{"id":9335,"date":"2021-05-05T15:39:24","date_gmt":"2021-05-05T15:39:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.childrensbureau.org\/?p=9335"},"modified":"2025-02-25T12:05:55","modified_gmt":"2025-02-25T17:05:55","slug":"kris-corner-navigating-mothers-day-with-biological-moms","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/es\/resources\/news-library\/kris-corner-navigating-mothers-day-with-biological-moms\/","title":{"rendered":"Rinc\u00f3n de Kris \u2013 Navegando el D\u00eda de la Madre con mam\u00e1s biol\u00f3gicas"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>D\u00eda de la Madre. Me pasa todos los a\u00f1os\u2026 desde que nuestro hijo vino a vivir con nosotros. Desear\u00eda poder decir que se vuelve m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil; pero, sinceramente, lo contrario es cierto. Pienso en su madre biol\u00f3gica m\u00e1s en el D\u00eda de la Madre que en cualquier otro momento.<\/p>\n<p>Trato de ponerme en su lugar e imaginar c\u00f3mo es para ella estar sin su hijo (y en su caso, \u00daNICO hijo) cualquier d\u00eda, pero especialmente el \u00fanico d\u00eda al a\u00f1o dedicado a las mam\u00e1s.<\/p>\n<p>Recientemente me enter\u00e9 de que el d\u00eda anterior al D\u00eda de la Madre es el D\u00eda de la Madre de Nacimiento. Y as\u00ed, en el esp\u00edritu del D\u00eda de la Madre y el D\u00eda de la Madre Biol\u00f3gica, solo quiero animar a celebrar a la madre biol\u00f3gica de un ni\u00f1o.<\/p>\n<p>Ahora, s\u00e9 que puede estar pensando: &quot;\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 celebrar\u00eda a esta mujer que le hizo X, Y y Z a su hijo?&quot; Porque al final del d\u00eda, sin importar sus habilidades de crianza (o la falta de ellas), lo m\u00e1s probable es que ella realmente ame a su hijo. Es posible que ella no tenga idea de c\u00f3mo mostrar ese amor, o que no tenga idea de c\u00f3mo ser padre... pero \u00bfalguna vez se ha detenido a considerar por qu\u00e9 podr\u00eda ser eso?<\/p>\n<p>Incluso si lo ha pensado, sigamos ese camino por un momento: es posible que haya tenido problemas para ser madre porque no tiene apoyo. Me refiero a CERO personas en su vida que pueden ayudarla... o mostrarle c\u00f3mo es una paternidad saludable. O tal vez nunca tuvo a alguien que la amara; entonces, ella no tiene idea de c\u00f3mo mostrar amor a otra persona. \u00bfY si tiene una funci\u00f3n cognitiva baja? O posiblemente no sabe c\u00f3mo salir de una adicci\u00f3n o de una relaci\u00f3n abusiva.<\/p>\n<p>Hay muchas razones posibles por las que le quitaron a su hijo de su cuidado. Pero independientemente del &quot;por qu\u00e9&quot;, todav\u00eda podr\u00eda celebrarse; por lo menos ella eligi\u00f3 la vida para \u00e9l y \u00e9l siempre tendr\u00e1 una conexi\u00f3n con ella... aunque solo sea a trav\u00e9s de la biolog\u00eda. Entonces, si un ni\u00f1o est\u00e1 contigo temporalmente o para siempre, ella sigue siendo una parte de \u00e9l y siempre lo ser\u00e1.<\/p>\n<p>No celebrarla es no celebrar esa parte de \u00e9l... que podr\u00eda ser hiriente para \u00e9l, tanto ahora como en el futuro. M\u00e1s sobre eso en otro post.<\/p>\n<p>Para evitar tal peligro para su hijo, quer\u00eda darle algunas ideas que podr\u00eda considerar al pensar en celebrar a la madre biol\u00f3gica de su hijo.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>una manualidad de huellas de manos de alg\u00fan tipo para un ni\u00f1o m\u00e1s peque\u00f1o (Pinterest tiene MUCHAS de este tipo de cosas, as\u00ed que consulte all\u00ed si necesita inspiraci\u00f3n)<\/li>\n<li>un cuadro, pintura o cer\u00e1mica pintada hecha por el ni\u00f1o<\/li>\n<li>una historia, un poema o algo que el ni\u00f1o haya escrito para \u00e9l o sobre \u00e9l<\/li>\n<li>una fotograf\u00eda... podr\u00eda ser una tomada recientemente (puede pedirle ayuda al supervisor de la visita) o una tomada hace mucho tiempo de ella y el ni\u00f1o juntos, poner en un marco para su custodia<\/li>\n<li>un libro de fotos encuadernado solo del ni\u00f1o (o del ni\u00f1o con hermanos, especialmente si est\u00e1n en otros hogares)<\/li>\n<li>un diario en blanco y unos bonitos bol\u00edgrafos<\/li>\n<li>algunos de sus bocadillos favoritos... especialmente buenos si un ni\u00f1o es mayor y sabe lo que le gustar\u00eda; o incluso algunos bocadillos que a un ni\u00f1o le gustar\u00eda escoger para ella sin importar si sabe o no lo que le gusta<\/li>\n<li>flores frescas cortadas<\/li>\n<li>una tarjeta hecha a mano<\/li>\n<li>Galletas caseras<\/li>\n<li>pedirle a DCS que tenga una visita adicional para celebrar el d\u00eda, o al menos una llamada de Zoom<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Una nota r\u00e1pida, porque s\u00e9 que algunos de ustedes pueden estar en una situaci\u00f3n en la que el ni\u00f1o no ver\u00e1 a su mam\u00e1 porque las visitas han sido suspendidas: consiga una caja especial para guardarlo. Esta puede ser una forma de que el ni\u00f1o se la \u201centregue\u201d simb\u00f3licamente hasta el momento en que realmente pueda hacerlo. Entonces, de esta manera, todav\u00eda puede hacer o comprar algo para ella (no perecedero, por razones obvias) y solo est\u00e1 &quot;en un patr\u00f3n de espera&quot; por un tiempo. Tambi\u00e9n podr\u00eda poner otros documentos especiales, boletas de calificaciones, premios, etc. para mostr\u00e1rselos en una fecha posterior.<\/p>\n<p>Ahora volvamos a la celebraci\u00f3n: esto no tiene que ser algo enorme o costoso. Solo algo para marcar ese d\u00eda y permitirle saber que alguien est\u00e1 pensando en ella. Qu\u00e9 tr\u00e1gico no ser pensado nunca, \u00bfverdad? O no saber si ALGUNA VEZ pensaron en ti. Pero en el D\u00eda de la Madre, al menos, sabr\u00eda que hay pensamientos sobre ella en alguna parte.<\/p>\n<p>Dicho esto, una celebraci\u00f3n de ella no disminuye su lugar en la vida y el coraz\u00f3n de su hijo de crianza.<\/p>\n<p>Confesi\u00f3n verdadera: luch\u00e9 con esa idea durante mucho tiempo y, sinceramente, la idea de celebrarla me puso celoso. No pod\u00eda entender c\u00f3mo es posible que \u00e9l la ame, pero a trav\u00e9s de mucha lectura, estudio e introspecci\u00f3n, s\u00e9 que es verdad: \u00e9l no tiene una cantidad finita de amor para dar, as\u00ed que PUEDE amarla y \u00e9l puede amarme Los dos juntos. Hay suficiente espacio en su coraz\u00f3n para los dos. Eso no significa que nos ame por igual, pero puede amarnos a los dos.<\/p>\n<p>Y es por eso que la madre biol\u00f3gica de su hijo puede (y DEBE) celebrarse.<\/p>\n<p>Atentamente,<\/p>\n<p>Kris<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Mother\u2019s Day. 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