{"id":9398,"date":"2021-06-10T22:39:19","date_gmt":"2021-06-10T22:39:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.childrensbureau.org\/?p=9398"},"modified":"2025-02-25T12:05:54","modified_gmt":"2025-02-25T17:05:54","slug":"kris-corner-from-the-trenches-what-i-wish-id-known-part-4","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/es\/resources\/news-library\/kris-corner-from-the-trenches-what-i-wish-id-known-part-4\/","title":{"rendered":"El Rinc\u00f3n de Kris-Desde las Trincheras: Lo que me hubiera gustado saber parte 4"},"content":{"rendered":"

Seguramente no ser\u00e1 una sorpresa que cuando te conviertas en padre adoptivo, tu tiempo termine dividido a\u00fan m\u00e1s que nunca. Por eso, deb\u00e9is tener cuidado al guardar vuestro propio tiempo y el tiempo de vuestra familia; Para ayudar con eso, necesitar\u00e1s establecer (o aprender a establecer) l\u00edmites saludables y realistas.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Los padres de crianza con los que habl\u00e9 ten\u00edan algunas cosas que decir sobre este tema. De hecho, tres de ellos lo hicieron. Entonces, aunque a menudo solo cito a un padre por tema, esta vez he citado tres, ya que sus puntos son v\u00e1lidos y hablan desde posiciones de experiencia:<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>\u201cAseg\u00farese de que su 'No' signifique no en lo que respecta a su agenda y horarios de visitas. \u00a1Aboga por tu tiempo en familia y prot\u00e9gelo! Nadie en 'el sistema' vendr\u00e1 a unir a tu familia, as\u00ed que tienes que hacer de tu familia una prioridad\u201d.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>\u201cEst\u00e1 bien defender los horarios y las necesidades de su propia familia\u2026. est\u00e1 bien decir que algo no funcionar\u00e1 o que necesitas otro momento\u201d.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>\u201cOjal\u00e1 hubiera sabido la flexibilidad que necesitas con tu horario... No estaba preparado para tener tanta gente entrando y saliendo de mi casa... y muchos de los cuales (especialmente con nuestros primeros dos casos) no parec\u00edan Tenemos mucho respeto por nuestro tiempo o horario\u201d.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Dicho todo esto, el objetivo de estas citas es el siguiente: aseg\u00farese de darle prioridad a su propia familia cuando pueda. Y todos lo admitiremos libremente: es realmente dif\u00edcil encontrar ese equilibrio, especialmente al comienzo de una colocaci\u00f3n; pero tienes que defenderte a ti mismo en alg\u00fan nivel.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Ahora quiz\u00e1s te preguntes: \u00bfpor qu\u00e9 estas familias dan tanta importancia a las prioridades? \u00bfNo estamos simplemente tratando de ayudar a los ni\u00f1os? \u00bfPor qu\u00e9 tenemos que hacer de nuestra familia una prioridad?<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Bueno, desafortunadamente, aparentemente hay poca o ninguna prioridad para su familia, por parte del DCS, los supervisores de visitas, los transportistas o cualquier otra persona. Es comprensible que se d\u00e9 prioridad a los padres biol\u00f3gicos y a los ni\u00f1os y su cuidado, lo cual tiene sentido. Son responsabilidad de DCS (y posteriormente de los contratistas: supervisores de visita, terapeutas, transportistas, etc).\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Y, por supuesto, los ni\u00f1os de crianza tambi\u00e9n son su responsabilidad (como padres de crianza)... pero tambi\u00e9n lo es su propia familia y eso est\u00e1 bien. No s\u00e9 exactamente por qu\u00e9 es as\u00ed, pero a veces los trabajadores sociales involucrados en el caso te har\u00e1n sentir que no est\u00e1 bien priorizar a tu familia, pero lo es.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Te doy permiso para priorizar a tu familia, en caso de que necesites que alguien te diga eso.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Ahora\u2026 no siempre la M\u00c1XIMA prioridad\u2026 pero al menos permita que su propia familia haga la LISTA de prioridades. Eso no quiere decir que usted deba ser dif\u00edcil o duro cuando el supervisor de visitas intenta hacer un cambio en el cronograma, o si DCS quiere agregar visitas o algo m\u00e1s. Si puede dar un paso atr\u00e1s y evaluar mentalmente si lo que le est\u00e1n pidiendo es importante o no, es posible que se d\u00e9 cuenta de que no es un problema adaptarse a ello. Y de vez en cuando, el cambio tambi\u00e9n mejora el horario del hogar de acogida.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Con el tiempo y la experiencia, aprender\u00e1 a elegir sus batallas y sabr\u00e1 cu\u00e1ndo decir no, cu\u00e1ndo seguir adelante y cu\u00e1ndo dar gracia. A veces realmente no es conveniente programar una visita adicional o cambiar el horario de la visita... pero cuando es algo como el D\u00eda de la Madre o Navidad, te animo a que intentes recordar que no se trata solo de ti. Y cuando sea posible, doblese.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Cuando ingresa al cuidado de crianza, debe comprender que todos los involucrados (usted, el ni\u00f1o, los padres biol\u00f3gicos, DCS y todos los dem\u00e1s) probablemente tendr\u00e1n que\u00a0<\/span>\u201c<\/span>doblar<\/span>\u201d; rara vez alguien consigue las cosas exactamente como le gustar\u00eda. Y es cierto que los padres adoptivos a menudo ser\u00e1n los que m\u00e1s tendr\u00e1n que ceder. Pero eso no significa que no puedas defenderte por ti mismo. Es posible que no obtengas (probablemente no) todo lo que est\u00e1s pidiendo, pero no debes permitirte ser una especie de felpudo. Puedes mantenerte firme en ciertas cosas, especialmente cuando se trata de mantener una familia sana.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Atentamente,<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Kris<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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