u00a0? Je veux dire, surtout, si pour une raison quelconque, vous finissez par donner \u00e0 l&#039;enfant un foyer permanent, continuerez-vous \u00e0 maintenir un niveau \u00e9lev\u00e9 de cadeaux fr\u00e9quents ou co\u00fbteux et de divertissements \u00e0 haute \u00e9nergie ? Non, vous ne le ferez probablement pas\u2026 et alors, o\u00f9 cela vous m\u00e8ne-t-il \u00e0 vous et \u00e0 l\u2019enfant\u00a0? Ils auront l&#039;impression que vous leur avez lanc\u00e9 un app\u00e2t et un interrupteur\u2026 en faisant semblant d&#039;\u00eatre une chose, alors que vous \u00e9tiez vraiment autre chose. Et je doute que je sois oblig\u00e9 de le dire, mais ce n&#039;est pas une excellente fa\u00e7on d&#039;avoir des relations et de l&#039;attachement.<\/p>\n<p>Tout cela pour dire, ce n&#039;est qu&#039;une mati\u00e8re \u00e0 r\u00e9flexion avant de vous lancer et de vouloir donner, donner, donner\u2026 au lieu de simplement \u00eatre, \u00eatre, \u00eatre.<\/p>\n<p>Sinc\u00e8rement,<\/p>\n<p>Kris<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In my last post, I encouraged foster parents to be understanding and patient as a child adapts to their new environment; because they will be exposed to a variety of new experiences. 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