{"id":39005,"date":"2025-02-12T15:01:45","date_gmt":"2025-02-12T20:01:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/?p=39005"},"modified":"2025-02-25T12:04:26","modified_gmt":"2025-02-25T17:04:26","slug":"kris-corner-grief-in-foster-care","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/es\/resources\/news-library\/kris-corner-grief-in-foster-care\/","title":{"rendered":"El rinc\u00f3n de Kris: El duelo en hogares de acogida"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Existen muchas razones por las que los padres de acogida pueden sentirse tristes (s\u00e9 que esto puede no ser muy convincente si est\u00e1s indeciso sobre si ser padre de acogida o no). Pero, en primer lugar, una familia de acogida puede sentirse triste cuando un ni\u00f1o que creen que se quedar\u00e1 para siempre termina reuni\u00e9ndose con su familia biol\u00f3gica. Para que quede claro: se celebra cuando un ni\u00f1o puede estar con su familia biol\u00f3gica, especialmente si esta puede mantener v\u00ednculos con la familia de acogida y utilizarla como apoyo en momentos de necesidad.<\/p>\n<p>Sin embargo, como mencion\u00e9, a veces puede ser devastador para una familia de acogida, especialmente si se trata de un hogar preadoptivo y el proceso de adopci\u00f3n ya estaba en marcha. Pero esa no es la intenci\u00f3n de mi blog de hoy. Hay otros tipos de dolor asociados con la acogida que me gustar\u00eda reconocer... y reafirmar si alguna vez has sentido alguno de ellos. Estos pueden incluir (pero no se limitan a) la siguiente lista:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Cuando consigues lo que quer\u00edas y un ni\u00f1o permanece bajo tu cuidado pero luego las cosas no resultan como pensabas (a menudo mucho m\u00e1s dif\u00edciles).<\/li>\n<li>Cuando crees que tienes una idea clara de cu\u00e1l es el diagn\u00f3stico (o los diagn\u00f3sticos) de un ni\u00f1o, pero resulta ser mucho m\u00e1s.<\/li>\n<li>Cuando un ni\u00f1o es mayor y entra a un hogar de acogida, crees que tienes una idea bastante clara de lo que est\u00e1 pasando... pero fue s\u00f3lo un per\u00edodo de luna de miel.<\/li>\n<li>Cuando un beb\u00e9 o un ni\u00f1o peque\u00f1o llega a su hogar, no sabr\u00e1 hasta que el ni\u00f1o crezca y madure para descubrir exactamente qu\u00e9 tipo de problemas, retrasos o diagn\u00f3sticos tiene.<\/li>\n<li>cuando los padres biol\u00f3gicos te acusan de abuso o negligencia.<\/li>\n<li>Cuando est\u00e1s abrumado por el cuidado de ni\u00f1os con traumas, pero la madre biol\u00f3gica de tu hogar tuvo otro beb\u00e9 y te pidi\u00f3 que los cuidaras.<\/li>\n<li>Cuando te metiste en esto para ayudar a ni\u00f1os de lugares dif\u00edciles y simplemente no es para nada como pensabas que ser\u00eda.<\/li>\n<li>Cuando sientes que te est\u00e1s golpeando la cabeza contra la pared y que no logras ning\u00fan progreso.<\/li>\n<li>Cuando incluso sientes que no s\u00f3lo NO est\u00e1s avanzando sino que, de hecho, est\u00e1s retrocediendo.<\/li>\n<li>Cuando es dif\u00edcil y es frustrante y decepcionante y desalentador.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Todo esto puede ser muy dif\u00edcil. Y el duelo por cualquiera de esas cosas es el tipo de duelo al que me refiero.<\/p>\n<p>Y muchas veces esto genera no solo sentimientos de dolor, sino tambi\u00e9n de remordimiento; eso puede ser realmente un lugar oscuro. Y cuando eso sucede, debes saber que no eres el \u00fanico que se siente as\u00ed; el dolor es absolutamente real y, aunque no todos lo entiendan (especialmente si no est\u00e1n en el mundo de hogares de acogida), eso no minimiza lo que est\u00e1s sintiendo.<\/p>\n<p>Cuando esos sentimientos y pensamientos persisten, DEBES buscar ayuda. Busca un grupo de apoyo. Llama a un amigo que te haya apoyado y comprendido durante tu paso por el sistema de acogida. Consigue un consejero (hay algunos consejeros realmente buenos disponibles virtualmente si no puedes ver a uno en persona o si tu agenda es limitada). No hay nada de qu\u00e9 avergonzarse... sin importar lo que otra persona pueda intentar decirte.<\/p>\n<p>Adem\u00e1s, si tu hijo es adoptado, puedes obtener ayuda a trav\u00e9s de los Servicios Post Adopci\u00f3n. Si se trata de un ni\u00f1o que todav\u00eda est\u00e1 bajo tutela, tu agencia (Firefly Children and Family Alliance) suele ser un recurso incre\u00edble para obtener ayuda. Pero otras veces, he descubierto que el dolor me golpea de repente y no es generalizado, sino que es un momento (o tal vez incluso un d\u00eda) en el que me siento deprimida, desanimada o pesimista... y para eso, tengo una sugerencia que puedo probar.<\/p>\n<p>No siempre ser\u00e1 la respuesta para todos y no me atrever\u00eda a sugerir que lo sea. Pero aqu\u00ed est\u00e1... alimento para la reflexi\u00f3n, al menos, para superar los momentos de dolor. Cuando siento que estoy al l\u00edmite de mis fuerzas, pongo un cron\u00f3metro para que suene unos minutos (quiz\u00e1s 10) y me permito lamentar el hecho de que las cosas no se ven como pensaba. Lloro un poco si lo necesito (lo hago a menudo), luego, cuando suena el cron\u00f3metro, me limpio la cara y sigo haciendo el trabajo que he estado haciendo.<\/p>\n<p>Ahora bien\u2026 \u00bfeso significa que todo se volvi\u00f3 m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil? No. \u00bfSiempre me ayuda a salir de mi estado de \u00e1nimo? No. \u00bfEl dolor que siento a veces es mayor que lo que puede ayudar esta estrategia de afrontamiento? S\u00ed. Pero a veces, simplemente tener esa liberaci\u00f3n emocional y reconocer lo que est\u00e1s sintiendo puede mejorar tu perspectiva y permitirte continuar con el importante y necesario trabajo de ser padre de acogida.<\/p>\n<p>Atentamente,<\/p>\n<p>Kris<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>So there are lots of reasons that foster parents might grieve (I know this might not be selling it if you are on the fence about being a foster parent). 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