{"id":10190,"date":"2020-12-29T15:59:46","date_gmt":"2020-12-29T20:59:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/?p=10190"},"modified":"2025-02-25T12:06:08","modified_gmt":"2025-02-25T17:06:08","slug":"the-most-wonderful-and-dreaded-time-of-the-year","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/fr\/resources\/news-library\/the-most-wonderful-and-dreaded-time-of-the-year\/","title":{"rendered":"LA P\u00c9RIODE LA PLUS \u00ab MERVEILLEUSE \u00bb ET \u00ab REDOUT\u00c9E \u00bb DE L'ANN\u00c9E"},"content":{"rendered":"

Par : Jamise Kafour\u00e9 ; Conseiller<\/p>\n

La fin de chaque ann\u00e9e marque in\u00e9vitablement un \u00ab changement \u00bb important dans les conversations lors du counseling des clients. J'entends souvent la peur, l'ambivalence, la d\u00e9pression, l'anxi\u00e9t\u00e9, la terreur et l'angoisse exprim\u00e9es dans nos conversations, car ces \u00e9motions sont directement li\u00e9es aux vacances \u00e0 venir. Le th\u00e8me central de ces discussions est soit la \u00ab\u00a0perte\u00a0\u00bb, soit le \u00ab\u00a0changement\u00a0\u00bb d'un certain type.<\/p>\n

Le chagrin et la perte peuvent nous faire perdre les jambes quand nous nous y attendons le moins. Ces sentiments peuvent provenir du d\u00e9c\u00e8s d'un \u00eatre cher, d'un changement de relation ou de la peur due \u00e0 la perte d'emploi\/de revenu et \u00e0 la fa\u00e7on de subvenir aux besoins de nos familles. Ces sentiments peuvent aussi provenir de la s\u00e9paration des membres de la famille qui habitent loin, ou simplement de l'incapacit\u00e9 \u00e0 faire face aux m\u00e9dias et \u00e0 toute la hype entourant ce moment \u00ab joyeux \u00bb. Malheureusement, il n'existe pas de formule \u00ab\u00a0normale\u00a0\u00bb ou simple qui aide \u00e0 g\u00e9rer ses sentiments de chagrin et de perte.<\/p>\n

Les \u00ab\u00a0souvenirs\u00a0\u00bb des vacances pass\u00e9es peuvent \u00eatre intimidants, car la \u00ab\u00a0r\u00e9alit\u00e9\u00a0\u00bb du pr\u00e9sent est \u00e9crasante. Alors\u2026 comment faire face aux rappels constants que les vacances approchent \u00e0 grands pas alors qu'il semble naturel de se cacher sous une couverture et d'\u00e9viter toute interaction avec les autres ?<\/p>\n

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  1. Arr\u00eatez\/Respirez\/Continuez. Prenez un jour \u00e0 la fois et soyez patient avec vous-m\u00eame. Essayez de t\u00e9l\u00e9charger et d'utiliser une application gratuite comme\u00a0Espace de t\u00eate\u00a0<\/a>qui enseigne la m\u00e9ditation.<\/li>\n
  2. Rappelez-vous que les vacances ont un d\u00e9but, un milieu et une FIN\ud83d\ude0a<\/li>\n
  3. Pratiquez les affirmations positives et le discours int\u00e9rieur. Par exemple, dites quotidiennement la pri\u00e8re de la s\u00e9r\u00e9nit\u00e9 ou t\u00e9l\u00e9chargez l'application gratuite\u00a0"R\u00e9fl\u00e9chissez".<\/a><\/li>\n
  4. Ne vous attachez pas trop \u00e0 une pens\u00e9e particuli\u00e8re un jour donn\u00e9. Gardez un esprit ouvert et des attentes saines pour la p\u00e9riode des F\u00eates.<\/li>\n
  5. Dites-vous : \u00ab C'est normal de ressentir une gamme d'\u00e9motions et je ne suis peut-\u00eatre pas heureux toute la journ\u00e9e tous les jours \u00bb.<\/li>\n
  6. Familiarisez-vous avec le\u00a0Cinq \u00e9tapes du deuil\/<\/a>Perte du Dr Elizabeth Kubler-Ross.<\/li>\n
  7. Faites savoir \u00e0 vos proches que \u00ab cette \u00bb ann\u00e9e sera \u00ab diff\u00e9rente \u00bb. Soyez cr\u00e9atif et lancez de nouvelles traditions.<\/li>\n
  8. Trouvez un endroit ou une personne \u00ab\u00a0s\u00fbr\u00a0\u00bb avec qui partager vos pens\u00e9es et vos sentiments.Contactez les familles d'abord.<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    (Sur une note personnelle\u2026 Cela fait 32 ans que ma m\u00e8re est d\u00e9c\u00e9d\u00e9e, et chaque Thanksgiving (sa f\u00eate pr\u00e9f\u00e9r\u00e9e) apporte des sentiments de perte et de joie. Pour l'honorer et se souvenir d'elle, mes fr\u00e8res et s\u0153urs et moi commen\u00e7ons nos festivit\u00e9s avec un \u00ab toast \u00bb au cou de dinde. \u00e0 elle\u2026 revivre notre souvenir de vacances pr\u00e9f\u00e9r\u00e9\u2026 go\u00fbter la dinde avant le d\u00eener.)<\/p>\n

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    La fin de chaque ann\u00e9e marque in\u00e9vitablement un \u00ab changement \u00bb important dans les conversations lors du counseling des clients. J'entends souvent la peur, l'ambivalence, la d\u00e9pression, l'anxi\u00e9t\u00e9, la terreur et l'angoisse exprim\u00e9es dans nos conversations, car ces \u00e9motions sont directement li\u00e9es aux vacances \u00e0 venir. Le th\u00e8me central de ces discussions est soit la \u00ab\u00a0perte\u00a0\u00bb, soit le \u00ab\u00a0changement\u00a0\u00bb d'un certain type.
    \nLe chagrin et la perte peuvent nous faire perdre les jambes lorsque nous nous y attendons le moins. Ces sentiments peuvent provenir du d\u00e9c\u00e8s d'un \u00eatre cher, d'un changement de relation ou de la peur due \u00e0 la perte d'emploi\/de revenu et \u00e0 la mani\u00e8re de subvenir aux besoins de notre famille. Ces sentiments peuvent aussi provenir de la s\u00e9paration de membres de la famille qui vivent loin, ou simplement de l\u2019incapacit\u00e9 \u00e0 faire face aux m\u00e9dias et \u00e0 tout le battage m\u00e9diatique autour de cette p\u00e9riode \u00ab joyeuse \u00bb. 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