{"id":39568,"date":"2025-02-26T13:25:38","date_gmt":"2025-02-26T18:25:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/?p=39568"},"modified":"2025-03-06T14:03:47","modified_gmt":"2025-03-06T19:03:47","slug":"kris-corner-coping-mechanisms","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/es\/resources\/news-library\/kris-corner-coping-mechanisms\/","title":{"rendered":"El rinc\u00f3n de Kris: mecanismos de afrontamiento"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>As\u00ed que el sistema de acogida (y, honestamente, la vida en general) est\u00e1 lleno de una variedad de mecanismos de afrontamiento diferentes. Como padre de acogida, es posible que usted tambi\u00e9n tenga algunos (e incluso si no &quot;descubre&quot; que los tiene, es probable que los tenga... porque ser padre de acogida es dif\u00edcil y TODOS tenemos formas de lidiar con el estr\u00e9s).<\/p>\n<p>Pero no es precisamente de eso de lo que vine a hablar hoy. Me gustar\u00eda hablar de los mecanismos de afrontamiento que podemos observar en los ni\u00f1os bajo tutela y de c\u00f3mo *podr\u00edamos* ayudarlos a replantear esos h\u00e1bitos poco saludables para convertirlos en otros m\u00e1s \u00fatiles. No es seguro que podamos lograrlo, pero quer\u00eda brindarles algunos consejos y trucos para que, al menos, los intenten.<\/p>\n<p>Todos sabemos que los ni\u00f1os bajo tutela se enfrentan a una situaci\u00f3n incre\u00edblemente estresante\u2026 incluso m\u00e1s que ser padres de acogida (que tambi\u00e9n es estresante, como probablemente sepas): dejar atr\u00e1s todo y a todos los que conoces, posiblemente dejar atr\u00e1s todas tus pertenencias, vivir con completos desconocidos, ir a una nueva escuela, viajar con otro desconocido para ir y volver de las visitas a tu familia de origen, hablar con otros visitantes del hogar (ya sea semanal o mensualmente), estar separado de tus hermanos\u2026 y la lista podr\u00eda continuar. Esas son solo algunas de las cosas a las que un ni\u00f1o bajo tutela podr\u00eda enfrentarse.<\/p>\n<p>Como resultado de esos cambios repentinos en su vida, un ni\u00f1o puede estar (l\u00e9ase: lo m\u00e1s probable es que est\u00e9) de duelo, deprimido, ansioso o una combinaci\u00f3n de las tres cosas. Y aunque est\u00e9 pasando por tanta agitaci\u00f3n emocional, a menudo sigue habiendo un \u201cper\u00edodo de luna de miel\u201d en el nuevo hogar de acogida. El ni\u00f1o suele ser obediente, servicial, amable, respetuoso, etc. Esto tambi\u00e9n es un mecanismo de defensa, pero puede que no dure tanto como la siguiente etapa del duelo.<\/p>\n<p>Y estos sentimientos, como quiz\u00e1s sepas o no, pueden parecerse a muchas otras cosas (incluidas, entre otras, las siguientes):<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>negaci\u00f3n<\/li>\n<li>incredulidad<\/li>\n<li>tristeza<\/li>\n<li>vac\u00edo<\/li>\n<li>soledad (esto especialmente si no s\u00f3lo est\u00e1n separados de sus padres sino tambi\u00e9n de sus hermanos)<\/li>\n<li>Culpa (pueden sentirse responsables de alguna manera aunque no sea su culpa)<\/li>\n<li>enojo<\/li>\n<li>resentimiento<\/li>\n<li>miedo<\/li>\n<li>ansiedad<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Como ejemplo, en nuestra casa solemos utilizar la frase \u201cel enojo puede parecer tristeza\u201d. Durante mucho tiempo no pod\u00edamos entender por qu\u00e9 nuestro hijo se enojaba por ciertas cosas\u2026 hasta que un d\u00eda descubrimos (por accidente) que su \u201cenojo\u201d era, de hecho, \u201ctriste\u201d. Fue un cambio radical.<\/p>\n<p>Entonces, para acompa\u00f1ar esos sentimientos de dolor, depresi\u00f3n o ansiedad, aqu\u00ed hay algunos de los mecanismos de afrontamiento poco saludables que puede o no ver en su hijo (obviamente, hay m\u00e1s... esta claramente no es una lista exhaustiva):<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>empezar a fumar o fumar m\u00e1s,<\/li>\n<li>empezar a beber alcohol o beber m\u00e1s,<\/li>\n<li>empezar a tomar drogas o tomar m\u00e1s,<\/li>\n<li>juego,<\/li>\n<li>gastar dinero en exceso,<\/li>\n<li>robo,<\/li>\n<li>autolesi\u00f3n,<\/li>\n<li>restringir o darse atracones y purgarse de alimentos,<\/li>\n<li>comer en exceso,<\/li>\n<li>dormir demasiado o no lo suficiente,<\/li>\n<li>y sentirse impulsado a tener una \u201csubida de adrenalina\u201d con actividades peligrosas<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Ahora bien, no soy una experta, pero he le\u00eddo mucho sobre el trauma y he vivido con \u00e9l en mi casa durante m\u00e1s de 10 a\u00f1os. Pero mi recomendaci\u00f3n para ayudar a un ni\u00f1o a superar parte de su duelo es la Intervenci\u00f3n Relacional Basada en la Confianza (TBRI, por sus siglas en ingl\u00e9s). Si no est\u00e1s familiarizado con la TBRI, te sugiero que hagas un curso intensivo sobre ella. Algunas organizaciones ofrecen versiones abreviadas de la capacitaci\u00f3n. Puedes hacer la capacitaci\u00f3n completa de m\u00e1s de 7 horas directamente a trav\u00e9s del sitio web oficial si as\u00ed lo deseas. Puedes encontrar videos en YouTube que te ayudar\u00e1n a comprender mejor los principios b\u00e1sicos. Lee o escucha el audiolibro de \u201cThe Connected Child\u201d de David R. Cross, Karyn B. Purvis y Wendy Lyons Sunshine. Otra forma de abordar esto es utilizando algo llamado \u201ccrianza de baja demanda\u201d (que de hecho abordar\u00e9 en mi pr\u00f3xima publicaci\u00f3n, \u00a1as\u00ed que permanece atento para m\u00e1s informaci\u00f3n!).<\/p>\n<p>En resumen: priorice la relaci\u00f3n con el ni\u00f1o. Si el ni\u00f1o tiene dificultades, no lo empuje hacia su habitaci\u00f3n\u2026 ac\u00e9rquelo a usted (no necesariamente f\u00edsicamente, lo que podr\u00eda no ser apropiado para un ni\u00f1o que ha sufrido un trauma), pero mant\u00e9ngase cerca de \u00e9l\u2026 en la misma habitaci\u00f3n, el mismo sof\u00e1, etc. Involucrese con \u00e9l, en lugar de estar atento a su tel\u00e9fono (digo esto porque para muchos de nosotros, el tel\u00e9fono es nuestro mecanismo de defensa y si est\u00e1 tratando de ayudar a un ni\u00f1o a \u201cvolver a conectarse\u201d y regularse, si est\u00e1 sentado all\u00ed pero lo ignora, entonces no est\u00e1 ayudando\u2026 y posiblemente da\u00f1ando la relaci\u00f3n).<\/p>\n<p>Adem\u00e1s, considere la posibilidad de buscar un grupo de apoyo para su hijo. Es posible que no est\u00e9 preparado (al menos al principio) para hablar con un terapeuta, pero tal vez est\u00e9 dispuesto a hablar con otros ni\u00f1os que est\u00e9n en una situaci\u00f3n similar. Ayudarlo a ver y comprender que no est\u00e1 solo en su duelo puede ser muy beneficioso.<\/p>\n<p>S\u00e9 que apenas he ara\u00f1ado la superficie de esto y hay mucho m\u00e1s que podr\u00eda compartir... pero quer\u00eda darte un punto de partida desde el cual puedas hacer tu propia investigaci\u00f3n, dependiendo de lo que tu hijo te est\u00e9 mostrando que necesita.<\/p>\n<p>Atentamente,<\/p>\n<p>Kris<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>So foster care (and honestly life in general) is filled with a variety of different coping mechanisms. 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