{"id":8979,"date":"2020-11-25T21:05:56","date_gmt":"2020-11-25T21:05:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.childrensbureau.org\/?p=8979"},"modified":"2025-02-25T12:06:21","modified_gmt":"2025-02-25T17:06:21","slug":"kris-corner-when-to-say-no","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/es\/resources\/news-library\/kris-corner-when-to-say-no\/","title":{"rendered":"El rinc\u00f3n de Kris \u2013 Cu\u00e1ndo decir que no"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Esta es la cuesti\u00f3n... esta respuesta ser\u00e1 diferente para todos, pero \u00bfcu\u00e1ndo deber\u00eda decir \u201cno\u201d a una posible ubicaci\u00f3n? Hay muchas, muchas, muchas razones para decir que s\u00ed... y para algunos de ustedes, &quot;s\u00ed&quot; siempre ser\u00e1 la respuesta, porque tienen la capacidad (emocional y f\u00edsicamente) para hacerlo.<\/p>\n<p>Pero a veces hay que decir \u201cno\u201d. Para tomar una decisi\u00f3n acertada, y especialmente si tienes un tipo de personalidad como yo, debes tener l\u00edmites claros sobre el tipo de ubicaci\u00f3n que est\u00e1s dispuesto y eres capaz de aceptar.<\/p>\n<p>Como mencion\u00e9 anteriormente, algunas personas son muy abiertas y est\u00e1n dispuestas y son capaces de aceptar pr\u00e1cticamente cualquier tipo de colocaci\u00f3n... y yo digo: \u201c\u00a1Dios los bendiga! \u00a1Eso es sencillamente asombroso!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Pero creo que la mayor\u00eda de nosotros tenemos capacidades profundas y tenemos que establecer l\u00edmites... tanto para nosotros como para la agencia.<\/p>\n<p>Por ejemplo, si ha configurado par\u00e1metros que dicen:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>2 ni\u00f1os m\u00e1ximo<\/li>\n<li>solo chicos<\/li>\n<li>S\u00f3lo de 5 a 12 a\u00f1os<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Pero recibes una llamada con la colocaci\u00f3n de emergencia de un ni\u00f1o y 2 ni\u00f1as, todos menores de 4 a\u00f1os... \u00a1NO TOMES LA COLOCACI\u00d3N! (Esta es mi experiencia que entra en juego aqu\u00ed... \u00a1S\u00e9 de lo que hablo!)<\/p>\n<p>Ahora bien, Children&#039;s Bureau probablemente no lo llamar\u00e1 para hacerle esa solicitud, pero otra agencia podr\u00eda pedirle que considere aceptar una ubicaci\u00f3n fuera de sus especificaciones.<\/p>\n<p>Est\u00e1 perfectamente bien que usted diga \u201cno\u201d, porque sabe lo que puede manejar, sabe lo que est\u00e1 preparado para acomodar y lo \u00faltimo que usted, su agencia y los propios ni\u00f1os quieren es una interrupci\u00f3n. (ver <u>mi publicacion<\/u> sobre ese mismo tema). Si llevas la colocaci\u00f3n m\u00e1s all\u00e1 de lo que puedes soportar, es casi seguro que terminar\u00e1 en una disrupci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p>Ahora bien, siempre existe la posibilidad de que se reciba la llamada de colocaci\u00f3n \u201cperfecta\u201d pero el momento no sea el adecuado. Quiz\u00e1s te est\u00e9s preparando para irte de vacaciones; Claramente, ese no es el momento ideal para realizar una colocaci\u00f3n. Un ni\u00f1o necesitar\u00e1 tiempo para adaptarse y colocarlo en un centro de relevo durante sus vacaciones no ayudar\u00e1 en el proceso de adaptaci\u00f3n. Tampoco es exactamente justo ni ideal.<\/p>\n<p>Tal vez un miembro de la familia est\u00e9 enfermo, alguien cercano acaba de fallecer o la vida simplemente es m\u00e1s que una locura con los ni\u00f1os que ya est\u00e1n en su hogar. O tal vez acabas de reunificar una colocaci\u00f3n y necesitas dar un paso atr\u00e1s por un minuto para recuperar el aliento. Por todas esas razones, y m\u00e1s, est\u00e1 bien decir \u201cno\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>Esto no significa que su agencia no le volver\u00e1 a llamar. Te lo aseguro, lo har\u00e1n. Esto no quiere decir que piensen que eres dif\u00edcil o loco o que eres una p\u00e9rdida de tiempo para todos (digo todas estas cosas, porque durante mucho tiempo tuve miedo de que nos percibieran de esta manera\u2026 lo cual, resulta que\u2026 no fue as\u00ed). verdadero). Te valoran a ti y a tu lugar en este mundo del cuidado de crianza. Aprecian tus l\u00edmites (incluso si desear\u00edan que fueran m\u00e1s grandes), porque les ayuda a conocerte y saber que est\u00e1s evitando una interrupci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p>Est\u00e1 bien decir &quot;no&quot;.<\/p>\n<p>Atentamente,<\/p>\n<p>Kris<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Here\u2019s the thing\u2026this answer is going to be a different answer for everyone, but when should you say \u201cno\u201d to a possible placement? There are many, many, many reasons to say yes\u2026and for some of you, \u201cyes\u201d will always be the answer, because you have the capacity (emotionally and physically) to do so. 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