{"id":9458,"date":"2021-07-08T20:11:57","date_gmt":"2021-07-08T20:11:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.childrensbureau.org\/?p=9458"},"modified":"2025-02-25T12:05:53","modified_gmt":"2025-02-25T17:05:53","slug":"kris-corner-from-the-trenches-what-i-wish-id-known-part-7","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/es\/resources\/news-library\/kris-corner-from-the-trenches-what-i-wish-id-known-part-7\/","title":{"rendered":"El Rinc\u00f3n de Kris-Desde las Trincheras: Lo que me hubiera gustado saber parte 7"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ya mencion\u00e9 esto un poco, pero quiero enfatizar este punto en particular: debes ser flexible cuando eres un padre de crianza. Esto siempre es cierto en la colocaci\u00f3n inicial, pero esta necesidad de flexibilidad <\/span>Lo m\u00e1s probable es que dirija todo el curso del caso. Eso no quiere decir que sea intencional o que se haga a prop\u00f3sito... es simplemente la forma en que suele funcionar el cuidado de crianza.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Esto es lo que una madre adoptiva dijo al respecto: \u201cMe sorprendi\u00f3 ver con qu\u00e9 frecuencia cambian las citas y los planes. Aproximadamente 3\/4 de las cosas que programamos se cambian porque alguien llega tarde, se reprograma, etc., se necesita MUCHA flexibilidad\u201d.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Entonces, cuando habl\u00e9 inicialmente del concepto de flexibilidad, lo hice en relaci\u00f3n con el funcionamiento diario del hogar y los comportamientos del ni\u00f1o, durante los primeros d\u00edas y semanas despu\u00e9s de que un ni\u00f1o llega a su hogar.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Esta publicaci\u00f3n trata m\u00e1s sobre el hecho de que a veces puede parecer que est\u00e1s caminando sobre arena movediza; no s\u00f3lo al principio, sino hasta el final. Debido a que hay tantas personas involucradas en un caso, los conflictos de horarios son comunes y a menudo parece que los padres de crianza son los que tienen que cambiar su horario.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span>Obviamente, no siempre es as\u00ed; pero a veces se siente as\u00ed.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Pero dir\u00e9 esto: al comienzo de un caso, DCS y su administrador de caso CB y los supervisores de visitas y cualquier otra persona involucrada est\u00e1n experimentando lo mismo que usted... porque todos est\u00e1n tratando de crear la base para que el ni\u00f1o pueda partir. avanzar. Y para crear la l\u00ednea de base, tienen que descubrir qu\u00e9 estaba sucediendo (o qu\u00e9 no sucedi\u00f3) antes de la eliminaci\u00f3n.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Y mientras todos los dem\u00e1s en el caso miran hacia atr\u00e1s y hacia adelante, usted, como padre de crianza, est\u00e1 en la trinchera. Es cierto que est\u00e1n mirando lo que vendr\u00e1 en el futuro, pero sobre todo tambi\u00e9n est\u00e1n mirando lo que est\u00e1 sucediendo ahora mismo frente a ustedes y lo que debe abordarse de inmediato. <\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Eso significa que usted tiene las citas iniciales con el m\u00e9dico (y muchas veces ser\u00e1 su trabajo localizar al m\u00e9dico anterior, que probablemente sea asignado por Medicaid); posiblemente necesites<\/span>\u00a0dental\u00a0<\/span>citas y citas de Primeros Pasos u otras citas de terapia. Y es su responsabilidad programarlos (y posiblemente reprogramarlos si es necesario).<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Y mientras planificas esas cosas, es posible\/probable que tambi\u00e9n se est\u00e9 planificando la visita inicial a la familia biol\u00f3gica. Y la primera audiencia judicial. Y una visita de su FCM. Y una visita de su asistente social de CB. Y una visita de la CASA. Y despu\u00e9s de la primera audiencia, se establecer\u00e1 el calendario de visitas.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Eso sin mencionar llevar y traer al ni\u00f1o a la escuela (ya sea su escuela regular o un traslado a la escuela cercana a usted). O averiguar c\u00f3mo cuidar a los ni\u00f1os.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Y estoy seguro de que no es dif\u00edcil ver c\u00f3mo algunas de ellas podr\u00edan terminar siendo reservas dobles (o triples). Entonces, lo que quiero decir aqu\u00ed es que debes saber que tendr\u00e1s que ser flexible. Y entendimiento. Y sepa que nadie est\u00e1 tratando de obligarlo a reprogramar las cosas, pero, por ejemplo, muchas veces si se programan una cita con el m\u00e9dico y una visita con los padres biol\u00f3gicos al mismo tiempo, usted ser\u00e1 quien haga el cambio. No siempre, por supuesto, pero s\u00ed a menudo.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Ahora bien, como mencion\u00e9 anteriormente, esta flexibilidad no es necesaria s\u00f3lo al comienzo de un caso, sino potencialmente durante todo el proceso.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Aunque hay muchos ejemplos de c\u00f3mo se podr\u00eda poner en juego su flexibilidad, me viene a la mente este en particular porque fue nuestro caso. Debido a que nuestro hijo ten\u00eda un estado m\u00e9dico tan alto, el juez orden\u00f3 a sus padres biol\u00f3gicos que asistieran a todas sus citas m\u00e9dicas. Y tras la cita, tomar\u00edan el resto de su visita.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Al principio esto me molest\u00f3, pero finalmente llegu\u00e9 a comprender el razonamiento del juez. Si iba a reunirse con sus padres, estos deber\u00edan escuchar del m\u00e9dico todo lo relacionado con su atenci\u00f3n. <\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Pero si soy totalmente honesto, esto es lo que realmente me molest\u00f3: este mandato requiri\u00f3 mucha flexibilidad de mi parte, porque este ni\u00f1o ten\u00eda MUCHAS citas m\u00e9dicas. Ya no pod\u00eda programar citas seg\u00fan mis necesidades, sino que ten\u00eda que hacerlas cuando los padres estaban disponibles. Es comprensible que todav\u00eda no me hubiera dado cuenta del hecho de que parte de mi papel como padre de crianza era ser flexible... y era esa flexibilidad de mi parte la que ayudaba a los padres a trabajar en su plan lo mejor que pod\u00edan.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

El punto es... incluso si no siempre quieres ser flexible y a veces no puedes entender el motivo de un cambio o por qu\u00e9 tienes que ceder... te animo a que aguantes y hagas lo que puedas para que la situaci\u00f3n sea viable para todos. involucrado. Nunca es algo personal en tu contra, incluso si sientes que est\u00e1s haciendo mucha \u201cflexi\u00f3n\u201d y, en \u00faltima instancia, podr\u00edas ser t\u00fa quien tenga que cambiar de planes.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Y si bien no hace que la necesidad de ser flexible sea m\u00e1s placentera, es de esperar que esto le ayude a ver la necesidad de ello y que, al menos a veces, podr\u00eda ser casi un papel no escrito de ser padre adoptivo.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Atentamente,<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Kris\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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