I know that the topic of self-care is a hot button issue. Everybody\u2019s talking about self-care, make sure you do your self-care, self-care, self-care, self-care. And honestly, it made me mad for a long time because I felt like I was taking care of myself. Get off my back already! But when I really stopped and looked around, I realized that I was really taking care of other people and squeezing in things for myself if possible (and rarely was it possible).<\/p>\n
But I have realized, as I have taken a step back and tried to do things just for me, that it IS important. I\u2019ve touched on this in other posts, but I feel that it warrants being reiterated: it\u2019s very easy to lose yourself when you\u2019re on the foster care and adoption journey. At least it was for me. I was so wrapped up in trying to fix\/help my child that I lost all sense and sight of who I was and what I enjoyed.<\/p>\n
I used to love doing crafts and taking aerobics and reading. And then once I delved into this world, most of that stopped. I felt like I couldn\u2019t justify the time because when I wasn\u2019t caring for a traumatized child, I had to do other things to keep the house running. I grew up in a very clean and tidy home and felt like that was the expectation everyone had of me as well. And it was the expectation I had of myself. I thought I had to cook dinner every single night, and felt guilty if I threw in a frozen pizza.<\/p>\n
I don\u2019t know if it\u2019s the passage of time, perspective, or just that I\u2019m really tired\u2026but I finally realized I needed to find myself again. And I don\u2019t know if that\u2019s exactly what self-care is, but it is for me.<\/p>\n
Some of this might resonate with you and some of it might not, but here\u2019s a sampling of some of the changes I\u2019ve made over the past couple years and because of them, I feel so much more liberated and like myself. And I also realized that my family is in no way suffering because I am taking care of myself as well. In fact, they\u2019re probably doing better because I don\u2019t always try to do everything for them.<\/p>\n
So, here\u2019s my list of some of my changes, in no particular order:<\/p>\n
Like I said, your list might look vastly different from mine and that\u2019s totally fine. Like I said, some people might not consider this self-care, but at the very least it\u2019s an attempt to find my way back to myself, and maybe you might find yourself along the way as well.<\/p>\n
Sincerely,<\/p>\n
Kris<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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