{"id":9750,"date":"2021-09-09T18:13:10","date_gmt":"2021-09-09T18:13:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.childrensbureau.org\/?p=9750"},"modified":"2025-02-25T12:05:34","modified_gmt":"2025-02-25T17:05:34","slug":"kris-corner-family-connecting-activities","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/de\/resources\/news-library\/kris-corner-family-connecting-activities\/","title":{"rendered":"Kris&#039; Corner \u2013 Familien verbindende Aktivit\u00e4ten"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; admin_label=&#8221;section&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_row admin_label=&#8221;row&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;|||&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; custom_padding__hover=&#8221;|||&#8221;][et_pb_text admin_label=&#8221;Text&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.17.1&#8243; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221; hover_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; sticky_enabled=&#8221;0&#8243;]<\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"none\">Today I want to give you a few methods for improving connection and attachment within your family. There are lots of them out there and this is just a sprinkling. And\u2026to be perfectly honest\u2026these are great to use with almost anyone, not just kids from hard places, so feel free to use anywhere and as often as needed. All kids need bonding, and attachment strengthening activities will never be time wasted.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559685&quot;:0,&quot;335559731&quot;:0,&quot;335559737&quot;:0,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b><span data-contrast=\"none\">Slippery Slope<\/span><\/b>\u202fSlippery<span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0slope is usually done with younger children. In this activity, you put lotion on a child and then you pretend that their leg, arm, feet are slippery\u00a0slippery\u00a0slopes.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559685&quot;:0,&quot;335559731&quot;:0,&quot;335559737&quot;:0,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b><span data-contrast=\"none\">Scavenger Hunt<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0A scavenger hunt with kids is always lots of fun. There are many you can find online (and this way you can adjust your search to a specific topic or theme or age-level). Regardless of what it involves, a scavenger hunt gives everyone in the family an opportunity to look for things together and work toward a common goal. Just as an example of one my family does every year after Thanksgiving is a Christmas Lights Scavenger Hunt, in which we drive around and search for a whole long list of different kinds of Christmas lights. We actually made up our own list of things to search for, which is yet another activity the family can do together ahead of time.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559685&quot;:0,&quot;335559731&quot;:0,&quot;335559737&quot;:0,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b><span data-contrast=\"none\">Shared Painting\/Drawing\/Coloring<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u202fThis activity depends on the child, because some children get upset and feel as though others in the family are ruining their project. Point being: prior to embarking on this activity, discuss it with the child and determine if it would work with his temperament.\u202f\u00a0You may already know this one is off the table in your house, or you may not really be sure until you try it. But just a tip: if it does\u00a0\u201cgo South\u201d\u00a0so to speak, be prepared to abandon it and have another project waiting in the wings if at all possible.\u00a0<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559685&quot;:0,&quot;335559731&quot;:0,&quot;335559737&quot;:0,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"none\">But if you DO think a shared art project would work, here\u2019s kind of the general idea: whatever the project is (painting, coloring or drawing), set up a timer for 1 min, 30 seconds, or whatever the attention span is for the age group.\u202f\u00a0Have each person begin a picture. Once the timer goes off, move the pictures to the left; at this point, that person contributes to that picture in front of them, until the timer goes off. Keep the pictures moving until everyone has drawn\/painted, etc. on each picture and the owners get their pictures back.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559685&quot;:0,&quot;335559731&quot;:0,&quot;335559737&quot;:0,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b><span data-contrast=\"none\">Five Quick Questions<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0This is a fun\u00a0activity\u00a0to do at dinner\u00a0or in the car,\u00a0or\u00a0cut out\u00a0copies of the questions\u00a0and put into a jar\u00a0to\u00a0play like a game.\u00a0Here are a few to get you started, but you can always make up your own as well:<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559685&quot;:0,&quot;335559731&quot;:0,&quot;335559737&quot;:0,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"none\">Questions to ask kids about themselves:<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559685&quot;:0,&quot;335559731&quot;:0,&quot;335559737&quot;:0,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"2\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"1\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">What are you excited about right now?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ol>\n<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"2\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">What was your first thought when you woke up today?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ol>\n<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"2\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"3\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">What do you want to accomplish by your next birthday?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ol>\n<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"2\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"4\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">If you could be famous for one thing, what would it be?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ol>\n<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"2\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"5\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">What\u2019s the best thing about your life?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"none\">Questions to ask kids about their family and friends:<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559685&quot;:0,&quot;335559731&quot;:0,&quot;335559737&quot;:0,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"4\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"1\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">What\u2019s your favorite thing to do as a family?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ol>\n<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"4\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">What\u2019s something nice someone said to you lately?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ol>\n<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"4\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"3\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Who understands you the best?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ol>\n<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"4\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"4\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Who made you smile today?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ol>\n<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"4\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"5\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">What\u2019s your favorite thing to do with your friends?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"none\">Questions to ask kids about the world:<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559685&quot;:0,&quot;335559731&quot;:0,&quot;335559737&quot;:0,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"6\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"1\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Twenty years from now, where do you think you\u2019ll live?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ol>\n<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"6\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">What\u2019s the biggest problem in our world?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ol>\n<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"6\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"3\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">If you could give everybody in the world one piece of advice, what would you say?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ol>\n<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"6\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"4\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">If you could create one law that everybody on Earth had to follow, what would it be?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<ol>\n<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"6\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"5\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">If you could learn any language, what would you learn?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><b><span data-contrast=\"none\">The\u00a0\u201cYes\u201d\u00a0Jar<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0This activity requires some prep work on the part of the parent, but the benefits can definitely outweigh the work. To begin, here\u2019s what you need (feel free to omit anything from the list that you aren\u2019t willing to let your child have every time he asks):<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559685&quot;:0,&quot;335559731&quot;:0,&quot;335559737&quot;:0,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\u2022\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"8\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"1\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Large open mouth jar or container<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\u2022\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"8\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Small fidgets and stress balls<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\u2022\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"8\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"3\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Stickers\u00a0<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\u2022\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"8\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"4\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Temporary tattoos<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\u2022\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"8\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"5\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Healthy snacks like granola bars, nuts, fruit leather, or beef jerky<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\u2022\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"8\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"1\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Fun treats like cookies, suckers, or gum<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\u2022\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"8\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Coupons for connecting activities such as playing a game with mom\/dad, a back rub, etc.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\u2022\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"8\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"3\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Popsicle sticks with the names of fridge items such as cheese sticks, fruit, or veggie<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li data-leveltext=\"\u2022\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"8\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"4\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Whatever else you are willing to say yes to ANYTIME your child asks<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"none\">Once you fill your jar, tell your child about it and be willing to say yes anytime he asks. The point of this activity is that by hearing more\u00a0\u201cyeses\u201d, children from hard places will learn to trust the adults they are with; I know it seems backwards, but actually by saying yes more often,\u00a0we help\u00a0the\u00a0child\u00a0accept our no more easily.\u00a0<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559685&quot;:0,&quot;335559731&quot;:0,&quot;335559737&quot;:0,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"none\">The Yes Jar does, sometimes, need to have parameters. For instance, the jar might be filled each evening when the child goes to bed and once it is empty the next day, then it\u2019s empty for the rest of that day.\u00a0 Or maybe he can\u2019t ask for anything after dinner, or before dinner or whatever you decide to set as your rules\u2026\u2026but try not to set too many boundaries because then it becomes yet another battleground in your home. The rules are fine, so long as you say\u00a0yes,\u00a0any other time the child asks.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559685&quot;:0,&quot;335559731&quot;:0,&quot;335559737&quot;:0,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"none\">FYI be prepared at the beginning to spend a little more money on this at first because\u00a0the child will\u00a0ask for something from the jar OFTEN. He wants to see if you will really say\u00a0yes,\u00a0EVERY time, but as he begins to trust that you will really say\u00a0\u201cyes\u201d, you will see the asking slow down.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559685&quot;:0,&quot;335559731&quot;:0,&quot;335559737&quot;:0,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b><span data-contrast=\"none\">Just Playing<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0This seems so simple but just playing with your kids. Even 5 minutes a day can work to build a healthy connection with\u00a0a\u00a0child. Playing a game, or just playing what he wants to play. Child directed play is great too; it allows for insight into how a\u00a0child thinks, builds trust and helps to exhibit shared power by allowing the child to\u00a0\u201cdirect the ship\u201d.\u00a0\u202f<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559685&quot;:0,&quot;335559731&quot;:0,&quot;335559737&quot;:0,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"none\">So,\u00a0as I said\u2026this is not a complete or thorough list by any means\u2026simply a list to get you thinking about the ways you connect with your child and how you can use those moments together to bring healing and attachment. And I want to give a huge\u00a0\u201cThank You!\u201d\u00a0To Jamila Nwokorie at Children\u2019s Bureau for all her advice and insight to put together this post.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559685&quot;:0,&quot;335559731&quot;:0,&quot;335559737&quot;:0,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"none\">Sincerely,<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559685&quot;:0,&quot;335559731&quot;:0,&quot;335559737&quot;:0,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"none\">Kris<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:false,&quot;134233118&quot;:false,&quot;201341983&quot;:0,&quot;335551550&quot;:1,&quot;335551620&quot;:1,&quot;335559685&quot;:0,&quot;335559731&quot;:0,&quot;335559737&quot;:0,&quot;335559740&quot;:259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Today I want to give you a few methods for improving connection and attachment within your family. There are lots of them out there and this is just a sprinkling. And\u2026to be perfectly honest\u2026these are great to use with almost anyone, not just kids from hard places, so feel free to use anywhere and as [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":19,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":"<span data-contrast=\"none\">Today I want to give you a few methods for improving connection and attachment within your family. There are lots of them out there and this is just a sprinkling. And\u2026to be perfectly honest\u2026these are great to use with almost anyone, not just kids from hard places, so feel free to use anywhere and as often as needed. All kids need bonding, and attachment strengthening activities will never be time wasted.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559685\":0,\"335559731\":0,\"335559737\":0,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span>\r\n\r\n<b><span data-contrast=\"none\">Slippery Slope\u202fSlippery<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0slope is usually done with younger children. In this activity, you put lotion on a child and then you pretend that their leg, arm, feet are slippery\u00a0slippery\u00a0slopes.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559685\":0,\"335559731\":0,\"335559737\":0,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span>\r\n\r\n<b><span data-contrast=\"none\">Scavenger Hunt<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0A scavenger hunt with kids is always lots of fun. There are many you can find online (and this way you can adjust your search to a specific topic or theme or age-level). Regardless of what it involves, a scavenger hunt gives everyone in the family an opportunity to look for things together and work toward a common goal. Just as an example of one my family does every year after Thanksgiving is a Christmas Lights Scavenger Hunt, in which we drive around and search for a whole long list of different kinds of Christmas lights. We actually made up our own list of things to search for, which is yet another activity the family can do together ahead of time.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559685\":0,\"335559731\":0,\"335559737\":0,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span>\r\n\r\n<b><span data-contrast=\"none\">Shared Painting\/Drawing\/Coloring<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u202fThis activity depends on the child, because some children get upset and feel as though others in the family are ruining their project. Point being: prior to embarking on this activity, discuss it with the child and determine if it would work with his temperament.\u202f\u00a0You may already know this one is off the table in your house, or you may not really be sure until you try it. But just a tip: if it does\u00a0\u201cgo South\u201d\u00a0so to speak, be prepared to abandon it and have another project waiting in the wings if at all possible.\u00a0<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559685\":0,\"335559731\":0,\"335559737\":0,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span>\r\n\r\n<span data-contrast=\"none\">But if you DO think a shared art project would work, here\u2019s kind of the general idea: whatever the project is (painting, coloring or drawing), set up a timer for 1 min, 30 seconds, or whatever the attention span is for the age group.\u202f\u00a0Have each person begin a picture. Once the timer goes off, move the pictures to the left; at this point, that person contributes to that picture in front of them, until the timer goes off. Keep the pictures moving until everyone has drawn\/painted, etc. on each picture and the owners get their pictures back.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559685\":0,\"335559731\":0,\"335559737\":0,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span>\r\n\r\n<b><span data-contrast=\"none\">Five Quick Questions<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0This is a fun\u00a0activity\u00a0to do at dinner\u00a0or in the car,\u00a0or\u00a0cut out\u00a0copies of the questions\u00a0and put into a jar\u00a0to\u00a0play like a game.\u00a0Here are a few to get you started, but you can always make up your own as well:<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559685\":0,\"335559731\":0,\"335559737\":0,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span>\r\n\r\n<span data-contrast=\"none\">Questions to ask kids about themselves:<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559685\":0,\"335559731\":0,\"335559737\":0,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span>\r\n<ol>\r\n \t<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"2\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"1\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">What are you excited about right now?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n<ol>\r\n \t<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"2\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">What was your first thought when you woke up today?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n<ol>\r\n \t<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"2\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"3\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">What do you want to accomplish by your next birthday?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n<ol>\r\n \t<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"2\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"4\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">If you could be famous for one thing, what would it be?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n<ol>\r\n \t<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"2\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"5\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">What\u2019s the best thing about your life?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n<span data-contrast=\"none\">Questions to ask kids about their family and friends:<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559685\":0,\"335559731\":0,\"335559737\":0,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span>\r\n<ol>\r\n \t<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"4\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"1\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">What\u2019s your favorite thing to do as a family?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n<ol>\r\n \t<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"4\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">What\u2019s something nice someone said to you lately?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n<ol>\r\n \t<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"4\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"3\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Who understands you the best?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n<ol>\r\n \t<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"4\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"4\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Who made you smile today?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n<ol>\r\n \t<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"4\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"5\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">What\u2019s your favorite thing to do with your friends?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n<span data-contrast=\"none\">Questions to ask kids about the world:<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559685\":0,\"335559731\":0,\"335559737\":0,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span>\r\n<ol>\r\n \t<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"6\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"1\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Twenty years from now, where do you think you\u2019ll live?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n<ol>\r\n \t<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"6\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">What\u2019s the biggest problem in our world?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n<ol>\r\n \t<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"6\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"3\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">If you could give everybody in the world one piece of advice, what would you say?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n<ol>\r\n \t<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"6\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"4\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">If you could create one law that everybody on Earth had to follow, what would it be?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n<ol>\r\n \t<li data-leveltext=\"%1.\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"6\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"5\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">If you could learn any language, what would you learn?<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n<\/ol>\r\n<b><span data-contrast=\"none\">The\u00a0\u201cYes\u201d\u00a0Jar<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0This activity requires some prep work on the part of the parent, but the benefits can definitely outweigh the work. To begin, here\u2019s what you need (feel free to omit anything from the list that you aren\u2019t willing to let your child have every time he asks):<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559685\":0,\"335559731\":0,\"335559737\":0,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span>\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li data-leveltext=\"\u2022\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"8\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"1\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Large open mouth jar or container<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n \t<li data-leveltext=\"\u2022\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"8\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Small fidgets and stress balls<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n \t<li data-leveltext=\"\u2022\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"8\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"3\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Stickers\u00a0<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n \t<li data-leveltext=\"\u2022\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"8\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"4\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Temporary tattoos<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n \t<li data-leveltext=\"\u2022\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"8\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"5\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Healthy snacks like granola bars, nuts, fruit leather, or beef jerky<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li data-leveltext=\"\u2022\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"8\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"1\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Fun treats like cookies, suckers, or gum<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n \t<li data-leveltext=\"\u2022\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"8\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"2\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Coupons for connecting activities such as playing a game with mom\/dad, a back rub, etc.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n \t<li data-leveltext=\"\u2022\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"8\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"3\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Popsicle sticks with the names of fridge items such as cheese sticks, fruit, or veggie<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n \t<li data-leveltext=\"\u2022\" data-font=\"Calibri, Calibri_MSFontService, sans-serif\" data-listid=\"8\" aria-setsize=\"-1\" data-aria-posinset=\"4\" data-aria-level=\"1\"><span data-contrast=\"none\">Whatever else you are willing to say yes to ANYTIME your child asks<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<span data-contrast=\"none\">Once you fill your jar, tell your child about it and be willing to say yes anytime he asks. The point of this activity is that by hearing more\u00a0\u201cyeses\u201d, children from hard places will learn to trust the adults they are with; I know it seems backwards, but actually by saying yes more often,\u00a0we help\u00a0the\u00a0child\u00a0accept our no more easily.\u00a0<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559685\":0,\"335559731\":0,\"335559737\":0,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span>\r\n\r\n<span data-contrast=\"none\">The Yes Jar does, sometimes, need to have parameters. For instance, the jar might be filled each evening when the child goes to bed and once it is empty the next day, then it\u2019s empty for the rest of that day.\u00a0 Or maybe he can\u2019t ask for anything after dinner, or before dinner or whatever you decide to set as your rules\u2026\u2026but try not to set too many boundaries because then it becomes yet another battleground in your home. The rules are fine, so long as you say\u00a0yes,\u00a0any other time the child asks.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559685\":0,\"335559731\":0,\"335559737\":0,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span>\r\n\r\n<span data-contrast=\"none\">FYI be prepared at the beginning to spend a little more money on this at first because\u00a0the child will\u00a0ask for something from the jar OFTEN. He wants to see if you will really say\u00a0yes,\u00a0EVERY time, but as he begins to trust that you will really say\u00a0\u201cyes\u201d, you will see the asking slow down.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559685\":0,\"335559731\":0,\"335559737\":0,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span>\r\n\r\n<b><span data-contrast=\"none\">Just Playing<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"none\">\u00a0This seems so simple but just playing with your kids. Even 5 minutes a day can work to build a healthy connection with\u00a0a\u00a0child. Playing a game, or just playing what he wants to play. Child directed play is great too; it allows for insight into how a\u00a0child thinks, builds trust and helps to exhibit shared power by allowing the child to\u00a0\u201cdirect the ship\u201d.\u00a0\u202f<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559685\":0,\"335559731\":0,\"335559737\":0,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span>\r\n\r\n<span data-contrast=\"none\">So,\u00a0as I said\u2026this is not a complete or thorough list by any means\u2026simply a list to get you thinking about the ways you connect with your child and how you can use those moments together to bring healing and attachment. And I want to give a huge\u00a0\u201cThank You!\u201d\u00a0To Jamila Nwokorie at Children\u2019s Bureau for all her advice and insight to put together this post.<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559685\":0,\"335559731\":0,\"335559737\":0,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span>\r\n\r\n<span data-contrast=\"none\">Sincerely,<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559685\":0,\"335559731\":0,\"335559737\":0,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span>\r\n\r\n<span data-contrast=\"none\">Kris<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{\"134233117\":false,\"134233118\":false,\"201341983\":0,\"335551550\":1,\"335551620\":1,\"335559685\":0,\"335559731\":0,\"335559737\":0,\"335559740\":259}\">\u00a0<\/span>","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[10],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-9750","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-kriss-corner"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.3 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/product\/yoast-seo-wordpress\/ -->\n<title>Kris&#039; Corner- Family Connecting Activities - Firefly Children and Family Alliance<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/de\/resources\/news-library\/kris-corner-family-connecting-activities\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"de_DE\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Kris&#039; Corner- Family Connecting Activities - Firefly Children and Family Alliance\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Today I want to give you a few methods for improving connection and attachment within your family. 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