{"id":8979,"date":"2020-11-25T21:05:56","date_gmt":"2020-11-25T21:05:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.childrensbureau.org\/?p=8979"},"modified":"2025-02-25T12:06:21","modified_gmt":"2025-02-25T17:06:21","slug":"kris-corner-when-to-say-no","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fireflyin.org\/de\/resources\/news-library\/kris-corner-when-to-say-no\/","title":{"rendered":"Kris&#039; Corner \u2013 Wann man Nein sagen sollte"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Hier ist die Sache \u2026 diese Antwort wird f\u00fcr jeden eine andere sein, aber wann sollten Sie \u201eNein\u201c zu einer m\u00f6glichen Platzierung sagen? Es gibt viele, viele, viele Gr\u00fcnde, \u201eJa\u201c zu sagen \u2026 und f\u00fcr einige von Ihnen wird \u201eJa\u201c immer die Antwort sein, weil Sie die F\u00e4higkeit (emotional und k\u00f6rperlich) dazu haben.<\/p>\n<p>Aber manchmal muss man \u201eNein\u201c sagen. Um eine kluge Entscheidung zu treffen, und insbesondere wenn Sie einen Pers\u00f6nlichkeitstyp wie ich haben, m\u00fcssen Sie klare Grenzen hinsichtlich der Art der Platzierung haben, die Sie annehmen m\u00f6chten und k\u00f6nnen.<\/p>\n<p>Wie ich oben angedeutet habe, sind manche Menschen sehr offen und bereit und in der Lage, praktisch jede Art von Praktikum anzunehmen \u2026 und ich sage: \u201eGott segne sie!\u201c Das ist einfach unglaublich!\u201c<\/p>\n<p>Aber ich glaube, dass die meisten von uns \u00fcber ein tiefes Ma\u00df an F\u00e4higkeiten verf\u00fcgen und Grenzen setzen m\u00fcssen \u2013 sowohl f\u00fcr uns selbst als auch f\u00fcr die Agentur.<\/p>\n<p>Wenn Sie beispielsweise Parameter festgelegt haben, die Folgendes besagen:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Maximal 2 Kinder<\/li>\n<li>Nur f\u00fcr Jungen<\/li>\n<li>Nur f\u00fcr Kinder im Alter von 5\u201312 Jahren<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Aber Sie erhalten einen Anruf mit der dringenden Unterbringung eines Jungen und zweier M\u00e4dchen, alle unter 4 Jahren ... Nehmen Sie keine Unterbringung vor! (Das ist meine Erfahrung, die hier ins Spiel kommt ... Ich wei\u00df, wovon ich spreche!)<\/p>\n<p>Das Kinderb\u00fcro w\u00fcrde Sie wahrscheinlich nicht mit einer solchen Anfrage anrufen, aber eine andere Agentur k\u00f6nnte Sie bitten, einen Praktikumsplatz in Betracht zu ziehen, der nicht Ihren Vorgaben entspricht.<\/p>\n<p>Es ist vollkommen in Ordnung, wenn Sie \u201eNein\u201c sagen, denn Sie wissen, womit Sie zurechtkommen, Sie wissen, worauf Sie eingestellt sind, und das Letzte, was Sie, Ihre Agentur UND die Kinder selbst wollen, ist eine St\u00f6rung (sehen <u>mein Post<\/u> zu genau diesem Thema). Wenn Sie die Platzierung \u00fcber das hinausgehen, was Sie ertragen k\u00f6nnen, wird es mit ziemlicher Sicherheit zu St\u00f6rungen kommen.<\/p>\n<p>Nun besteht immer die M\u00f6glichkeit, dass der \u201eperfekte\u201c Platzierungsaufruf eingeht, aber der Zeitpunkt v\u00f6llig falsch ist. Vielleicht bereiten Sie sich gerade darauf vor, in den Urlaub zu fahren; Offensichtlich ist das kein idealer Zeitpunkt f\u00fcr ein Praktikum. Ein Kind braucht Zeit, um sich einzugew\u00f6hnen, und die Unterbringung in einer Kurzzeitbetreuung w\u00e4hrend Ihres Urlaubs wird den Eingew\u00f6hnungsprozess nicht erleichtern. Es ist auch nicht gerade fair oder ideal.<\/p>\n<p>Vielleicht ist ein Familienmitglied krank, jemand, der Ihnen nahesteht, ist gerade verstorben oder das Leben ist einfach nur verr\u00fcckt, wenn die Kinder bereits bei Ihnen zu Hause sind. Oder vielleicht haben Sie gerade ein Praktikum hinter sich und m\u00fcssen einen Moment innehalten, um zu Atem zu kommen. Aus all diesen und weiteren Gr\u00fcnden ist es in Ordnung, \u201eNein\u201c zu sagen.<\/p>\n<p>Dies bedeutet nicht, dass Ihre Agentur Sie nicht erneut anrufen wird. Ich versichere Ihnen, das werden sie. Das bedeutet nicht, dass sie dich f\u00fcr schwierig oder verr\u00fcckt halten oder f\u00fcr eine Zeitverschwendung f\u00fcr alle (ich sage das alles, weil ich lange Zeit Angst davor hatte, dass wir so wahrgenommen werden \u2026 was, wie sich herausstellte, nicht der Fall war WAHR). Sie sch\u00e4tzen Sie und Ihren Platz in dieser Pflegewelt. Sie sch\u00e4tzen Ihre Grenzen (auch wenn sie sich w\u00fcnschen, diese w\u00e4ren gr\u00f6\u00dfer), weil sie dadurch Sie kennen lernen und wissen, dass Sie St\u00f6rungen vermeiden.<\/p>\n<p>Es ist in Ordnung, \u201eNein\u201c zu sagen.<\/p>\n<p>Aufrichtig,<\/p>\n<p>Kris<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Here\u2019s the thing\u2026this answer is going to be a different answer for everyone, but when should you say \u201cno\u201d to a possible placement? 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